Saturday, August 17, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-17-19

"I always appreciate beauty, 
and sometimes I get 
to see more beyond that." 

-- Albert K Strong 




[Classic post from 3-7-15]

Today, I had a brief business meeting at a Starbucks. It's such a convenient place to meet people.

As I was waiting because I was early, I sat over by the wall, playing with my cell phone a bit and watching people come in and out. It was 4pm and it was 77 degrees outside. Such a beautiful day. Then two young women pulled up and came inside. They were very pretty, thin, attractive, both had blond hair, tight jeans, summer type top. Nice bodies, great looking, and even though they were at least 40 years younger, I am not blind to attractive women of any age. So I briefly enjoyed the view.

However, I didn't spend much time thinking about the physical attractiveness of these young women, because something else came through much more strongly. What I saw in them was their joy. They spent time getting ready. The day was gorgeous. They were just out and about enjoying the day, stopping for something at Starbucks. And, they were loving themselves, loving the day, loving the movement, loving the way they looked, enjoying totally how they felt and how the environment felt. They were in joy. And, I was appreciating their joy and the ability to see that in them. There is nothing quite so special as how that feeling that they were experiencing feels, and I was appreciating that feeling I've had before by seeing it in them.

Throughout my little jaunt today, I saw all kinds of people. Some in Starbucks, like a guy who was filling some sacks with sugar packets, putting water into a used water bottle, had a cup of coffee, packed everything up so neatly with two plastic bags and a backpack, and was on his way. He too was enjoying himself. He had a refreshing stop and got some things that pleased him, took care to pack well and back on his way he went. Maybe he was traveling a long distance on a bicycle, or maybe he was an upper scale homeless person. Whatever his story, he appeared to be enjoying himself--as was I noticing that and appreciating him.

My appointment arrived. I've never met him. We talked for a while and found some common things. It could have been very short as he was bringing me something, but we chatted, and I was enjoying it. I could tell that he wanted to talk more, so I relaxed and shared back and forth with him. What a nice guy. I was appreciating him, what he does for his job, how he likes to do things in his business, and much more. It was a great time well spent.

I was only out and about for one and a half hours, and I could write about all the things and people that I appreciated for several pages. I'm sure you don't want to read that far. I will just say that everywhere I went today, stopping at the grocery store, the meeting at Starbucks, stopping for fuel, walking Charlie for a bit, driving in the car looking in the mirrors, watching others in cars, it was all so wonderful. I got home with such a great feeling that is lasting still two hours later writing this.

If you want to feel good, start appreciating what is in your field of view. Then find something else to appreciate. Try to see beyond the surface of what is there. Try to see the feelings under the talk. Pay attention to how you are feeling. Look for people enjoying themselves. See their joy. See their happiness. See their frown and picture it a smile. Praise them with your mind. Uplift them. See beyond the exterior shell that we all have. See and appreciate the human being in the other. Love them the way they are and for who they are inside.


It's A Whole New View Of Your World. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by seeing the joy in others and joining in the party.

Friday, August 16, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-16-19

Delegate: 
Entrust to another person. 

Delegation: 
The act of entrusting to another person 

New Age Delegation: 
Let Go! 




[Classic post from 3-4-15]

Delegation is such an interesting topic. It is full of emotion many times and there are a very wide array of viewpoints.

Having been a manager for the majority of my life, this topic has always been at the forefront of my mind. How can I get more done? How can I find time to think and plan? Now I watch other managers and see how they do things to see where they are on this issue. It's always interesting to watch. That way, I get to see myself in some of my travels through another.

Stephen R Covey, who wrote the mega-seller, The Seven Habits Of Highly Successful People, had a chart that was about how we spend our time and what value that time has as a result. In his book, he called it The Time Management Matrix from the third habit: Put First Things First. He also wrote a book on that subject.

The matrix was four boxes of activities. The left side was marked Urgent, the right side, Not Urgent. The two boxes on top were marked Important, and the two on the bottom, Not Important.

Quadrant I consisted of Urgent and Important activities, such as, Crises, Pressing Problems, Deadline-driven projects.

Quadrant II consisted of Not Urgent and Important activities, such as Prevention, PC (Production Capability, Preventative Care, Expansion) activities, Relationship building, Recognizing new opportunities, Planning, Recreation.

Quadrant III consisted of Urgent but Not Important activities, such as Interruptions, Some calls, Some mail, Some reports, Some meetings, Many proximate pressing matters, Popular activities.

Quadrant IV consisted of Not Urgent and Not Important activities, such as Trivia, Busywork, Some mail, Some phone calls, Time wasters, Pleasant activities.

"The key to effective management of self, or of others through delegation, is not in any technique or tool or extrinsic factor. It is intrinsic--in the Quadrant II paradigm that empowers you to see through the lens of importance rather than urgency." -- Stephen R. Covey

It seems that generally in the work world that to be in Quadrant II is not as valued because it is not physically active, or that they expect you do that on your own time. So much time as a manager is spent in Quadrants I and III, and a little in IV. If you're a manager, consider where you spend the majority of your time. After I read this book when it came out in 1989, I began looking more closely at my own activities at work.

This is where delegation comes in. As a manager, or as a commissioned salesperson, there are ways to either delegate tasks that keep you out of Quadrant II or to let them go entirely. I know that I have steadily improved on delegating. I think our company gets better the more time I have to think, plan and consider opportunities. I'm working toward 100% delegation . . .

Abraham, Esther Hicks has a great way to look at delegation: "Most people have a hard time delegating, or even wanting to delegate, because you have been justifying your existence through your hard work, and you equate success with struggle; you equate results with struggle. And so, you sort of wear your struggle like a badge of honor. And all of that is opposite of allowing the Well-being. The only thing that ever matters in success or achievement is achieving the things that you want to achieve. So if you are setting standards and you're feeling uncomfortable about the standards that you've set, tweak the standards back a little bit. Ratchet it back a notch. Give yourself a break. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Lighten up. Be easier. Go slower. Take it easy. Have more fun. Love yourself more. Laugh more. Appreciate more. All is well. You can't get it wrong. You never get it done."

That's definitely, Quadrant II stuff. . .


Enjoy! Live! Love! Be Yourself! Everything Is Fine. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by letting go of those urgent things. Chill.

Thursday, August 15, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-15-19

"When you want something
and you believe in opposition to it, 
your opposite belief will prevent
what you want from happening. 
When you want something 
and you believe it, 
there's no separation; 
you are offering one signal, 
and the Law of Attraction 
will bring it to you now." 

-- Abraham, Esther Hicks 




[Classic post from 3-2-15]

Many years ago, I listened to a talk about how beliefs rule our lives. He called them legs of a table, and those legs are strong, and they will support the table and the table is our lives being lived. Everyone has beliefs, some stronger beliefs than others, so some tables are more steady than others, and so on.

I had heard and read a number of things about beliefs, and so the way he explained that it made sense to me from what I was reading, and from my view of life around me at that time.

The message from this talk and other readings was that beliefs were like your core knowledge and they were strong and steady truths that we hold to or ignore, but there they are to lean on when we need to. In other words, they were more like DNA where you were born with them, the way you were brought up and you learned them from your parents who gave you your DNA and they were cast and to escape them was extremely difficult.

It's funny how knowledge changes your view, and this description has in recent years become old school.

The most important thing that I have learned about beliefs came from Abraham, Esther Hicks: "The most powerful premise that we want to activate within you, that, we promise you, will serve you for all of the days of your life is: A belief is only a thought I keep thinking. A belief is only a thought I continue to think. A belief is only my habit of thought; it's only a practiced thought--a belief is only a thought that I think a lot." 

I used to believe that beliefs were static, rarely change, if ever, and here I was presented with the idea that beliefs were fluid, flexible, malleable, easily changed, only as strong as my continued thoughts allowed it to be.

Why is this important? Here's why from Abraham: "When you want something and you doubt it--when you want it and you don't believe it--now you're offering opposing Vibrations, and you can hold yourself in that holding pattern all of the days of your life.

"I want it but. . ."; "I want it but. . ."; "It'd be nice, but it doesn't happen for me"; "I would really like to have that, but I've wanted it for so long. . ." When you keep saying those things, when you continue to face reality, when you beat the drum of what-is, when you beat the drum of what-is--you hold active within yourself a Vibrational pattern. (A belief is only a thought you keep thinking.)

A belief is only a thought that you keep thinking--and it is only the beliefs that you hold that keep you from the things that you want. A belief is only a thought that you keep thinking. And the only thing that keeps you from who-you-really-are and what you really want is a belief, which is only a thought that you keep thinking. 

So if a belief is only a thought that I keep thinking, and I keep thinking a thought that is in opposition to what I want--then the reason I don't get what I want is because I keep thinking a thought that's in opposition to what I want." 

Why does this matter to me? Because I am empowered by it. Before it was just someone saying what they believed, but now I have useful knowledge, helpful knowledge that I can put to use to help me have the life that I really want instead of the life I've been getting. Instead of it being done to me and I have to find ways to deal with it, I can take control myself and change my life by changing my thoughts.



It means, instead of illness happening to me; instead of depression happening to me; instead of getting fired or losing my job happening to me; instead of being evicted happening to me; instead of being ripped off happening to me; instead of not having enough money or being broke happening to me; instead of all those things that used to 'happen' to me, come upon me, being dealt a bad hand, being in the wrong place at the wrong time, instead of attracting the wrong people, and a myriad of things that don't work out for me, I have the knowledge and the power to change all of that for the rest of my life by simply choosing different, more empowering thoughts, thinking them often and having them become my new in-alignment, self-empowered, righteously matching what I want not what I don't want beliefs.

That's why! We really are what we believe, and now I know that I can believe what I choose to believe. And, I choose to believe the things that help me find joy. I love learning this, and I was ready, even at my age. It's never too late to learn. It's never too late to change, or change direction. I can do it NOW.


Since A Belief Is Simply A Thought We Keep Thinking, It May Be Time To Get A New Thought . . .

Spread Some Joy Today--by believing what you choose to believe and what you are choosing feels like joy.

Wednesday, August 14, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-14-19

"Don't demand or expect
that events happen
as you wish them to. 
Accept events
as they actually happen. 
That way, peace is possible."

-- Epictetus 




[Classic post from 3-1-15]

You're focused on doing something that is inviting your attention. It might be Facebook, working on a project, researching something, writing something, whatever. You feel the urge to pee. You don't want to stop. You want to keep going. But, it has dropped from your bladder to the final gateway to freedom. You try to ignore it. It's getting harder to focus. You try to use mind over matter and push it back into the bladder, but it has a will stronger than yours. You cross your legs, tap your feet, and you continue to try to focus. You want to get this done and getting up is such an inconvenience right now. You're on a roll. But now, the final gate is feeling like Hoover Dam about to break. Finally, you get up and go let go of it muttering under your breath the whole way to the bathroom. Then, after the gates have released the pressure, you feel normal again. You even feel energized. You feel relief. You feel good.

All of that resistance to getting up and going to the bathroom is frustration. The best definition of frustration I've seen is that frustration is wanting things to be different than they are. Frustration is a negative emotional response to how we are thinking about a situation in a given time. Most of my life, I just thought it was normal. As I look around me, I see that it certainly is common.

Our frustration can cause us to focus on this thing that is happening that we do not want, creating deeper frustration, with thoughts added to by the Law of Attraction, and we may often find more negative emotions to deal with. On Abraham's Emotional Scale, frustration is at 10 of the 22 spots. Below frustration is some common emotions you may recognize, such as overwhelment, disappointment, doubt, worry, blame, discouragement, anger (been there a few times. . .).

How many times have you been frustrated and seen these other emotions coming around? Going down the emotional scale will keep us in a funk affecting much of what we are trying to do, and it certainly messes with our enjoyment.

The best thing is to recognize this frustration emotion, realize that you are feeling and talking about that with others or within yourself. Then, you have the power to move up the Emotional Scale rather than down it. It's only a couple of steps to contentment, then next is hope. Once you get to hope, the rest of the journey is easy. Skip right through optimism right into enthusiasm, and back into your joy. Or, stay where you are and do it the way you want. It's all a choice each of us has. And, once you get to this place of knowing that you have this power over your environment, you will find it nearly impossible to go back to your ignorance of it.

I think the thing that I wanted to change in my life the most was to get the hell away from frustration. It felt totally crappy. I tried like all get out to change the circumstances--to push against that thing or the other that I imagined was creating this negative situation, but that offered little in the way of progress.

Then there was one more thing that got in the way. I used to use my frustration about circumstances, events, and other people as an excuse to not do something I didn't want to do. Since it is such a common thing in our lives, people relate to and give sympathy and otherwise understand how you can be so upset that you can't do this thing, or go somewhere, etc. Hey, after all, it happens to everyone, right?

Since I have learned this Emotional Scale thing from Abraham and Esther Hicks in the book, Ask and It Is Given, I feel so empowered and so confident that even though I may feel a negative emotion, I realize that it is the guidance for me rather than trying to bring me down. Instead of that feeling being negative in my life, it becomes a positive, because knowing what I don't want and realizing that this is what I am thinking about, I know better what I do want: I want to feel good. Then, I make a decision to find a better feeling thought, then another, and so on until I am feeling good. I can now do that very quickly, sometimes in just a few seconds, other times it takes maybe minutes.

I see people frustrated at work, at home, with their spouses, in business dealings, in politics--in fact, in every point of our lives. I've experienced it in all of them. We can keep doing that, or do something about it. Whatever choice anyone makes is fine, but there are choices other than frustration.


My Choice Is To Feel Good. How About You? 

Spread Some Joy Today--by taking the time to find out how to have it more often.

Tuesday, August 13, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-13-19

"The current opinion 
 that others hold regarding you 
 has far more to with 
how they are feeling." 

-- Abraham, Esther Hicks 




[Classic post from 2-23-15]

Abraham continues, "There is perhaps no greater waste of time and effort than that of trying to influence the way other people see you because what they see has very little to do with their object of attention and everything to do with the vantage point from which they are looking." 

I thought it was sort of natural based on the way I grew up that when people were angry at me, that means that I did something that caused them to be angry and their response was appropriate and it was all my fault. Even when it didn't seem like I should have been at fault, I accepted their opinion of my actions or lack of action that caused them unhappiness. They blamed me, and I accepted it and took the punishment. Sometimes angry yelling was the punishment, sometimes it was more. 

Consequently, I grew up learning to try so hard to please my parents and teachers and authority figures so that I didn't have the pain of the punishment, whether verbal or physical. I tried hard to please and went way out of my way to do extra things to bring positive attention to myself, rather than negative attention.

I carried much of that way into adulthood, but thankfully, I began to learn how to hear without accepting, and let it bounce off as if I had a secret shield.

Abraham advises, "If you will release all concern about how others feel about you, and focus only upon how you feel about them, you will unearth your core understanding of who-you-really-are, and you will discover what true freedom really is. . . True freedom is found in the absence of resistance. . . True freedom is the discovery of maintaining unconditional love."

For the majority of my life, when someone would find fault with me or lash out in anger toward me, I would cower and then I would fight back. This caused as much or more pain than taking the abuse. As I began to pay attention to what I was getting out of it, I could see so clearly that fighting back was pointless. Most often, it served to extend the conflict. I began to learn to respect myself a little bit more and to see if I could take it without losing it on my end. As I worked on this, I made progress. 

In very recent years, I mostly overcame it by not taking it personally, realizing that it was not me, it was the other and how they were feeling, then I could look at them with love and hear a different message than the one I was hearing before. I began to practice loving them without any condition, just accepting them as they were with understanding and desire for them to feel better. I have Abraham to thank for the majority of the guidance there to help me see a more loving way.


Love Is Always The Answer. Funny How That Works. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by simply enjoying yourself today. No worries, mate.

Monday, August 12, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-12-19

"The path of least resistance 
is the path of the loser." 

-- H. G. Wells 




[Classic post from 2-24-15]

Now here's a guy who loves to struggle. Struggle with this, struggle with that; in fact, the greater the struggle, the greater the reward? Hmmm. Sounds fishy to me. Although this whole idea of overcoming through struggling seems like it was invented by a macho man. Resistance makes me stronger. The more I fight, the stronger I get. Well, everyone has an opinion and a belief, and I will have to let that one be his or theirs.

I think that there isn't anything wrong with the easy way in every endeavor. Easy money. Easy love. Easy peasy. The life of ease. The opposite of dis-ease. I rather like skipping through rather than cutting my way through.

There is so much resistance going on in most lives, including my own, so I'm going to spend the next several days talking about the various ways we resist without even realizing it.

Abraham, Esther Hicks describes what I've come to know this way: "Your natural state is one of wellness, one of absolute health, one of the perfect bodily conditions--and if you are experiencing anything other than that, it is only because the balance of thought within you is toward the lack of what you want instead of what you do want."

They continue, "Resistance is caused by focusing upon the lack of what is wanted. . . . Allowing is caused by focusing up what is wanted. . . . Resistance is caused by the thought that doesn't match the perspective of your Source. . . . Allowing is experienced when your current thoughts do match the perspective of your Source."

Resistance can be big and affect life or death, or it can just be something that irritates you. The most interesting part is that if we focus on the resistance which is an accepted norm, we will create more resistance and more of what we do not want. Once we get to a point where we realize what is going on there, we get to choose how we will respond, how we will feel, and that determines how everything works out or doesn't work out.

On the very simple end of this stick is something like I was noticing this afternoon driving home from an appointment. There seemed to be a number of very anxious people to get through four lanes of traffic by zigging and zagging, creating a bit of danger here and there at 70 miles per hour, concerned only about their own desire to get there. Usually, the far left lane is called the fast lane, but these people make their own choices. It seems so silly to me like the rabbit in Alice In Wonderland, so I am laughing.

Then, exiting the freeway and now on a two-lane city street with a 35 mph speed limit, a pickup truck speeds around me at a much higher speed and then slips in front of me seemingly to scream at me that I'm going way too slow by going close to the speed limit. But they get behind the guy that was in front of me and so now it becomes a race of who will get to the stoplight the fastest. So, that made me start laughing. Who can get to the red light the fastest? Is that success? Interesting. . . . and that seems like such a silly zero-sum game, so I laugh some more.

There were a number of other situations in my rearview mirror. I see people seeing how close to my rear bumper they can get without actually hitting me. Of course, they are clueless about my own intentions. I might jam on the brakes for a chipmunk or something and get whiplash and, well. . . I don't want to go there. That is just more resistance. So, I start laughing again.

Now, in the recent past, I would internally, if not externally, want to give them the finger, or at the very least be talking about how close they are and what idiots they are and I wish they would get off my ass, or I would ask them if they can smell it yet, and well. . . you may have had similar thoughts, or maybe you're more evolved. All of that is resistance. I know it because I am feeling negative emotion.

Today, I take the path of least resistance (sound familiar?) and just laugh and have fun and enjoy the choices they make. I see them upset and allow them to feel any way they choose. I might even become enlightened and wish them well and that their evening will be so much better than their day has obviously gone. Or, sometimes, I just immediately pull over to the other lane and let them go by.


We All Have Our Way. Sometimes, We All Need A Little More Love. By The Way, Love Is THE Path Of Least Resistance. In Fact, It Is The Place Where Resistance Cannot Exist.

Spread Some Joy Today--by not caring who gets to the stoplight first. Heck, you don't even have to play the game. . .

Sunday, August 11, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-11-19

"Persistence wears down resistance." 

-- William J. Federer 



[Classic post from 2-25-15]

Really? Persistence to me is more like dedication, as in, I'm dedicating myself to getting this thing done. Trying to wear down resistance simply indicates a very long and arduous journey toward what you do not want. Resistance is focusing on what you do not want and then trying to use nothing but action to turn it into something you do want. What a waste of time and energy this would be.

Since I've dealt with salespeople most of my life, including the fact that I started on that path in 1972, I have experienced it myself and have seen plenty of others try to overcome resistance, power through, make it happen. You can tell that they are doing something they do not want to do and then trying through action and determination to succeed at the strange and interesting task of making a sale.

After so many years of watching, even teaching this idea, I've come to realize that I wasn't really helping anyone with that approach. I used to use this famous quote from President Calvin Coolidge: "Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent." That quote always reminds me of the quote from Yoda in Star Wars: "Try not. Do or do not. There is no try."

What I've learned in the most recent years more fully is that success is less about action and more about focus. It is less about activity and more about attitude. It is less about doing and more about preparation. It is less about holding on, and more about letting go. In other words, if it is a struggle, persistence may move the needle a bit, but it won't get the job done, nor will there be much of any satisfaction in it. The best way to say it is that we need to love what we do and do it with joy; that is, without resistance, for when we are trying hard to do that which is full of resistance, we are focused on overcoming what we do not want. What a hard row to hoe that is. It's like trying to hoe through stone instead of dirt.

What Calvin Coolidge could have said would be this: "Let us focus our thoughts and energy on what we want to achieve. Let us find all the positive aspects of it and talk about that, think about that, and build momentum. As we use our thoughts and energies in this manner, we cannot lose. It is our focus and good feeling thoughts about what we are doing that will always come through."

Now I try to teach salespeople to get happy and to focus on what they want. I want them to find ways to make it fun and to simply enjoy themselves. Sales is all about relationships: building them and nurturing them and maintaining them. It is about liking and loving people. It is about seeing how you can solve some of their problems with your product and/or services. It is about the sheer joy of learning about other people, their interests, their issues, their joys, and their wants or needs. It is about finding new friends, and we can always use more friends. It is about sharing. It is about caring. And if it isn't done because you want to do this, it won't last very long.

I want them to focus on what they want, why they want it and not so much about how they will get it, and for sure and for certain, I want them to stay focused there and not give any attention at all to what has not yet happened. When they focus on the fact that they only have 4 units out and their minimum expected is 8, focusing there will pretty much guarantee that 8 will not happen, because they are focusing on what they do not want, or rather, the lack of what they want. They are focused then on not being there yet and that only leads to more of not being there.

So, you might think this is all about salespeople today. It is about everything we do in life. It is about our relationships with our family, friends, co-workers, the world. It is about our dreams and how they can become a reality. It is about allowing things to come about rather than making them move. It is about letting go rather than holding on.

Resistance always comes with negative emotion. When you pay attention and notice that feeling and feel that tightness, tenseness, and the struggle as if you're having a tug-o-war with something or someone, this is time to let go. Just drop the rope and let go. When it is a struggle, that is resistance, and this makes life hard. It creates illness. It creates all manner of negative things in our lives. When we let go and focus on what we want and why we want it without any attention to how we are going to get it, and then allow it into our lives, it flows and it feels good. Then the actions we take will come with far better results.


Struggle Or Joy? Hmmmm. . . .

Spread Some Joy Today--by focusing on what you want and enjoying yourself in the process.

Saturday, August 10, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-10-19

"Freedom is not given to us by anyone; 
we have to cultivate it ourselves. 
It is a daily practice." 

-- Thich Nhat Hanh 




[Classic post from 2-20-15]

I think it is often true that we just do whatever we do day after day with little or no intention about our doing, and at the same time, there may be little thought if any as to why we do what we do.

Oh sure, it's easy enough to say I go to work to earn the money to live a comfortable life. But is that the whole of it? Is that the whole reason? Or, is there more? Or, are we sometimes trading our freedom for the sake of that.

When was the last time you stopped working for a few hours and went to see a movie, or went window shopping, or went to a park and chilled? The refreshment from something like this can boost your morale, creativity, and outlook. There is freedom in this. Freedom comes from our choosing and it also comes from our choices.

Wayne Dyer is famous for saying, "our intention creates our reality." It's just five words, and I think that phrase is very accurate. Are we doing what we intend? A better way to say it may be, are we doing what we do on purpose? With purpose?

Do you absolutely love what you do? Do you get up every morning and can't wait to enjoy another day on planet Earth? If not, then knowing why you do what you do can be a very powerful tool toward that, or toward something more to your liking. And, I mean a better answer than to 'make a living.' You could use your Book of Positive Aspects and write out all the reasons that you do what you do--all the benefits, all the ways it helps you enjoy your life, how it benefits your family, contributes to the economy, all the things you like or love about what you do, and more.

Freedom is our choice. It comes from our intentions, and by intending, we are creating our lives deliberately. In other words, the more often we are taking the short time that it might take to intend what we want to see, experience, be, do or have, the more that will not only become true and be in our reality, the more we will enjoy ourselves, our minutes, hours, and years. There are so many ways to choose our freedom every single day. Another way to say it is in every day and every segment of every day to decide what we want and to focus our attention there rather than follow our habitual patterns.

Abraham & Esther Hicks has a great way to do this and I have it up on my wall in my office: "Today, no matter where I'm going, no matter what I'm doing, no matter who I'm doing it with, it is my dominant intent to look for and find things that feel good when I see them, when I hear them, when I smell them, when I taste them, when I touch them. It is my dominant intent to solicit, experience, and exaggerate and talk about and revel in, the best of what I see around me here and now." 

This is not really like work. It isn't hard to do. It simply requires giving thought to what you want today, for the next few hours, during this meeting, when you walk in the door after work, and more. The only way to get better at it and more consistent at it is to practice it, which is the same thing as doing it on purpose. Make that an intention. When I do this, I feel more freedom. I feel more alive. I feel more in the present. I feel more joy, and I get better results while enjoying myself more. I've become excited about what Abraham calls Segment Intending, and what Wayne Dyer calls the Power of Intention. 


Happy Choosing Your Freedom Day! 

Spread Some Joy Today--by intending it.

Friday, August 9, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-9-19

"You never help others
when you allow yourself 
to be a sounding board 
for their complaints." 


-- Abraham, Esther Hicks






[Classic post from 2-19-15]

Commiseration with another or their commiseration with you will only draw more of the subject to the party. I used to do this a lot. I would listen to people's complaints, agree with their emotional conclusions about things; the inappropriateness, and acknowledge the random emotional pain inflicted by another for an unknowable reason.

Then, for some reason, I began to feel uncomfortable when others were complaining of their lives, while I still complained about my own. People didn't listen so much to mine either, so I would just go over and over it in my mind. And, finally, at some point, I realized that my own complaining had no value, so I chose to stop for the most part, but not totally.

Now, I avoid it at all costs because I know the detrimental value of focusing there. I also know the detrimental value of being a sounding board for others. I am now in alignment with Abraham's partial quote above. Here is the full quote:

"You never help others when you allow yourself to be a sounding board for their complaints. Seeing them as you know they want to be is the most valuable thing you can do for them. Sometimes that means removing yourself from their vicinity because when you are near them, it is difficult not to notice their complaints. You might say to them, "I've learned the power of my attention and thought, and so as I hear you speaking of what I know you don't want, I must tell you that I must remove myself, for I don't want to contribute to your miscreating." Try to distract them from their complaints; try to help them focus upon some positive aspects. . . do you best to imagine their recovery.

You will know when you are of value to anyone when you are able to think about the person and feel good at the same time. When you love others without worry, you are an advantage to them. When you enjoy them, you help them. When you expect them to succeed, you help them. In other words, when you see them as your own Inner Being sees them, then and only then is your association with them to their advantage." 

Quite often though, we may instead be feeling sorry for them, thinking we are softening their pain by discussing the problems with them. If our focus is on something other than their own upliftment, by seeing them as they really want to be, we only add to their problems while we think we are giving them love. It is not only not helpful, but it also isn't really loving.

Next time you see someone, or hear someone telling you or others what is going wrong in their lives, mentally, if not verbally, lift them up, help get them to focus on what is right in their lives, what is going well, finding better feeling thoughts for themselves, and then you can really be of value.

I try to do this all the time now, and although I may not be successful all the time, I am so far beyond the place I once was, and I find that I have been helpful to many. I am grateful for learning these insights. I'm certain it has changed my life for the better more than anyone else's.


Being Of Real Service Means Uplifting Others. 

Spread Some Joy Today--because joy always feels good in the giving as well as in the receiving.

Thursday, August 8, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-8-19

"It is natural that you thrive,
and the resources are there
for all to thrive.

-- Abraham, Esther Hicks 



[New post]

We cannot push against anything and then at the same time want it for ourselves and expect to get it. Even if we would make different choices with our money, pushing against someone who has it will only block it from coming to us. We must praise those who have succeeded. The word excessive is simply a judgment on our part of the lack of abundance in our lives. It doesn't matter if we are more giving and we would have given a lot of it away and the other is using it for his or her own joy. Morality isn't an issue here. We simply cannot put others down, push against their choices and then draw abundance to ourselves.

Abraham: "It is natural that you thrive, and the resources are there for all to thrive. But chronic thoughts of shortage, or chronic thoughts of pushing against those who are thriving, hold you in contradiction to your own desires and, more important, to what you have put into your Vortex of Creation for yourself."

Next time you see people bashing the rich, criticizing anything or anyone, allow them their opinion without any input from you. If you want well-being for yourself, focus on your own joy for those who have achieved and done well because you want well-being and abundance for yourself.


Praise What You Want. Focus There. Let Everyone Else Do As They Choose. And Then See What Happens!

Spread Some Joy Today--by lifting yourself and others up to the abundance that they would choose. There is no shortage except as we choose that.

Wednesday, August 7, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-7-19

"Appreciation is the absence 
of everything that feels bad
and the presence 
of everything that feels good." 

-- Abraham, Esther Hicks 


[New post]

Although I do think that any excuse is a grand excuse to shower appreciation, I have learned to expand on that to the point that I am in a state of appreciation every single day of my life now--not all day long, but every single day, I find things and people to appreciate, and I have Abraham and Esther Hicks to thank for that delightful, and empowering change:

"Appreciation is the vibration of alignment with who-you-are. It is the absence of resistance. It is the absence of doubt and fear. It is the absence of self-denial or hatred toward others. Appreciation is the absence of everything that feels bad and the presence of everything that feels good. 

Being in a state of appreciation is seeing whatever you are looking at through the eyes of Source. And when you are in that state of appreciation, you could walk down a crowded street with all kinds of things that a lot of other people would find reason to criticize or worry about, and you would not have access to them because your vibration of appreciation is picking out for you things of a different vibrational nature. 


A state of appreciation is a state of Godliness. A state of appreciation is being who-you-really-are. 


The vibration of true love, that feeling of being in love, that feeling that you have sometimes when you see someone and you feel like you are moving through one another. The feeling that you have when you are looking at the innocence of a child and feeling the beauty and power of that child. Love and appreciation are identical vibrations." 


Don't forget in your appreciation of another to remember to appreciate yourself!


Happy Appreciation Day! 

Spread Some Joy Today--because joy, appreciation, love is all the same vibration.

Tuesday, August 6, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-6-19

"Cultivate the habit of being grateful
for every good thing that comes to you, 
and to give thanks continuously. 
And because all things have contributed
to your advancement, you should 
include all things in your gratitude." 

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson 




[New post]

Many people may take issue with Ralph Waldo Emerson on this statement. They're easy to please of the first part, but in disagreement with being grateful for the negative things or the things that don't feel good that have happened to them. Of course, it is so easy to be grateful when things feel good. Being grateful for things going wrong or feeling bad is a whole other thing. 

How can I be grateful for things going wrong, not working out, missteps along my path? I can when I realize that this negative or bad feeling is coming from my inner knowing, the God within and I am thinking or doing something that my inner knowing is not interested in, or is focusing elsewhere. It is always my choice to do it anyway, or think it anyway, or to pay attention to the reminder for me to realize that what I am thinking or doing is working against me.


Being Thankful In All Things Is Far More Beneficial That It Would Seem. It Is Quite Frankly How We Can Transform Our Lives.

Spread Some Joy Today--as you open to the possibilities that exist beyond blame.

Monday, August 5, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-5-19

"Anxiety doesn't attack."

-- Dr. Wayne Dyer




[New post]

There is natural well-being and the lack of well-being, and the lack of well-being can and will help us to focus on the well-being we desire. Or not. It is always and only our own choice whether we are looking at events of the world, or events at our workplace or home.

Dr. Wayne Dyer said a long time ago that, "anxiety doesn't attack." Yet many hold to the idea that it does, and that many things come into our life indiscriminately. Anxiety is simply a response to our choice of thought which is out of alignment with our own inner knowing, or our God within. It causes us to know what we do want, but then the choice is our own to focus on the illness or the health, the joy or the pain, the love or the justice, what feels good or the lack of that.


The Choice Is Always Our Own. Anxiety Doesn't Attack. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by choosing your well-being rather than the lack of it.

Sunday, August 4, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-4-19

"[Those who] believe differently
have a different reality."

-- Paul Selig




New: Audio version

[New post]

This statement popped up at me when I read through page 79 of Paul Selig's book, I Am The Word. It seems to me that it shouldn't have stood out, but it stood out enough for me to write it down in the margin on that page. We may often think that it would be ideal if we all agreed in our beliefs and thereby shared the same exact reality, but what I think we more commonly consider when we look at differing beliefs is that there is still only one reality and that those who see things differently are not agreeable to the real reality. In other words, we see them as wrong and we as right and we may even often try to show them the error of their ways by pointing to the reality as an example. You know, the Earth is round and spins on its axis and in turn circles the Sun and that is just the way it is. Everyone knows it. It is a reality, after all.

What I think the message of this page is is that we may have different beliefs and that causes our different realities or ways of seeing through our beliefs, but that doesn't mean that we don't share a commonality at the same time. And, that it isn't even right versus wrong or left versus right or other duality points, but that these different beliefs and different realities may not only coexist, they can also be in harmony. In other words, they don't push against or pull against others or need to in order to be "the" reality because no matter the number of realities, we need not compete for there is more than enough room for all. Indeed, there would be sufficient room for all even if they did disagree to the point of pushing and pulling and jockeying for position. After all, that is the reality we see here and now, is it not? The only difference is that we disagree that there is an actual different reality with each different belief. Yet, as each different belief exists, there must be a matching reality for it could be none other than this.

If we may ever get to the point of world harmony, it would be that we accept not only the different beliefs as being valid but that we accept that each of those matching realities is also acknowledged. In other words, we honor the other to choose and we honor ourselves to choose and in those perhaps divergent choices and consequential realities we stand in honor of that higher truth, and that higher truth is that no matter the volume of beliefs and realities involved, we coexist in a completely harmonious manner.

In fact, I think more of the world currently lives in harmonious divergent realities than we might imagine based on the media reports.


I Celebrate Your Own Harmonious Adventure!

Spread Some Joy Today--by resonating in your own harmonious nature.

Saturday, August 3, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-3-19

"Contempt is no match for love."

-- Arthur C. Brooks




[New post]

Party versus party. Party line versus party line. It seems like even when there is a principle worth standing for that there are plenty who will stand against it. Maybe one or two or three or four can be convinced that the principle is worth moving away from the party line to come together to withhold the principle, but the rest are afraid. They are covering themselves for the future. Maybe they have an election in the very near future and they feel they would not get the support they need if they left the party line for the principle and that they would break from the so-called unity that is called for in the party line. Of course, it doesn't matter the party because both parties play the game as needed based on the current need and circumstance.

The news says that there is a lot of CYA going on and people afraid of losing their jobs or their rank. Yet it is not just these that we are now observing who is doing that. It is much larger and more involved. Consider the news media regardless of media status. They report what is going on when there isn't anything going on. Why? CYA. If there isn't any news, i.e., something happening that is report-worthy, there is a need to create an angle that we can call news. For years I gave up reading or listening or watching the news. I didn't miss it.

For the last couple of years, I have returned to it but from a different perspective. It's addicting in some ways and there are a lot of us addicted and so there are a lot of different news and media organizations that bring us bits and bites jockeying for attention and what happens then, and I am observing that the vast majority of news is about what might happen if, who might be blamed if, who is feeling this and that about whatever, and finally in comes the analysis. There is so much to analyze and having no actual event news to report has no bearing on the volume of things and angles there are to analyze so that the news page is filled more with non-news than could possibly be news. In other words, it is more about what has not happened or has not yet happened than what has happened.

Then, this madness spreads to each of us, to our families and infects our minds and actions as well. We are all involved and the more involved we are, the more there is to consider. But, even more than considering, we end up finding who is to blame, making judgments that are based on news that is reported that is possibly not fully truthful or complete. In other words, we find more and more ways to see the separation of people and ideologies which is another aspect of fear. It is all fear-based, and fear has but one objective and that is to create more fear. Whether it is CYA or not matters not. It is all fear-based and allowing fear to rule in our lives at whatever level that rule is allowed only and always creates more fear.

How do we release this hold that fear can have on us? Fear is not something that is fought for in the fighting of fear, fear is the driver, so there is only more fear. The first thing is realizing that fear is ruling us. The second thing is that we are always the chooser, and so we can choose something other. And, last, the only thing that fear cannot abide in is love. Love will always prevail if we only choose it. In politics, in business, in our families, in our lives, in the entire world. Indeed, God is Love, and as God is Love, we may choose that as well.


There's Always Someone To Blame, Yet Blame Is Not Righteousness. It Is Fear.

Spread Some Joy Today--by choosing joy for yourself. Once you have it, spreading it is possible.

Friday, August 2, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-2-19

"No matter what you give of
by way of authority to another, 
you are the one in choice. 
No one else can choose for you. 
No one else can change you. 
No one else can heal you 
in the beliefs that you hold."

-- Paul Selig




[New post]

One of the most important things that I have learned is to be in my dominion and to accept responsibility for my own thoughts. Certainly, I can be influenced by others in what they say or do, but no matter what, I am still in choice of what I think and thereby what I choose to say or do. No one can make me think something. It is always, always, always my own choice even on those occasions where I am choosing to blame someone other. It is still my choice to choose blame. That is still my own thought.

Here's a good example in real life. I'm walking down the street and I see a piece of trash someone left there. Do I pick it up and put it in the next receptacle I find? Do I leave it there? Do I try to determine who is responsible? Do I chastise the unknown person who dropped it there or the wind that blew it there? I am in my dominion. I am in my choice--my choice of thought and the consequences of that thought, those thoughts. The consequences is the doing. What do I choose to do?

There have been hundreds or maybe even thousands of times in my life where I thought that this piece of trash is not my doing and not my responsibility to do anything about it other than step over it or around it and be on my way. Now, most of the time, I pick it up. Many times even though I've walked 20 feet beyond it, I will realize that I can choose to turn around and pick it up. I'm not saving the world. I'm simply accepting my dominion in choice and choosing to do something that resonates within me.

There are millions of times in a long life where these simple choices can be chosen in one way or another. The thought creates the action or lack of action. It may be as simple as picking up the piece of trash rather than walking past it, or as complicated as standing up for my personal truth as it resonates within me as I choose love over fear.


I Am In My Dominion.

Spread Some Joy Today--as you find your resonance which means to be in-tune with the Love that is your Source.

Thursday, August 1, 2019

Daily Inspiration 8-1-19

"Equality is being
neither above,
nor below,
and not the same."

-- Albert K. Strong



[New post]

Being the same is not being equal. It is conformity. You could call it group thought. We agree with each other on certain things, yet in conformity, there is no life. In equality, there is plenty of life because we are honoring each other wherever we or they are. In equality, there is no desire to be more or to be less. Yet, we are celebrating (honoring) our diversity because to be the same is to have endedness. Life is indeed in the living, and the best that one can live is to appreciate equality and diversity at the same time. This is love.

I Honor Your Choice In Whatever You May Choose.

Spread Some Joy Today--by choosing that in which you can know and feel the resonance in your choice.

Wednesday, July 31, 2019

Daily Inspiration 7-31-19

"The first point of wisdom 
is to discern that which is false; 
the second, to know that which is true." 

-- Lactantius 


"Follow the light of your intuition, 
and keep away from the darkness of convention." 

-- Michael Bassey Johnson






[Classic post from 2-13-15]

I have come to believe that if we are to live our lives in abundance, love, feeling good, joy, empowerment, that we are first willing and second to learn to discern.

I would change the top quote by Lactantius to "The first point of empowerment in your life is to discern how you are feeling at any given time, seeing clearly what you do not want, and second to have that contrast to help you discern what it is that you want in this moment, and then move toward that."

In the second quote, "the darkness of convention" is that contrast, and it is all around us all the time as we move through the day. By paying attention to how we are feeling, we will notice how that darkness feels, then "the light of our intuition", or our own inner knowing, which is creating that feeling helps us guide us toward better feeling thoughts, as we discern by paying attention, then by allowing it.

Today, I had a discussion of the idea of 'facing our fears,' as an attempt to overcome them, wrestle them to the ground, erase them from our psyche, or at the very least to disempower them or control them. To me, that is fighting it. It is like facing a bully, facing the enemy, or even facing the facts. 

None of this really accomplishes the objective because whatever we focus on grows or expands. The way through is to change the thought to a better feeling thought, and the more we do this, the more those thoughts become dominant in our lives, causing the fears and other negative emotions to lose their power naturally. We cannot go back and fix the past because it is gone. What we can do is to choose different thoughts today.

This applies in every area of our lives, in business, in relationships, in families, and within our own minds. Wherever we choose to place our focus, will attract more of that which we are paying attention to. So, logically, if we pay attention to better feeling things, we will feel better. Yet so often, we are not paying attention or willing to pay attention because of the "darkness of convention" and all the "wisdom" of all those around us.

I recently saw it written that people are very particular about the car they drive, the clothes they wear, the food they eat, and yet so many are not even paying attention to nor discerning what they are thinking. They have a negative thought and feel those negative feelings and blame external things for that, including circumstances, events, other people and more.

Let's take an example of a salesperson who is feeling poorly because they are unsure, do not have confidence, knowledge, or don't have the tools they perceive they need. Or maybe they are focusing on their lack of success or production. They are far less likely to succeed in this endeavor until they can learn to pay attention to their feelings, then begin the process of choosing better feeling thoughts. Yesterday, I mentioned to a salesperson that he needed to focus on what is good, what is right, what the dealership is doing well, and to focus on himself doing the best that he can do with whatever he has at his disposal.

The single most important thing he (or any of us in every facet of life) has at his or her disposal is paying attention to how we feel, and finding ways to feel better and better until he or she is feeling confident, empowered, joyful, loving, excited, anticipating positive responses and more.

What drives us then, is one, to discern how we are feeling, then to notice that whenever we are not feeling good, this will cause us to know what we want. Often though, people will even do this but then focus on the lack of what they want instead of what they really want. In other words, they carry pessimism with them cancelling out what they want.

All we need do is perceive through discernment what we are feeling, realize that is not what we want, which causes us to notice what we do want, then turning toward that and finding better feeling thoughts until we arrive at a better feeling place. It's not rocket science. Instead, it is easy enough if we make a couple of decisions: One, that we want to feel good, do good, be successful, enjoy our lives. And, two, to pay attention to how we are feeling at any given time and if it is not to our liking, then turn and choose better feeling thoughts until we arrive.


No More Victims Of Circumstance. Choose To Be A Deliberate Creator Of The Life You Want. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by choosing thoughts that cause that feeling.

Tuesday, July 30, 2019

Daily Inspiration 7-30-19

"People often move 
 from job to job, 
profession to profession, 
employer to employer, 
only to find the next place 
no better than the last-- 
and the reason for that is, 
they take themselves 
everywhere they go." 

-- Abraham, Esther Hicks 




[Classic post from 2-12-15]

Abraham & Esther Hicks continues, "When you go to a new place and you continue to complain about what was wrong with your last position in order to explain why you came to the new position, the same vibrational mix of resistance goes with you and continues to prevent the thing you want from coming to you.

The best way to accomplish an improved work environment is to focus upon the best things about where you currently are until you flood your own vibrational patterns of thought with appreciation, and in that changed vibration, you can then allow the new-and-improved conditions and circumstances to come into your experience.

Some worry that if they follow our encouragement to look for good things about where they are, it will only hold them longer in the unwanted place, but the opposite is really true: In your state of appreciation, you lift all self-imposed limitations (and all limitations are self-imposed) and you free yourself for the receiving of wonderful things."

Today I was talking with a salesman who was complaining to me about what the dealership is not doing that he thinks will make a dramatic difference and he is amazed that they have not done it. He was new to this dealership and I asked if I could give him a bit of advice. I told him to "stop complaining, especially since you're new and to focus only on the positive things about the dealership, what they are doing well, and to focus on what you can do with what you have to work with." He said, "I'm not complaining, it's just that. . ." I stopped him abruptly and said that he was indeed complaining and it won't help in the least.

It's interesting how people complain and yet deny they are complaining. Somehow they think they are pointing out the facts and that should be accepted that way, but it has nothing to do with facts because they are slippery things. It was complaining.

The best thing to do here is to begin appreciating, create a book of positive aspects and write the many appreciations down on paper and keep adding to it regularly. That is the solution to the issue. Focus on what is right and good and ignore the rest.

In the mid-1970s, I hired an experienced salesman, then within a few days, I overheard him complaining about the dealership to several of the other salespeople. I called him into my office and fired him on the spot. He was cancer in the organization, and I wanted him to take his crap somewhere else.

Whatever we complain about, we create more of. Whatever we appreciate, we create more of. Whatever we focus on, we create more of.


"The Secret To All Success Is Keeping Yourself Happy." -- Abraham, Esther Hicks 

Spread Some Joy Today--by appreciating anything and everything that you can.

Monday, July 29, 2019

Daily Inspiration 7-29-19

"The problem is not
that there are problems. 
The problem is expecting otherwise 
and thinking that having problems 
is a problem." 

-- Theodore Rubin 




[Classic post from 2-11-15]

I used such a wonderful and truthful quote the other day by John Muir: "When we tug at a single thing in nature, we find it attached to the rest of the world." It's interesting to look at things that way, including our lives, and in business, interactions with others and more.

As an example, I was talking with someone the other day and he said that a body shop was not doing well at the moment and they've been in business for a very long time. Then it came to me that it has been such a mild and warm winter with very little rain, and it then reminded me that body shops probably generally thrive in the average winter because of slick roads, lots of rain, poor visibility, being in a hurry and all manner of causes to give body shops a lot of business.

This year has had very little rain, very infrequently, and all of it warm. In fact, in California, there has been a long, multi-year drought and there's no indication that that is changing as of today. The drought or lack of rain is more than just rain, it is the snowpack in the Sierra's that means more than just rain. And the rain has benefits and then it also has what many will call problems. But, are they really?

When it rains several days and there is a significant amount of rain, it is of benefit to the landscaping, plants, trees, flowers, shrubs, and more. At the same time, it can cause the ground to soften, then trees to fall with even small amounts of wind, knockdown power lines, crash into roofs, and more. And yet there are more benefits to the tree service companies taking care of the removal of the tree, the landscaping companies to replace the tree, the power people to repair the line, the construction people to fix the house, the roofing people to replace the section of roof, and maybe even get a job to replace the entire roof because it was getting old anyway, the painting company to redo the paint and trim, the telephone people to fix the wiring, the electrician to redo that wiring, or even upgrade service, the insurance company who helps with all of that, the new choices the homeowner gets to make since they have this new opportunity, and on and on it goes with the benefits.

Everything is perception. Calling it a problem is generally thought of as a negative, yet it can also be shown to be a huge positive as I demonstrated in the last paragraph. It all depends on your point of view, and every single thing that occurs on this planet has its pluses and minuses similar to what I have shown here.

What I find interesting in how I've changed since 2007 is that I see all of these things and prior to that, a problem was a problem and a benefit was a benefit. Now I see them both in everything that happens. I might have a reaction for a very short time, and then I will remember that there is no problem without a benefit, if not many benefits. At the same time, the opposite is true. However, the perspective that I have now is such a blessing to be able to not be upset about things because I know full well that there is always a silver lining. I even get excited about events to see what the benefits are going to be.


Seek And Ye Shall Find. Open Your Eyes And Your Mind To New Possibilities, New Ways Of Looking At Things. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by focusing on the benefits, seeking your own joyful perspective, and sharing it by just being yourself.

Sunday, July 28, 2019

Daily Inspiration 7-28-19

"Writing something down onto paper 
is your strongest point of focus." 

-- Abraham, Esther Hicks 






[Classic post from 2-10-15]

I don't know about you, but when I am writing something down, it is far more beneficial to me than just thinking the thought. I've known this for many years, and I've written several thousand pages of things down through my life. The act has a way of clarifying things, and it helps things that are just pieces of thoughts to be assembled into a larger picture. It helps me to grow and learn and expand.

Based on this, you might say that these Daily Inspirations are purely selfish in nature because they help me to collect and expand my thinking, and at the same time, offers a way of sending that out as a message for any who are wanting to receive it. And in turn, it seems that many find some benefit in that, perhaps even helping them clarify, grow and expand, which helps them to share, thereby benefiting others, and so it has now all around the world. And, it is all because it was written down. 

Have you ever sat down with pen and paper, or on your electronic paper, and write out what you want? Have you ever tried to write it as storytelling it with you as the leading character, and telling it the way you want things to be in your life? There is great value in this.

Have you ever sat down and written out your goals? Short term, mid and long term goals? A bucket list? Just a list of things you want to do someday? All of those are desires or wants. The more you want them, the more you will focus on them and the faster they will come about. The main thing about anything on any of these lists is to pay attention to how you feel when you think about them, focus on them, write them down. Because they are wants, you should have a good feeling when you write them out. In some cases, there are things you want more, so you will feel an even stronger positive emotion about them.

At the same time, if you are writing down something you want, and you are not sure you deserve it, or you have no idea how it will come, or you're sick and tired of it not coming yet, or you think you will never have the money to do it, and any number of negative thoughts, you are working against your own desires and canceling them out before they even have a chance to come into manifestation.

One easy word that gives you a strong clue is the word 'but.' When you state something and then say, but. . . and fill in that blank, whatever you wanted is effectively canceled. More important than the canceling would be the fact that now you have set in motion the act of bringing more of that 'but' thinking and 'but' manifestations. "I want that, but I cannot afford it." This is a common statement. What you wanted is immediately canceled, and you get more of the 'but I cannot afford it' in your life. Now there will be more things that you cannot afford, maybe even less money than you had before. You have to get your but out.

Also when you are writing these wants down, if there is a but in your thinking, you will be feeling negative emotion if you are paying attention. It might only start as discomfort, and it will often grow into disappointment, frustration, anger, powerlessness. The negative emotion is your Emotional Guidance System working on your behalf to let you know that you are helping grow more of what you do not want.

It's time to change this. It's time to change this NOW.

Start by writing what you want and if you feel but negatives going on, stop immediately and pivot by saying, 'Well, I am seeing an issue here. What is causing this negative thought? That was how I used to think, and now I think differently. Today, I focus my energy and thoughts on what I WANT. I refuse to give any more energy to what I DO NOT WANT.

If you still have any issue, cross it off, erase it for now and move on, all the while realizing that you have just made massive progress by paying attention to how you feel, pivoting and focusing on what you DO WANT and what DOES cause you to feel good, and as you focus there, these things are on their way to you.


One Easy Way To Get The 'But' Out Is To Put The 'And' In. Using That One Word Automatically Causes You To Expand On The Want Rather Than Canceling It. 

Spread Some Joy Today--and feel how that feels to you. There is nothing like it.

Saturday, July 27, 2019

Daily Inspiration 7-27-19

"Expectations are a form 
of first-class truth: 
If people believe it, 
it's true." 

-- Bill Gates 




[Classic post from 2-9-15]

Based on looking at quite a number of quotes about expectation, most seem to follow one by Michael Landon: "I don't have expectations. Expectations in your life just lead to giant disappointments." Eric Hoffer said, "Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy--the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation."

It seems that of the ones I went through, the vast majority of that expectation is negative. I had a salesperson tell me a long time ago that they could not set goals because of the potential for disappointment. In other words, they are expecting things to not work out.

Yet every subject is two subjects according to Abraham-Hicks. They say that each subject is like picking up a stick that has two ends and it just depends what end of the stick you have hold of. Earl Nightingale says it very well when he said, "Our environment, the world in which we live and work, is a mirror of our attitudes and expectations."

The other end of the stick is positive expectations. Norman Vincent Peale said, "If you paint in your mind a picture of bright and happy expectations, you put yourself into a condition conducive to your goal." Sam Walton put it a bit differently by saying, "High expectations are the key to everything." 

From a workshop in 2003, Abraham said this and it really got my attention: "The majority have been programmed from their past experiences to expect ________. And while it is something they don't want, they are programmed to expect it. And so, they're going to get what they expect. It's not that what they expect is the reality that everyone lives, but that everyone lives the reality of what they expect."

The blank that I inserted, in the quote actually was two words: physical decline. But, I like it better where you fill in the blank because that quote can stand firm and accurate with a thousand situations or ideas. We could insert, "less money after retirement and less freedom," or "to become larger as they get older," or "the rich get richer and the poor get poorer," or "to make less money because I'm a woman," or "to expect low paying jobs," or "that the cards are stacked against me," or, "those people are just a bunch of terrorists," or a thousand other things that we have come to believe about the world.

So what can we do with this idea of expectations, especially when they are not serving me? Start by wanting to be aware of your own Emotional Guidance System and pay attention to how you feel when you think about these subjects. If you are not feeling good, that is a clear indication that it isn't serving you. It can be reprogrammed by seeking better feeling thoughts, or by pivoting which I discussed yesterday.

There is simply and only one requirement. You have to want to change. It will never happen on its own, and in fact, it will only get worse by the Law of Attraction adding more thoughts, circumstances, people, and events to strengthen what you are expecting by your focus on it. The opposite is equally true. By changing directions and moving toward that which you want and what feels good when you think about it, you are thereby reprogramming yourself by programming yourself for feeling good and changing from expecting the worst to expecting the best.


You Get What You Expect. What Are You Expecting? What Are Your Expectations? How Does That Make You Feel? 

Spread Some Joy Today--because it is just like shining a light into a dark room.

Friday, July 26, 2019

Daily Inspiration 7-26-19

"What if you could?" 

-- Alan Cohen 




[Classic post from 2-8-15]

Sometimes in sharing ideas when I think people may be ready to hear, someone will object stating that it is hard and unrealistic to be positive all the time. I actually agree with that because contrast, or a thing that we do not want, or do not like, cause us to feel negative emotion. In the newspapers, radio and TV news, the Internet and via friends and coworkers, there is plenty of contrast that can cause us to feel that negative emotion. So yes, staying positive all the time cannot be if we are to grow and expand.

The only issue is how long we stay in that place.

Abraham and Esther Hicks point out, "Many around you want to point out "reality" to you. They say, "Face the facts. Look at what-is." And we say to you if you are able to see only what-is--then, by Law of Attraction, you will create only more of what-is. . . You must be able to put your thoughts beyond what-is in order to attract something different or something more."

Facts are stubborn things. They are not easy to ignore. But, as Albert Einstein so aptly pointed out, "the definition of insanity is doing the same things, and expecting a different result." Or, more appropriately, thinking the same things and expecting a different result cannot work.


It might be a while. . . Change can take time, but the better the focus, the less time is needed. But one thing is certain. Without the change, things will remain the same or so similar that you cannot tell them apart.

My own previous tendency toward negative thinking is simply that I would think the worst more times than of the best outcome. I would misplace my keys, wallet, or something else and immediately start thinking that someone took it, moved it without my knowledge, and a long list of other silliness. It hardly ever turned out to be true, but it was my first thought. It's a challenge to change that kind of momentum, but it can be done when we decide we want to.

Enter one of the best tools for positive change I have found called Pivoting. I shared it briefly before, and it is so powerful and easy. Now, when I have a negative thought or scenario about a negative outcome, I pay attention to what I am feeling. When I have thoughts like that, I tense up inside, feel bad (worry, blame, discouragement, disappointment, etc.) and I am paying attention, I can immediately stop the thought, and make a statement to myself, or even aloud sometimes. I will say, "That is what I don't want. What is it that I do want?"

This is one powerful statement and question that changes my focus immediately in search of what it is that I do want. Before I was only seeing "reality" or imagining something that I did not want, and now I have pivoted and gone a different direction, choosing different thoughts, feeling better thoughts.

If you have ever had a tendency like I did, I think that this process will help you move from being negative, which is more in our self-talk than anything, to thinking more positively, and from that better perspective, or vantage point, you will find more joy and better results. It is only the desire to change, and this pivoting process will help add energy and focus to that desire for change, that will help change to something better rather than changing to more of the same.


I love how Abraham puts it from the book, Ask and It Is Given and based on this, one might even decide to get excited about negative emotion:

"When you are feeling negative emotion, you are in a very good position to identify what you want. Because never are you more clear about what you do want than when you are experiencing what you do not want. And so, if you will stop in that moment and say, Something is important here, otherwise I would not be feeling this negative emotion; I need to focus on what I want, and then turn your attention to what it is that you want--in the moment of the turning of your attention, the negative emotion and the negative attraction will stop. And in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And your feelings will change from not feeling good to feeling good. That is the process of Pivoting."


100% Positive May Not Be Possible, But How About 90-95%? How Would That Feel? 

Spread Some Joy Today--In your own expansion and positive change, and in celebrating your decision to change, joy is the immediate result. It will not go unnoticed, I assure you.