Sunday, September 15, 2019
[Classic post from 4-15-15]
Here's some love for you today:
"We would like you to release the word "achieve" or "earn" from your vocabulary and from your understanding, altogether, and we would like you to replace those words with the word "allow". You're wanting to allow your Well-Being, not achieve it. It's not something that you need to earn. All you have to do is decide what it is you would like to experience, and then allow it in order to achieve it. It isn't something you have to struggle for or try for. You are all worthy beings. You are deserving of the Well-Being."
-- Abraham, Esther Hicks, July 8th, 2000
Struggle? What's that? I'm Allowing.
Spread Some Joy Today--Relax.
Saturday, September 14, 2019
"Death can come at any minute, in any way.
We do not know what is in store tomorrow,
or, whether there is a tomorrow,
or even a tonight!
But still, we have the golden present.
Now we are alive and kicking.
What should we do now?
Love all, serve all."
-- Sri Swami Satchidananda
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-11-19]
This is good advice to remember often. I would add one more thing: Enjoy yourself and enjoy your time.
Steve Jobs said, "My favorite things in life don't cost any money. It's really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time."
Is there really a time where being upset, angry, especially at a loved one, worth it? I have learned that it isn't worth anything.
How about all the stuff? I was looking through an old trunk today which had things from back in the '70s and beyond. There was a list of possessions that I made, and I had a value next to each one. I was in the Air Force in 1971 and living in a trailer off base and this list had no furniture on it because we didn't own any. The entire list was valued at what we paid for it, not what it was worth. Even so, it was less than $1200, and two guitars and an amp was $825 of the total.
When I look at what I own today that is all so silly, and yet what I own today means almost nothing in comparison to living and enjoying life. Some of the things I own can add to that enjoyment, but most do not. They are just things and they are there.
I'm listening to a wonderful new album, Cool Waters, by a Swedish acoustic guitarist named Martin Tallstrom and I am in bliss just listening to this beautiful musicianship. The smile on my whole face says so. That is worth it.
What is worth it to you? More stuff? I doubt it.
I recommend enjoying your time whether you are at work or at home or wherever you happen to be. I recommend loving your loved ones like there's no tomorrow because there might not be one. Love. Serve. Enjoy.
Have A Blessed Weekend. Allow Joy To Wash Over You.
Spread Some Joy Today--by being present right now.
Friday, September 13, 2019
"When you listen generously to people
they can hear the truth in themselves,
often for the first time."
-- Rachel Naomi Remen
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-10-15]
I like to talk sometimes, but something I've really opened myself up to in the last number of years is listening intently. I learn from talking and I learn much more by listening.
In today's fast-paced world, it is common to multitask, almost as if it is required of us. This often causes us to listen superficially because we are thinking about other things, like what we're going to be doing next, our next appointment and what time it is, what I'm wanting to eat for lunch or dinner, what we want to say next, and a very long list of other trivia that keeps us from listening intently.
Karl A Menninger said, "Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand."
When I have the opportunity to talk and share some ideas, often those thoughts are forming, ideas are forming right then. They might even be things I haven't thought about quite that way, and so the act of talking is a creative thing too--IF, someone is actually listening with interest. If they are not, I may as well be home alone talking to the wall. However, just like a performer can excel as never before because they have an attentive audience, my own ideas and thoughts excel when I have one too. Even when it is only one person.
At the same time, I love listening. Or, I should say, I have grown to love to listen to other people talking, sharing ideas, and their own thoughts. I have had many great conversations where I said almost nothing, and certainly nothing memorable. They say a conversation should be two ways. Well, the best two ways is one talking and one listening fully. That completes a conversation. If you want to take turns, that's okay too.
If you think that you have not been a good listener, and you know who you are, try this. Try listening intently with anyone who talks with you today. Maybe try it for a couple of days. Watch what happens. They will think you're a great conversationalist. At the very least, watch how good it makes the other person feel. It's an amazing lesson.
If you're in customer service or sales, try really listening. Ask a few questions here and there to get them to expand further and watch what happens. I think you will be amazed.
"The Best Gurus Are Disguised As Regular People." -- Alan Cohen
Spread Some Joy Today--by listening well and fully.
Thursday, September 12, 2019
"No matter what "they," say,
and no matter what they do,
and no matter what
they don't say or don't do,
they actually love you.
I know because they told me.
I love you,"
-- a.k.a. Mike Dooley
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-12-15]
Mike Dooley has been pretending to be the Universe for a long time. I've been getting his 5-day a week emails for many years, and they are all good. Then, once in a while one really gets me thinking, like the one above.
I received this one on Friday morning, and I couldn't get the thought out of my head that everyone on the planet loves me.
Think about it. What if everyone on the planet loves you? That would include so-called terrorists, crooks, and all manner of "bad guys." Of course it for sure includes everyone you know. This was a fascinating thought for me.
What if we are all living in our own dream of our own creation? I think we are.
What if we were completely certain that every person on this planet actually did love us? Would you act differently? Would you look at everyone outside of you differently? Would you be more loving by knowing this regardless of how they might seem to be acting right now? These and many others were questions I was asking myself all day Friday and into Saturday.
I think we only act the way we do, respond the way we do, say thing things we say (whether in our mind or aloud), because we don't think much about the possibility of them loving us, except, of course, those in our inner circle.
Even though we may be dealing with someone who is obviously angry and upset with us, saying nasty things, or just being a pain in the ass, wouldn't it be so interesting if we saw through all of that, knowing full well that underneath that facade, they loved us unconditionally?
We might also consider the opposite. What if we actually loved everyone on the planet?
It Might Be Fun To Think This Way For A Few Days And Try It Out. It May Be A Game Changer.
Spread Some Joy Today--This would be one way of spreading joy!
Wednesday, September 11, 2019
"The most valuable possession
you can own
is an open heart.
The most powerful weapon
you can be
is an instrument of peace."
-- Carlos Santana
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-8-15]
I am a work in progress. Except it is better to say a play in progress, because who likes work?
I had a dream early this morning, and in it, I was asked, "why are you so happy?" The answer is easy and I can put it in one short sentence: I let go of the rope.
That's it. I just let go of the struggle, the concerns, the worries. Abraham says that "Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don't want." Wow. Isn't that spot on!
Yet, to define it just a bit more, I've made peace with where I am. This quote by Abraham, Esther Hicks spells it out accurately: "When we say to you, make peace with where you are, we want you to make peace with where everyone is; we want you to make peace with the world events; we want you to make peace with where your friend is in relationship with where your friend wants to be. We want it to be all right with you where anybody is."
This last paragraph is easily one of the most powerful things I have ever learned. I make peace with where I am, wherever I am, doing what I do. I have become an allower. It is what I came here to learn and to teach: Allow people and circumstances to be what they are without any concern that I need to join them where they are. I choose what I focus on, and allow them to do the same. This is also the same thing as unconditional love.
As a result of these things, I have a different view of the world around me. I don't plug into things like I used to. I don't pay any attention to what is going on in the world, or what other people are upset about. I don't join groups that fight things. I do my best not to push against anything at all. I simply refuse to participate in things that are all about resistance. I don't talk about illness or diseases, or terrorism, or politics of any kind, or religion even. I'm not blind to the news, but I pay no real attention to it. Getting upset about anything doesn't serve me at all. So, I just let all that be and let others get as upset as they choose, and I am okay with all of that.
Yet, the number one thing that has caused me to seem so happy is that I've changed my entire idea and definition of success. It used to be something that I thought was all about money or lining up with a certain number. I used to chase it everywhere I went, then I simply changed my definition and now allow success to wash over me. My definition now matches this Abraham, Esther Hicks statement:
"The standard of success in life isn't the things. It isn't the money or the stuff. It is absolutely the amount of joy that you feel."
I've now had more joy in my life in the last 5 years than all of the 60 years previous to that. I see no end to it and it is expanding, becoming more joyous all the time. There are thousands of levels of joy. I'm tasting them all.
To recap, why am I so happy: 1. I changed my definition of success in life, what is important, what I want most. It is joy. 2. I let go of the rope. I don't worry or fret much at all about anything. and, 3. I allow others, the world, circumstances, and events to be what they are. I allow others to choose whatever they choose without me being concerned about their choices. I've made peace with where I am and with the world.
Oh, And One More: I Practice It Every Single Day, All Day Long. It Is Joy To Simply Practice These Things.
Spread Some Joy Today--by deciding that joy is important to you. Choose what you will. I choose joy.
Tuesday, September 10, 2019
"The only real value of competition
is the challenge it may present
that causes excitement within us.
This then causes us to become more creative."
-- Albert K. Strong
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-7-15]
Some people are afraid of competition. They might think that someone else or several others are coming in and taking over and that they are going to lose ground, lose business, be driven out of business, or otherwise be damaged by others in the same market doing the same or very similar things. Some then focus on that and do whatever they can to fight the competition, to beat them, to drive them back. And, it is usually to no avail. It's sort of like fighting life itself.
If only those would let go of the fear and see the value based on the quote above. The so-called competition can cause excitement in us, get our juices flowing, and cause us to become creative again, or from a life point of view, to come to life again. The ultimate value of that is growth--becoming more than you were before. If this could be your view of the idea of competition, then competition is a wonderful thing indeed.
It's all about abundance and whether we see and experience abundance or lack of abundance called scarcity--as in not enough to go around. It's whether we see a limited pie that we are trying to get our share of or a larger share of, or whether we simply help create a larger pie so there is enough for all who desire it. It's about where we choose to focus, or our point of view.
In all of the hundreds of books I have read, Esther & Jerry Hicks' book, Money and the Law of Attraction is my top favorite. My copy is so marked up with notes and highlights, paper clips and sticky notes because it is simply a wealth of wisdom and knowledge to help us find that perspective of abundance and so much more. As well, it is about so much more than money. Here are some tidbits on abundance, work effort and more:
"Many people focus upon unwanted things, with no deliberate attention to the emotional Guidance within them, and then they try to compensate for their lackful thinking with physical action. And because of the misalignment of Energy, they do not get results from their action, so then they try harder by offering more action, but still, things do not improve.
Like the air you breathe, abundance in all things is available to you. Your life will simply be as good as you allow it to be.
If you believe that you must work hard for the abundance that comes to you, then it cannot come without hard work. But in so many cases, the harder you work, the worse you feel, and the worse you feel, the more you disallow the results that you wanted to receive from your hard work. It is no wonder so many people are discouraged and do not know which way to turn, for it seems that no matter what they do, they do not thrive.
Appreciation and love, and alignment to that which is Source is the ultimate "giving back," so to speak. In your pain or struggle, you have nothing to give back. Many complain of unfairness or injustice when they see some people receiving greatly but offering seemingly little effort, while others who work very hard often show very little success--but the Law of Attraction is always consistently just. What you are living is always an exact replication of your vibrational patterns of thought. Nothing could be more fair than life as you are living it, for as you are thinking, you are vibrating, and as you are vibrating, you are attracting--and so you are always getting back the essence of what you are giving.
The majority of action that is offered today is offered amidst tremendous vibrational resistance, and that is the reason why so many people have come to believe that life is a struggle. It is also the reason why many believe that success and freedom are at odds with one another, when, in reality, they are actually synonymous. It is not necessary to take money out of the equation, but it is necessary that you make your quest for joy be the most dominant part of your equation. When you do that, abundance in all manner will flow to you."
"Seek Joy First, And All Of The Growth That You Could Ever Imagine Will Come Joyously And Abundantly Unto You." -- Abraham, Esther Hicks
Spread Some Joy Today--Absolutely.
Monday, September 9, 2019
happiness doesn't depend upon
who you are or what you have,
it depends solely upon
what you think."
-- Dale Carnegie
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-6-15]
I was looking through many of what is now tens of thousands of quotes that I've saved and printed over the years for a bit of inspiration to write today. I found two things. One is the perfectly stated quote above by the man who pretty much started the self-help genre, or at least was its leader, Dale Carnegie, who's most famous book first published in 1936 is still a large seller today: How to Win Friends and Influence People.
The subject of happiness is interesting in that so many people are looking for it outside of themselves. One of my favorite authors, Alan Cohen, says, "Seeking is not the same as finding. Seeking engenders more seeking, and finding engenders more finding. The end of seeking is finding. Not because it just happens. Because you choose." Seeking happiness is a total waste of time and energy. Finding happiness is so easy. You simply choose it. You choose to be happy. You choose thoughts that cause you to feel happy. It costs nothing, nor does it take any effort.
I was reading over another short piece from Alan Cohen where he was talking about the movie, Legally Blonde, a favorite of mine. Toward the end of the movie, Elle Woods ends up as the defense student-lawyer for Brooke whose claim to fame was having a fitness studio in Los Angeles. So, Elle says to the daughter on the witness stand, "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands. They just don't."
Alan Cohen adds this: "People who are happy don't need to hurt anyone else. They feel good enough that they don't give the power of their joy away to others and then grow angry when others do not fulfill their needs. Happy people find the source of their joy inside themselves and free others from the responsibility to make them happy."
He continues, "Take a few moments today to consider if you have given your power away to someone by defining him or her as the source of your happiness. Then consider how good it would feel to be happy no matter what that person says or does. Behold the door to true freedom."
Make Your Own Individual Choice About How You Will Feel In Every Minute Of Every Day.
Spread Some Joy Today--Joy comes from endorphins. Fill a bag with them and sprinkle them around all day long. They're contagious. You're contagious. Joy is contagious.
Sunday, September 8, 2019
"Can we care enough
to say what we're thinking?
Can we expand that conversation
until we have more clarity?
Can we take down the protective walls
and be brave enough and open enough
to trust each other for a while?"
-- Albert K. Strong
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-5-15]
I watched a movie last night (no surprise there!) that touched a profound chord in me. It's a young people's movie you would think on the surface. It was released in 2014 and it is called Two Night Stand. It's a love story with an interesting twist and its message was so powerful that I think every single couple in the world could benefit from watching this one or more times.
And yet, this flick is not just about couples. I think it applies in all of our relationships all through our lives, and so the power of the message that I received from this movie became that profound chord.
Here's the synopsis from the DVD sleeve: "After an ill-considered one-night stand, two young New Yorkers are obliged to extend their time together when a paralyzing snowstorm strikes the city, confining the pair to a small cramped apartment."
Here's my synopsis: "Two young seeking people are brought together to satisfy a temporary itch, then through strange circumstances, they are stuck in a small apartment and after a lot of bantering, they finally decide to speak their mind, share their feelings, and open themselves to a different and better world."
To me, this film is all about being open to communicating. I might have used the word honesty in the past, but I don't use that word much anymore because it doesn't mean what I thought it did. Honesty indicates that there is a right way and dishonesty would be the wrong way, but in relationships, it is never about honesty. It is about a willingness to communicate, to speak our minds, to withhold judgment, and to trust a better outcome, with each party growing in the process.
In the movie, it was mainly about sex. That's a place we've all had a lot of experience probably, and how they opened up and talked to each other about what pleased them and what didn't please them, and how they were willing to learn from each other in this way, enhanced both of them to expand to new levels of joy and confidence. That is why I think it was so good for couples. Maybe you are the exception, but I know in my life, I would have loved to do more of this. It's so easy to make assumptions, and at best those are 50/50 in results.
So this was a powerful sex movie, and it was powerful because of the opportunity for them to communicate with one another and learn from one another and grow in the process. It is a powerful relationship movie because unless we are a confirmed hermit, we are in relationships wherever we go. We are in relationships at work with co-workers, supervisors, bosses, and others. We are in relationships as business owners or doing business with others. We are in relationships whenever there is another person that we have the opportunity to communicate with.
In all of those relationships, I think most people have walls around them often raised to protect, and we let out only what we feel is required for the situation. This works fine for many relationships because they are superficial. When it comes to relationships where we are working together, trying to accomplish something together in co-creation, that is not superficial and the willingness to communicate with each other makes it work or not according to how open we can be to learn from each other, how much we can trust each other to speak freely, how much we care about each other in that there be no winner and loser. Both parties or all parties must win.
Sometimes we are so afraid to hurt someone's feelings. That is our own fear, and fear begets more fear as we should already know. It's not about truth or honesty because there is no such thing as that, or if there were, it would be only our own. It is simply about caring enough (loving enough) to want to communicate what we want, what we do not want, what we are thinking, how we are feeling. Of course, this needs to be mutual with the other or others. This doesn't happen on its own in the union, so someone may need to step forth and get the conversation going.
Once it is going, growth is assured. Learning is assured. Better results are assured. More love and respect for each other or others is assured. And, when it comes to sex and business too, more joy is assured.
If You Care Enough, Take A Chance To Be Free.
Spread Some Joy Today--by speaking and sharing your joy. It's wonderful to feel it yourself, and by spreading it, you get to see it grow into so much more.
Saturday, September 7, 2019
"Today is the perfect day
to fall in love with yourself,
your beloved, and your life."
-- Alan Cohen
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-3-15]
Adding to this wonderful, insightful quote from Alan, here is a delicious bit from Abraham, Esther Hicks:
"Appreciation and self-love are the most important tools that you could ever nurture. Appreciation of others and the appreciation of yourself is the closest vibrational match to your Source Energy of anything that we've ever witnessed anywhere in the Universe."
Appreciation Is The Path Of Least Resistance Into Love. Indeed, Appreciation Is Love.
Spread Some Joy Today--by exercising your appreciation. It is joy in action.
Friday, September 6, 2019
"Other people's ratings and opinions
are entirely personal to them.
Taking their advice may cause one
to miss many new joys.
It is completely beneficial
to make up one's own mind."
-- Albert K. Strong
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-2-15]
I saw the preview, I put off ordering it on Netflix. I'm not sure why. Then I ordered it and it arrived, and I let it sit there for a couple of weeks. I almost repackaged it and sent it back unwatched, and then I thought, what the heck, give it a shot, so I just watched, Hector and the Search for Happiness. I see the ratings in a Google search are not kind, but I've seen that before on movies I really enjoyed, and this one was another one of those that I enjoyed very much in spite of the ratings and opinions of others.
The little happiness lessons on Hector's journey are quite interesting and so true. What I liked was that many were different than I might have thought, and one that I want to focus on for a bit here was this: "Sometimes happiness is not knowing the whole story."
Frankly, I think not knowing the whole story will often be a grand benefit. This allows us to see others as we choose to see them, like looking through the eyes of innocence. It helps us to create a new story, even if it may be a short one. It helps us to see something fresh.
We all have loads of experience, and I could easily call much of that, baggage. So, to see without all of that is of benefit.
Another thing is that it allows us to learn in bits more about another person. I think it is always exciting to get to know someone, to find common threads, and allow a relationship, however brief, to unfold in its own time.
This lesson naturally leads to one of the others: "Making comparisons can spoil your happiness." We are all unique. Being open to a relationship is being open to accepting and appreciating that uniqueness.
Two others stood out for me. One is, "The basic mistake people make is to think that happiness is the goal!" So true. Happiness isn't something we can find, it is something we choose and allow. It's not the pursuit of happiness that matters, it is simply the acceptance of happiness.
The other one is, "Many people see happiness only in their future." There is no future, and there is no past really. There is only now. When the "future" comes it will show up as now. So, hoping for or waiting for happiness in another time and space defeats the whole idea of being happy. There is only one place in time that happy can exist and that is right now, this second, then another, and another, and another.
Thursday, September 5, 2019
"There's no more important
criticism than self-criticism.
And negative self-talk is hungry
for external corroboration.
The remedy for negative self-talk, then,
is not the search for unanimous praise
from the outside world.
The remedy is
accurate and positive self-talk.
accurate and positive self-talk.
Endless amounts of it."
-- Seth Godin
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 4-1-15]
I enjoyed a blog article by Seth Godin, from which the quote above was drawn. And I related to it immediately since most of my life no matter how positive someone might have thought I was, there was droning negative self-talk going on in my own head that until recently riddled my life with problems.
The day after receiving Seth's blog post via email, I received another related blog post from Pam Grout. Pam is the author of 17 books and the last two are the best sellers, E-Squared, and E-Cubed, both of which I have enjoyed and shared with many others.
In her post, she told a story that reminded her of two magical words she uses in her life all the time, so I thought I would share her comments here. She calls it "The Two Magic Words That Can Change Your Life Forever:
"No matter what. No matter what is happening to you, it's important to acknowledge that, "it's okay."
No matter how you feel, "it's okay." No matter what you think, "it's okay."
Most of us, instead of being "okay" with our lives, get all balled up with judgment and fear. We exhaust ourselves trying to make things different.
Our thoughts emit an electrical charge. And when the thoughts are busy "not being okay," we put up a roadblock to our good.
"It's okay" is the energy of love. So whatever is happening in your life, simply say, "It's okay" and let the loving flow of the universe do the heavy lifting."
[See more about Seth www.SethGodin.com, and more about Pam at www.PamGrout.com]
It's All Okay.
Spread Some Joy Today--by going with the flow and not swimming so hard against the current. Easy is okay.
Wednesday, September 4, 2019
is a very personal thing--
and it really has nothing to do
with anyone else."
-- Abraham, Esther Hicks
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 3-31-15]
Isn't That A Wonderful Thing. A Personal Choice.
Spread Some Joy Today--by choosing to be happy. Just because.
Tuesday, September 3, 2019
"How you see
and how you feel about today,
has a lot to do with
how you see
and how you feel about the past."
-- Albert K. Strong
New: Audio version
[Classic post from 3-30-15]
The good ole' days. Those were the days that are better than today. I was in my prime, I was younger then, life was easier then, I was naive then. So as I look back or see photos of the past, I think how much better it was then. When I do this, my present is diminished considerably.
I was sharing a 25-year old photograph with a friend. It was good times then. It is now as well. When I look at the past with gratitude, joy, appreciation, I am doing that in the present, so I am enjoying that and feeling those emotions right now. If I look at the past as if those were the days, better days than now, or wish that I could go back to them, I am feeling those emotions right now and they are guiding my life right now.
This is a perfect reason to appreciate the past, find joy in the past, regardless of what went on. If I look at a past event that had pain attached at the time, those emotions of pain and trauma are in my present and I am feeling them in my life right this minute, not in the past. I am recreating them now. How do you suppose that affects today? Or even tomorrow?
It seems natural to have memories stored in two columns--the good memories in column A and the bad and painful memories in column B. But, that is not natural, and it doesn't serve me.
If I find the appreciation for what was, the joy in the experience, or the joy in the learning from experience, or the idea that things happened then because that is how you were and others were then, I will feel the appreciation, joy, and knowledge gained right now, today. I am the accumulation of all of my experiences.
Many people I have known over the years have left this Earth physically. What I think about that and how I feel about that has everything to do with how I think and feel today. If I am feeling sad that they are gone, I am feeling that today. It is affecting how I live, think and feel today. If I look at those events with appreciation, growing love, and joy, I am experiencing that today, right now, and that changes the event to something positive right now.
So, the way I see the past has everything to do with how I see my present. How I feel about the past, has everything to do with how I feel about the present. And, I am thinking and feeling all of that in the present.
They say you can't change the past. You've heard that over and over again. It's untrue. You can change the past. The only way you can change the past is by changing how you think about it, and feel about it, and talk about it today. We are always so much more in control of our lives than we think. When you realize that you CAN change the past to something that you can love and appreciate, you are exercising a power that changes worlds.
No Matter What It May Seem Like, There Is Only The Present. And, It Is A Present. It Is A Gift.
Spread Some Joy Today--by simply enjoying your day, and any other days that come into your present.
Monday, September 2, 2019
"What is the difference
between a moment and 25 years?
A moment can have a lifetime of significance."
-- Albert K. Strong
New: Audio version here.
[Classic post from 3-29-15]
I am learning many things every single day, and sometimes something that I learned becomes so apparent to me that it becomes a "moment of significance." It gets my attention. It is an "ah-ha" experience. I think, "of course!" And, another one of those moments of significance happened today.
I learned it from my dog, Charlie. It's amazing what he can teach me without using any words.
I got up to go in the other room with an intention of kicking back in the alternate recliner chair (since Charlie has taken over mine) for a little nap or imagining session. As I got up, I see his face and his eyes looking at me. He's just too cute. So I gave him a little pat on the head and turned to go. Then, I looked again, and instead of going to the other room, I wheeled a chair over to the recliner and gave him some totally focused attention and love.
It's not the kind of thing you do for hours. A few focused minutes works very effectively, and I could see how much he appreciated it. But, you know I didn't really do it for him. I did it for me. That was the lesson.
I'm a loving guy. I've known this for a long, long time. Yet, I can always be more loving. As I flashed on that moment, I thought how many moments exactly like that were passed by with Nancy. It's not that I'm beating myself up at all about any of that, it is simply a lesson that I get to choose those moments, and I could have chosen so many more, and those moments of significance would have built a reservoir of loving affection in both of us.
Nancy would have so enjoyed more of that as any person would getting focused attention and loving appreciation. Now, of course, I did do this, but I could have done it more often. That would be so nice, yet the ultimate benefit is how I feel by making that choice, taking that time, offering that affection and quality focus, and the more often I do this, the better I feel, and the grander my love grows.
To think how many times I cheated myself by being focused on less significant moments, and often mundane wastes of time and energy. Being in a hurry to do something not really important. Again, I don't feel bad about any of the moments I missed, I'm only acknowledging that they could have been better, but it was what it was, and I was what and who I was then.
I am more now. More appreciative. More loving. More of who I really am. More in alignment with the Source within me. I spend far more time in the present. I am also less now. I am less focused on the things I feel that I have to do. I am less focused on time. I spend less time seeing faults. I spend almost no time worrying about anything.
Step One: Notice Significant Moments.
Step Two: Be Present With Them.
Spread Some Joy Today--by giving people your undivided attention. Even a few moments makes all the difference.
Sunday, September 1, 2019
"Love is, above all,
the gift of oneself."
-- Jean Anouilh
New: Audio version here.
[Classic post from 3-28-15]
I love this quote, and I would add something to make it even more interesting and important: Love is, above all, a gift TO oneself. It is entirely a selfish interest although we think otherwise generally. Yet it is very much a gift to ourselves.
Here is an interesting excerpt from a workshop by Abraham, Esther Hicks on March 9th, 2001: "The person that needs to do something is not that person. The person that needs to do something is you! Some of those people in your life do not deserve your good thoughts. In other words, "They are bad. They are evil. They are wrong! They are inappropriate. They do not deserve your good thoughts," and you stubbornly are not going to give them any. They may not deserve your good thoughts. But you do. You deserve your good thoughts about them. This is what the Art of Allowing is. It's allowing my own Well-Being."
One of the things that is most beneficial to remember is that our feelings and our thoughts are our own. It's not about what someone or some country, or some anything did or is doing to us. It is what we choose to think about that.
Often we think that we do not choose this, but we do. Somehow we think that this act, this person, this country invaded us and caused us to feel a certain way and to think a certain way, but they do not. We choose what to think and our emotions about that tell us how we are thinking about this.
If we are in alignment with the Source within us, we will have good feelings. If we are having bad feelings--anger, resentment, hate, blame, worry, and such, then we are out of alignment or in disagreement with the Source within us.
No matter what, it comes back home to our own thought and our own emotion that is caused within ourselves, not from someone else, or some act, or some philosophy. It is of our own creation.
At the same time, that is true of love and all the good feeling emotions. We caused that. We chose the thoughts, and the good feeling comes from our alignment within ourselves with the Source within us.
We are the ones who deserve to feel good. We are the only ones who can claim that prize. The only way to claim it is by allowing all others to do or be or have whatever they choose, while we choose our own. It's not just a matter of letting go, it is more a matter of feeling good about them by allowing them to be whatever they choose to be, and this will ensure our own good feelings within ourselves.
Love Is After All And Above All A Gift To Ourselves. So Give It Freely!
Spread Some Joy Today--by very selfishly choosing love.