Tuesday, September 18, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-18-18

"Judgments prevent us from seeing 
the good that lies beyond appearances." 

-- Wayne Dyer 

[Classic post from 8-1-14]

The ego is very strong and often taken for granted in our lives. Because the ego wants to be number one and everyone else is secondary, judgment of others is a given, and often those judgments are based on assumptions and poor information. Yet, allowing the ego to control us is our own choice. We can choose to let it rule or we can rule.

Today, I went downtown and on the way back I had the passenger window down for Charlie to hang his nose out in the air. At a stoplight, the car behind the car beside me had a lady yelling with anger about this and that and that and this. I thought maybe she was on the phone with someone but I could not see her from my vantage point. She went on for the length of the entire red light.

As the light turned green and we began moving, I was curious to see the person in the car, but they got in behind the person behind me and I did get a glimpse from my mirror as they got in the turn lane to turn left. It was a man and a woman and the woman was on the passenger side. At first, I thought how loud it must have been in his ear for me to hear it two cars up! It was obvious that she was extremely upset and in disagreement with someone.

It would have been normal for me to think what a loudmouth she was and fantasize about why she might have been upset, or to think she is just crazy or something else. At that moment, I thought about loving everyone else on the planet, and I decided to send her love mentally and spiritually. I was lifting her up to her highest self and pictured her bathed in the glow of the love of the Universe, encouraging her to accept it and benefit from that better feeling perspective. I did that for about a mile or two after they turned.

Then I realized that rather than making up judgments about others where ever they find themselves in their travels, that I would simply offer loving thoughts and uplifting thoughts just in case it helps in some mystical way. Who knows if it works or not? I'm not sure that even matters. What matters most is that it works for me.

The Power Of Love Is Undeniable. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by sending your loving thoughts vocally or silently.

Monday, September 17, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-17-18

"Mirth is God's medicine. 
Everybody ought to bathe in it." 

-- Henry Ward Beecher 

[Classic post from 7-31-14]

They say that laughter is the best medicine and I find a lot of things funny, so it's all good. One of my favorite, silly, yet so funny movies that I own is a farce called, My Blue Heaven with Steve Martin and Rick Moranis, among other greats. I've watched it several times and find myself laughing aloud each time and most of the way through. There are some really funny lines, and Steve Martin is classic, and in addition, the cast selection is superb.

What I found for the first time watching it again tonight is that it was written by Nora Ephron and executive producers were Nora Ephron, Goldie Hawn, and Andrew Stone. I adore Nora Ephron movies and she is so funny as a writer and director. I had no idea she was involved in this movie until tonight. Interesting.

Nora has written books, screenplays, essays, drama and more. Some of her work is Sleepless In Seattle, You've Got Mail, When Harry Met Sally, Silkwood, Heartburn and more. I love her book, I Feel Bad About My Neck and Other Thoughts On Being A Woman. In fact, I love all of her work and movies and own most of them. She helps me to laugh.

Laughter simply has a way of brightening my day and the more of it I find, the better I feel about everything. Don't you find the same thing? It doesn't matter how serious things might get if you have laughter available on demand.

My business partner helps me to laugh often, I laugh with clients and I have learned to laugh at myself when I find myself doing something goofy, strange, or just interesting.

I have a number of signs I made around my office room. One in a prominent location says, No Seriousness Allowed!, another says, Lighten Up! Have More Fun! These days, I find that my main goal in life is simply to enjoy myself and I find a lot of ways to do just that. Oh, and I do some work here and there in between. Just for the fun of it.

What A Life!

Spread Some Joy Today--What can it hurt? In fact, it may soften a lot of hurts.

Sunday, September 16, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-16-18

"It takes great learning 
to understand that all things, 
events, encounters, and 
circumstances are helpful." 

-- A Course In Miracles 

[Classic post from 8-7-14]

Wayne Dyer states in his book, There's A Spiritual Solution For Every Problem: "Great learning is an understatement! It takes great faith and courage to begin to view our lives in this way."

Later, he goes on to say, "Our conditioning is so strong that we often have far greater faith in our problems than we do in our ability to no longer have them. We often display a much greater faith in the power of cancer, heart disease, or AIDS than we do in the power to heal them."

To put it all in context, he says, "Our best thinking is exactly where all our so-called problems exist. If we couldn't think about them, they would not exist." And he adds, "You cannot send problems out of your life by attacking them or understanding them in more depth."

What I find true in many cases is that we want to attack them, or prior to attacking them, we want to fully understand them and all the ramifications that may be involved. This is particularly true of disease. I know this from experience that studying it has little or no effect on healing, but it has a huge effect on continuing along that path.

Solutions require different thinking than examining or discussing the problem. As Albert Einstein said so well long ago, "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking which created them."

The easiest way to solve problems without losing our sanity is simply to acknowledge them as what they appear to be, bless them for what benefits they may contain, and then let go of them so that we can change our focus to solutions instead of focusing on problems. Once acknowledged and then appreciated, they become less of an issue already and this more naturally leads us toward the answers we thought we were seeking, but in truth, we were just beating the drum of the problem in lots of different ways. Hence, letting go is the best place to begin.

All Problems Are Mired In The Past. Solutions Are In The Present. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by connecting with people today and giving them your love and attention.

Saturday, September 15, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-15-18

"The fact that you are willing to say, 
"I do not understand, and it is fine," 
is the greatest understanding you could exhibit." 

-- Wayne Dyer 

[Classic post from 7-29-14]

I just finished reading a couple of treats. One was James Garner, whom I have always admired and who died within the last week. He published an autobiography, The Garner Files in 2011 and it was absolutely fascinating. What a life! It's amazing he made it through his twenties, let alone into his eighties.

The other was, I Can See Clearly Now by Wayne Dyer, which is also an autobiography handled in a very interesting manner. Another fascinating life, and still living it fully. Though I learned so much about him and his early life in the book, what I took out of it mostly was my travels with Wayne, how and when I walked away, and then much later came back to his fine teachings, and yet, even though there is so much that he has taught that has resonated perfectly with me, there is also much that has not, and that I don't understand in the way he does.

I read his first book published shortly after it came out. It hit the world by storm in a very short time and it was called Your Erroneous Zones. Since I was studying a lot of self-help psychology in the early seventies, this book was perfect for me at the time and I loved it. His follow up the second book, Pulling Your Own Strings, was equally powerful for me and was what I needed at the time, along with a few million others on the planet.

I was very much into Transactional Analysis from, I'm Okay, You're Okay, and other similar books then as well. I was looking for ways to understand my emotions, other people and what they did, my own motivations, and so much more. I read everything I got my hands on from a wide variety of authors introducing this new genre of self-help books.

Then Wayne departed from psychology for the masses and was exploring spirituality and doing his best to interpret that for the masses. I read, but couldn't keep up with that change, so I backed off and went looking for other authors.

In 2007, I finally came back and began reading some of Wayne's books again. It was the book, The Secret, that got me enthused and reinvigorated toward learning about what I call practical spirituality. It was the same thing that appealed to me about Wayne Dyer with Your Erroneous Zones. It was the practical, common sense explanations that helped me to develop a greater and greater understanding. Then with Wayne's, The Power of Intention, Eckhart Tolle, Esther Hicks, and many others, I was back on the path and excited all over again.

What I enjoyed about Wayne's autobiography, I Can See Clearly Now was the transition he made and mine were so similar but the timing was not the same. It's interesting to sort of "grow up" with someone; an author; a mentor that I've never met or talked to, and though he is about 9 years older, it is like having a big brother.

I am so full of gratitude for Wayne, and all these other teachers who have been opening my eyes and heart to a better life. And, it is only getting better still.

Enjoying The Wonder Of My Own Expansion.

Spread Some Joy Today--There's more joy where that came from!

Friday, September 14, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-14-18

"Sell your cleverness 
and buy bewilderment." 

-- Rumi 

[Classic post from 7-28-14]

This is not just wonderful spiritual advice. Just imagine every day going through life at home, at work, in relationships with this awe and curious approach. The wonder of it all and the value of it all. The wonder of each other and the value of each one.

An Outstanding Bargain. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by simply enjoying yourself in whatever you find you are doing.

Thursday, September 13, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-13-18

"When it is dark enough, 
you can see the stars." 

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson 

[Classic post from 7-27-14]

It is fascinating to me what I thought of when I read the quote above. Of course, we all know that when the sun goes down and it becomes dark, and if it is a clear sky, that we can see thousands of stars at sea level. Even when we are at a higher altitude like four or five thousand feet, and away from the lights of the city, we can then see millions of stars with our naked eye.

Then, if we used a large telescope, we could see billions of stars, and then if we took the telescope into space out of the Earth's atmosphere, and took some time, we could see billions of galaxies of billions of stars, along with uncountable numbers of planets and other objects that we cannot see.

It's all there. It is always there. And, if we didn't go out at night and look, we would not even know it existed, but it does with or without our observation of it, or knowledge of it.

Everything that we think we might want is there. As we look deeper into space, we see no end to the abundance. It is there. It is always there. We may not be able to see it with our eyes right now because we are blinded by the daylight, or the circumstances, or the noise, but it is there with or without our observation of it, or knowledge of it.

It is not something we seek so much as it is something we open our awareness to. Then by believing it, and knowing it is there and has always been there, we may experience it.

It Isn't Lost. It Isn't Found. It Is. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Jump in with both feet. It feels great.

Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-12-18

"What you seek is seeking you." 

-- Rumi 

[Classic post from 7-26-14]

In all my years of learning, seeking, experiencing, there is one thing that stands out above all else other than virtues like unconditional love, joy, etc. It is this: The most powerful thing for a human being to have is the knowledge of what he or she wants. Expressed another, simpler way, it is desire.

We need to know what to move toward, look forward to, draw to us.

Sometimes we may not know what we want and it is telling in our lives. We lack enthusiasm, and we don't feel alive. We may feel lost. It isn't about feeling bad or feeling depressed, although that can certainly come as a result of this, but just a listlessness that is a great indicator that we have lost desire. Without desire, there is no life.

A good question expressed in the form of a desire is the best thing to grab onto here by saying to God or the Universe, 'I want to know what I want!' It almost sounds silly to say such a thing but saying it is important. It looks weird to write such a thing but writing it is important. It is important because knowing what I want is the life in the living and without it, a life not worth living.

What we want will always be a moving target. This is why it is called living. We may not even reach the desire before we have a stronger desire to replace it and that is perfection. It is, after all, the desire itself that is life.

"Everything In The Universe Is Within You. Ask All From Yourself." -- Rumi

Spread Some Joy Today--Seek and you shall find.

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-11-18

"The components of anxiety, stress, fear, and anger 
 do not exist independently of you in the world. 
They simply do not exist in the physical world, 
even though we talk about them as if they do." 

-- Wayne Dyer 

[Classic post from 7-25-14]

When people say such things as, 'I'm having an anxiety attack!', or 'you make me angry!', or 'this job gives me so much stress,' or 'I'm afraid it's going to get worse before it gets better,' they all mean it I'm sure, and yet they are all victims at the same time.

Anxiety doesn't attack, others cannot make us angry, jobs cannot create stress, and all fear is generally a fantasy taking place in the future.

When we take control of ourselves and realize that, as Dr. Wayne Dyer states so nicely, these things do not exist in the world independent of us, or in other words, they are fully our own creation for our own purposes, we may find more peaceful and self-fulfilling lives. 

Choose Relief Instead. Choose A Better Feeling Thought. Baby Steps If Necessary. 

Spread Some Joy Today--be yourself--the real you.

Monday, September 10, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-10-18

"Be hearty
in your approbation
and lavish
in your praise."

-- Dale Carnegie

[New post]

A couple of days ago I was looking at information on a new Redbox release of a movie and it had two reviews. I was amazed at one and laughed at them both. The title of the movie doesn't really matter, but it was Ideal Home. Redbox has a 5-star possible rating.

Here was the 3-star positive review:

"This movie is a heartwarming story, with lots of witty banter that makes you laugh. Touching, funny, well written. Even my boyfriend, who thought it was going to be stupid, [he] thought it was funny, and enjoyed watching it. Well worth the watch. I almost gave it a 4-star."

Here was the negative 1-star review:

"liberal rubbish."

I thought it was interesting that the 3-star was so positive and using words like heartwarming, touching, funny, lots of witty banter, and well written, and yet only gave it a 3-star rating. She even mentioned that she was on the fence of giving it a 4-star rating but chose not to.

The other review, of which I have seen so many on Redbox and elsewhere is so negative that it isn't worth any more than some laughter at the effort they took to put it down. How sad.

So, here's the message I intended. Why would we withhold praise? Why would we withhold approval? What are we saving those other two stars for? Why would you want to spread dung as in the liberal rubbish quote? What value is that coming out of our minds and fingers or mouth?

The joy of appreciation is in appreciation. The value of praise is in the praise or the upliftment. The value of approval is in approving. 

I have learned that to approve and appreciate and to praise openly and often has caused the most dramatic shift in my love centeredness. The Apostle Paul said to "pray without ceasing." This is to be in love, to be in joy, and to see the world with the new eyes of being "born again."

Years ago back in the 1970's, I studied Transactional Analysis. In that, there were those who stated that we have two bags with us at all times. One is a bag of warm fuzzies. They feel good to give and feel good to get and they are just delightful things to share with the world around us. The other bag had cold pricklies. These feel cold, harsh, and are not desired by anyone. Yet, somehow we came to think that the bag may become empty, and so we began saving our warm fuzzies for those special times and with special people. We never want to run out of warm fuzzies. They are so valuable that we must be careful not to empty the bag, and so we dip into the cold pricklies so that we at least give something. 

But, the underlying truth is that both bags are bottomless, and when we realize that we can pray without ceasing, praise lavishly, and be in love every moment of every day, we can then drop the cold pricklies bag and stick with the only bag we will ever really want or need.

The Choice Is Ours Alone. Knowledge Is Powerful. Awareness Is Supreme.

Spread some joy today--by being hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise. Give lots of 5-star reviews wherever you roam. You will notice the difference immediately.

Sunday, September 9, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-9-18

"The only limitation 
placed on our abilities 
is our inability 
to easily recognize 
our unlimited nature." 

 -- Jim Rohn 

[Classic post from 7-23-14]

Continuing with another post from Jim Rohn's wonderful book, The Seasons of Life, I think that I relate so well to the quote above. I do believe that we are unlimited beings and so often we see our limitations instead. It's part of the time and space thing, I'm sure.

He goes on to make it even more interesting: "It takes effort to become aware of our staggering and limitless abilities. It takes effort to become enthusiastic over a cause, or an occupation. It takes effort to continue when our results--as well as our friends--tell us to give up trying. It takes effort to feel right about everything that happens--the joy as well as the sorrows of life. And it also takes effort to learn to love ourselves above all others, especially when we are so consciously aware of our failures, doubts, and tragedies."

Jim continues, "It does not, however, take effort to fail. It requires little else than a slowly deteriorating attitude about our present, our future, and about ourselves. It is ironic that one of the few things in this life over which we have total control is our own attitudes, and yet most of us live our entire life behaving as though we had no control whatsoever."

Finally, he fills in the rest with, "By our attitude, we decide to read, or not to read. By our attitude, we decide to try or give up. By our attitude, we blame ourselves for our failure, or we foolishly blame others. Our attitude determines whether we love or hate, tell the truth or lie, act or procrastinate, advance or recede, and by our own attitude we and we alone actually decide whether to succeed or fail."

I have always loved how graphically attitude can be seen in an airplane, even if all you could see were the instruments. The picture above is called an artificial horizon and it graphically shows your airplane's attitude relative to the horizon. The yellow in the middle is the plane, the blue is the sky, the brown is the earth. Push the nose down, you see mostly earth, pull it up, mostly sky, turn right or left and it shows that visually.

Our own internal compass, or rather, artificial horizon, demonstrates our own attitude relative to other things. It may not be earth and sky, but you get the idea. Straight and narrow is good. Feeling good is good. How we feel is our true artificial horizon. By knowing how we feel, we know where our attitude is and what to do to correct or improve it. All we need to do essentially is pay attention and be interested in feeling better.

They Say, 'Attitude Is Everything.' I Think That Is A Fair Statement. A Better One Is, How We Feel Is The Best Indicator Of Our Current Attitude. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Choose to feel good today. Make a conscious choice.

Saturday, September 8, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-8-18

"What we have been
is an established and unchangeable fact. 
What we can yet become 
is an unlimited, boundless opportunity." 

-- Jim Rohn 

[Classic post from 7-22-14]

Continuing the quote by Jim Rohn above, he says, "Therefore, do not allow your awareness of past difficulty or failures to adversely affect your current and future possibilities." This is a quote from Jim's great book, The Seasons of Life. This little gem of a book is only 125 pages and almost all of them have art on them, so it is short, yet is full of sparkles of wisdom from a so-called and self-professed failure who found a mentor who led him in a completely different and far more productive direction.

The chapter these quotes came from is The Effect of Environment on Circumstance. At the beginning he says, "All of us, whether rich or poor, young or old, educated or not so educated, is the sum total of all those people and events that have touched us since first entering this world." He says that every thought we've had, movies we've watched, TV shows, and books we've read have had their effect. "Every disappointment, triumph, doubt, dream, and love for someone each had their effect. What we are and what we have, we have slowly brought upon ourselves. It is the human tendency to blame someone or something else for our lack of progress--we blame government, competitors, managers, inflation, pay schedules and even the traffic and weather for our circumstances."

But, he says, "Those people and events which have left their mark--whether favorable or unfavorable--are now behind us. What happened even as recently as yesterday is no longer of any consequence unless we choose to allow it to be. What is of great importance is who and what it is that leaves its mark today, and each day thereafter."

You know, I think it is so important to understand that every second of every day, we are beginning anew. We have certainly gathered a lot of experience and influences along our path, and yet, we get to choose what we do with that mass of information. If we are to use that information gathered all of our lives to our best advantage today, it would be to love it all, not feel that anything should have been different, and accept it as it was and how it was would have been full of value and benefit.

The only time we have that we can do anything with is this second, so often called the NOW. What was has been. It all had value. It all had benefits. If you didn't see that, it may be worth another look. Then, we can make choices here and now for whatever we want today. We do get to choose all of that. There is nothing and no one to blame. However, there may be plenty of people, events and circumstances to thank once we see the value and benefit, and I can absolutely state as fact in my life that being thankful for all that has been is the best and most sure footing for moving forward today.

Wherever You Are Now Is A Perfect Place To Begin. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by blessing the path you have been traveling while learning to enjoy the view.

Friday, September 7, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-7-18

"A great many people 
think they are thinking 
when they are merely 
rearranging their prejudices." 

-- William James 

[Classic post from 7-21-14]

What a wonderful and insightful quote. You can tell someone is rearranging their prejudices whenever you hear them say, "yes, but. . ."

"The Greatest Weapon Against Stress Is Our Ability To Choose One Thought Over Another." -- William James 

Spread Some Joy Today--by letting go of your prejudices, it becomes second nature.

Thursday, September 6, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-6-18

"The only man I know 
who behaves sensibly is my tailor; 
he takes my measurements anew
each time he sees me. 
The rest go on with their old measurements 
and expect me to fit them." 

-- George Bernard Shaw 

[Classic post from 7-20-14]

Often we may not realize how much people change unless we periodically see a child at two and then four and then six and ten. How easy it is to see how they change physically from that perspective. Yet, we are all constantly changing, rearranging, becoming, modifying beliefs, maturing or not, and of course, adults change physically plenty though it may not show nearly so easily as in the child.

It's good to catch up and see how things are now. We know that we are changing, and we may assume others are not because we may not be around them much. They are.

Time to measure anew.

Also, Time To Accept, Love And Appreciate Anew. . . 

Spread Some Joy Today--by putting down the rope every time you feel that you have picked it back up. Joy is always letting go.

Wednesday, September 5, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-5-18

"The single biggest problem in communication
is the illusion that it has taken place."

-- George Bernard Shaw

[Classic post from 7-19-14]

I smiled when I saw this quote because its truth has been shown in some recent so-called communications. How many times have we told someone something and later they have no recollection of it. My late wife, Nancy used to say so often how she told me about this or that and I thought for sure I was hearing it for the first time.

It might remind us that communication is not only something we sometimes take for granted, and also that it requires more than one participant. Like the radio or television signal, there is a transmitter and a receiver that makes the whole thing work. So too then, is paying attention when transmitting and receiving.

Memory Can Be A Tricky Thing. . .

Spread Some Joy Today--Pay attention to how joy is all around you today. Let it be yours!

Tuesday, September 4, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-4-18

"What we profess,
what we think,
and what we do
may all be in different camps"

-- Albert K Strong

[Classic post from 7-18-14]

Have you ever seen, or been in a loving family where brothers, sisters, parents, children get angry with another and then hold on to their own righteousness as if it is the correct response? Obviously, one is making choices that are upsetting the other, but the real question is why? And an even better question is where is the love?

I can totally understand that someone else's choice is not one that I might make, but to disagree and call it wrong, and then to hold on to it at the expense of the relationship is absurd. They might even say that we are selfish in our choice, but the true selfishness is not in making the choice but trying to get others to live according to our own opinion.

What is the downside to loving people where they are and for who they are and celebrating their choices, whatever they may be? The only downside is our own bruised ego. But, how can we love and not actually love? How do we define love? Would that be how we would want to be loved? Obviously, much of what we call love is conditional love. If you do what I think you should do then I will love you and if you do not, and I cannot change your mind, then I don't want to have anything to do with you.

The best answer I have ever found is loving unconditionally. As Wayne Dyer taught me so well with this quote, it is a choice. It is not automatic. We get to choose each and every time. "Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you." Love is the ability and willingness. . . Some are not so willing it seems. Allowing others the respect, dignity, and authority to make their own choices, and then let me love them no matter their choices, no matter their agreement with or disagreement with my own. It is the only way that makes any sense if we want to call it love.

Yet, as important as this is to learn a better definition of love and how to love people, it is the willingness to actually practice it that will have it become part of our lives. We will always have things in other people we will disagree with no matter whether it is family, or outside of the family, but we can learn to let them be as they choose without any insistence that they satisfy us. Insisting they satisfy us is the height of selfishness so we can practice letting go of our resistance to what the other thinks and does by remembering that it isn't really them at all. It is us. We are creating the resistance in ourselves. It is our own thinking that creates the divide or learns to love.

How Important Would Your Disagreement Be If The One You Disagreed With Were To Die This Afternoon?

Spread Some Joy Today--Just let it go. Joy is downstream.

Monday, September 3, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-3-18

"Habit is habit, and not to be
flung out of the window by any man,
but coaxed down-stairs one step at a time."

-- Mark Twain

[Classic post from 7-17-14]

Yesterday, I heard myself saying something about a business and its leader that after it fell out of my mouth, a few minutes later upon reflection of what I said, I wrote down on my notepad this remark: Stop that!

Knowing how I want to be can help me to become that and yet as Margaret Atwood said so well, "Every habit he's ever had is still there in his body, lying dormant like flowers in the desert. Given the right conditions, all his old addictions would burst into full and luxuriant bloom."

The big advantage for me now is that I am paying attention to what comes out of my mouth and how I feel about that, and this helps me to make choices from my thoughts of what actually comes out of my mouth. There is a substantial improvement over years past, yet the habits remain and from time to time become vocalized.

What to do? Realize the progress, feel good about the awareness, bless it and let it go, and live to enjoy another day.

Sometimes The More I Think I Know Something, The Less I Really Know.

Spread Some Joy Today--Bless it and move on.

Sunday, September 2, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-2-18

"I wanted to change the world. 
But I have found that the only thing 
one can be sure of is changing oneself." 

-- Aldous Huxley 

[Classic post from 7-15-14]

It's really kind of interesting how we can see how things can be so much better if only the other person would make the changes we think will make all the difference. Why in the world can't they see it? Even when I try to show them with facts and figures, along with plenty of dialogs, they proceed to do things the way they've been doing, or if they change, so often they are listening to the wrong people and all of it is a big mistake. Are they blind? Can't they see the reality of the situation? Surely, they should be open to the wisdom of how to do things right or better. Why won't they listen? I don't get it.

Well. . . I cannot tell you how many times I have said that exact dialog or some more expressive version of it. It seems that everywhere I have worked in my life, I could see things that needed to be changed that would make a big difference and the owner or manager just didn't seem to agree or even be much interested.

Heck, I call it swimming upstream now, and I did a serious amount of swimming upstream most of my life. Yet, everything that all of us wants is downstream. Changing the world, changing the company culture, changing others is serious work and all upstream. And, it only leads to unhappiness and loads of frustration. In some cases, it leads to quitting and leaving the company, only to begin the process somewhere else again.

Then I learned the answer to all that stress. Let it go. Let go of the tug-o-war rope. Leo Tolstoy said it well when he said, "everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself."

We cannot change anyone. Not a company, nor the boss, the workers, our spouse, sons and daughters, no one. We can only change ourselves. If others are open to influence, or open to opportunities to change, we might influence them or guide them in some way, but it will always be they who change themselves. So, it is a total waste of time and energy to even try. Just let it go. Drop the rope.

The best thing is to accept the situation as it is without any more judgment about it. Then, get to work on doing what we do best and changing ourselves to be the best that we can be within the accepted situation where we find ourselves. If we are working for a company, then be the best employee we can be, and do all we can do within the parameters allowed. Leave the rest alone. That is not our work. Our work is ourselves alone.

Doing This, Life Will Take On A Whole New Feeling Of Confidence And Joy. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Who needs the stress of any kind? It serves only to wake one up and that is all. Let everything go. Be not concerned. That will spread some joy.

Saturday, September 1, 2018

Daily Inspiration 9-1-18

"Be careful how you interpret the world. 
It is like that." 

-- Erich Heller 

[Classic post from 7-13-14]

There is a movie in my collection that I haven't seen in a while, so I watched it again. Isn't it interesting how you may have seen something several times and each time see something different or differently? That fascinates me.

The movie is New In Town with Harry Connick, Jr. and Renee Zellweger, and it was filmed in one of the coldest places on earth, Winnipeg, Canada. What I saw differently this time began at the start of the movie when Renee's character, Lucy, was in a meeting with her boss and coworkers (all men), and the boss was talking about a manufacturing plant in remote Minnesota that they needed someone to go in and cut the workforce by 50% and turn the plant into a mechanized, robotic plant. Lucy said that she saw the numbers and she thought that the plant should just be shut down and that it was a lost cause. But, the boss wanted her on site to get the work done, so she went.

Then it happened. Lucy met the people who run and work at the plant. She learned about their goals and dreams and how they lived and played and soon she began caring about them. This change brought her to the point that she staked her entire career on making the plant successful and eventually when the company wanted to sell the plant, she arranged to buy it with the employees.

Wars and hate are like this scenario. We are not in touch with actual people and merely see ideologies, strangely different modes of living, different beliefs, maybe different color skin, different climates, dress, languages. The further away we are, the easier it is to not only not care about them but to not even see them as people. We dehumanize them just as Lucy did in the boardroom at the beginning of the film.

I remember that I was told by my manager as I became a manager under him, to not get close to people because it will make it hard, later on, to let them go. The further away we get, the easier that is. That reminds me of another movie I love called Up In The Air, where the lead character goes all over the country firing people at large companies. It is easier to pay someone to come in from the outside than to do it in-house.

I've seen this in jobs that I've had, I see it in the government, the newspaper, TV. If you don't know them, it is easy to not care. I remember when I was a young boy and my grandfather took me up in a Piper Cub airplane over southern California when most of that was farms. The people were so small you couldn't even recognize them as people and the cars were even like dinky little toys.

Yet, the good news is that we don't have to view the world this way, though so many around us may choose to. We get to see it however we want. We can see love. We can care about people, pray for them, lift them up, send loving thoughts whether it is across the street or the other side of the planet.

This All Begins By Loving Ourselves. In That Space, We Automatically Love Others. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Lift two or three people up today. In person, or in Spirit.

Friday, August 31, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-31-18

"Set your life on fire. 
Seek those who fan your flames." 

-- Rumi 

[Classic post from 7-12-14]

It is so easy to allow others around you, regardless of their position or relationship with you to hold you in place with them. No one really has any power over us, but we often give it away without being consciously aware of doing this.

I was thinking just the other day how temporary almost everything is. Circumstances change all the time, people come in and out of our lives, what we do in the way of work changes, and all temporary. Each leader in a company leads the company differently, and sometimes not even in a forward direction. Companies get sold, close their doors for good, and more. It is the same on the more positive side where successes are abounding and profits high, morale is perfect, the stars are all aligned. It is still all temporary.

This isn't meant to be a downer, it is just a bit of perspective in how sometimes we expect things to remain the same when nothing ever remains the same even for a few seconds. All that we see is in constant motion, though we may not see that with our eyes.

I'm going the long way around on purpose, but because it is all temporary, there need be no worry about it. Besides, there isn't anything we can do to change another unless they are seeking change and open to suggestion. Hence, worrying about what our parents think, our brothers and sisters, our boss, our spouse, the neighbors, the government, or any others are more than pointless, it is taking our own power away--or rather, we give it away, as it is never taken.

The best thing that we can do for ourselves and for all of those around us near and far is to focus on what we want and to build the energy of that into the life we could dream of. As Rumi said so well, "Set your life on fire." Be selfish in that. Since we cannot change others, being selfish is all you can do to change.

The second part of Rumi's quote will often happen naturally after the decision to set our own lives on fire, and that is to, "Seek those who fan your flames." I made this decision a very long time ago and in the last five years have multiplied that a hundredfold. I am constantly seeking those who fan my flames, help me to see more, understand more, and be more. I have many sources and learn from them all. If we will take the time and attention to reach out, the help will always be there. That old saying, 'when the student is ready, the teacher appears,' is absolutely true and is an amazing blessing.

Everything we need is really already inside of us. We have all the power of choice, decision, and action.

Set Your Life On Fire, And Surround Yourself With Flame Fanners! 

Spread Some Joy Today--There is no greater joy than coming alive!

Thursday, August 30, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-30-18

"I'm having the time of my life!" 

-- Terry Minion 

[Classic post from 7-11-14]

I went to a dual chamber of commerce mixer tonight and said this quote above to several people who had not seen me in some time and asked how I was doing. Some said, 'you look so happy.' I am. Another mentioned how positive I am and it implied that they were not, but you know, there comes a time when if being upbeat, positive, happy, excited is a desire, one needs to move toward it.

Some don't seem to know how. I understand this totally. I used to be one of them.

Here's a quote that may help put things in a better perspective: "There's no point in burying a hatchet if you're going to put up a marker on the site." -- Sydney Harris.

Some want to forgive, and may even talk about it, but they hold on in so many ways when the only real answer is to let go of it. I alluded to this in yesterday's post.

Having been for many, many years one of those who claimed they wanted to be happy and free, and yet could not let go, I have learned what works for me and continues to work for me to be happy, excited, upbeat, joyous. I think it is the easiest way out of the doldrums and unhappiness. It is far too simple, and many want a much more complicated answer with lots of bullet points. Sorry. It is appreciation.

Yes, appreciation.

I was doing some videos with two clients a couple of days ago. I said that all they need do is to allow themselves to practice so they can get better at it. Each time they get more comfortable with the process and each video then improves over time. It is the same exact thing here. Who would expect someone who just picked up a musical instrument to play Carnegie Hall? After a good deal of practice, that might happen if they also have some talent for the task.

Everyone has a talent for appreciation, so it isn't a matter of talent; however, it is a matter of practice. Begin to purposely find things to appreciate and speak them. At first, they may be spoken in your mind, but they also need to be spoken aloud. Find things to compliment others about. Not insincere compliments, but real ones. If you don't see something worthy of appreciation, move to another subject.

Start with nature. Start with the blue sky, the land, the stars at night, the moon, you name it. Then, things around you. Find things to be thankful for around you. Your comfortable bed, how wonderful the covers feel in the morning, your special pillow, the smell of bacon cooking, the sun coming up in the morning. Then expand on that, by finding things to compliment yourself about. Stand naked in the mirror and thank God or the Universe for such a wonderful and useful appliance as this great body. Be thankful for your capacity, your wisdom, your voice, your skills, your vision.

After a time, perhaps months, or even years, you will find yourself constantly finding things to appreciate. I think that this is what the apostle Paul meant when he said to pray without ceasing.

At each level, your joy will increase in quantity and quality. I find now that I am in joy almost all the time. This is how I can say that I am having the time of my life. It is because I am and the joy is the manifestation of that.

If you want to have this, it is simple. Just practice it and expand it and keep on with it and you will improve every single day. Never fear--there is no end to the potential for more joy.

There Is A Payoff To Feeling Bad, And That Is Why There Is A Lot Of It, But The Payoff For Feeling Good Is Off The Chart In Comparison. 

Spread Some Joy Today--It is not up to God or anyone else. It is solely up to you. Choose joy.

Wednesday, August 29, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-29-18

"Why do bad things 
happen to good people?"

-- Age old question 

[Classic post from 7-9-14]

Just for fun, we might want to flip this question around a bit: Why do good things happen to bad people? When put that way, it helps put things into at least a little perspective.

The bigger question is, 'who says bad?' At the same time, 'who says good?' Frankly, it is someone making that up anyway.

I think there are only actions and results and all of that is neutral. It is only when we label things, such as good or bad, that we add a moral code to the actions and create all sorts of emotions about it. It simply comes down to how we choose to think about something, or what we believe or have come to believe, and even a belief is just a thought we keep thinking over and over again.

There are plenty of benefits that come from events--even those that we might construe as bad. Who knows how it happens, or why it happens? A lot of people want to know why, but it really isn't their affair to know.

I have many examples in my own life of things that seemed bad that were really good. But, of course, I am still judging it, and it is better to say there were benefits. For years I lay down at night in my bedroom and seeing the ceiling, hated the sprayed popcorn treatment throughout the house. Every time I looked at it, I wanted it gone. Then came the fire. The fire was in one room but blackened the whole house. As a result of the repairs, I got rid of the popcorn ceiling.

There were several times I might have been killed or injured in a vehicle and split seconds, perhaps even thousandths of a second changed the outcome. There were times when I lost my job and suddenly there were many open doors I had not seen before.

It really comes down to, rather than the event, it is how we choose to think about it that makes all the difference. Some people may get a diagnosis that brings them to life rather than death. Some may have an event that in certain circumstances would be devastating that becomes their greatest blessing. Some have a business fail to lead them to a better choice, others lose a long time job and find their entrepreneurial spirit reborn. Some find divorce was the best thing that ever happened to them.

It isn't the event, but how we choose to think of it, label it, create beliefs around it that speaks to us of what kind of event it is. One might choose depression, despair, and others may choose joy or gratitude. We each have full control of the choice.

Let Us Be Conscious Of Our Own Power To Choose. 

Spread Some Joy Today--You're on a delightful journey. Enjoy the ride.

Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-28-18

"'Tis not the meat, 
but 'tis the appetite 
makes eating a delight." 

-- John Suckling, Sonnet, c1638 

[Classic post from 7-7-14]

In January of this year, I had the distinct privilege to see The Eagles, who next to The Beatles was my favorite musical group when I was young, and now that I am not so young. The tour they were on was called The History of The Eagles, matching a DVD set they published, which I own. I don't know why I waited to watch it until this weekend, but I was in joy all the way through it. Great music, and a great story of how they came to be and all the adventures they had.

Joe Walsh of The Eagles was talking on the DVD and I had to write down what he said because it spoke to me. Here is what he said reflecting on the travels of his life, participation in and travels of the band over time:

"There's a philosopher who says, 'As you live your life, it appears to be anarchy and chaos and random events--non-related events smashing into each other and causing this situation, and then this happens, and it's overwhelming, and it just looks like...what in the world is going on? And later when you look back at it, it looks like a finely crafted novel, but at the time it don't, and a lot of The Eagles story is like that."

I thought he was referring to many of us, if not most of us. As we are going through situations, especially challenging or tough ones, it is hard if not downright impossible to see the whole picture, but down the road, we can look back and see how all those pieces fit into a mosaic that was perfectly filled, looking like that finely crafted novel.

Then, I thought that much of my life was that way. Most in fact. I didn't have a clue a good deal of the time and now looking back, I have such a different view and things I might have done that I might typically regret, I find joy in instead.

What I would add to that wonderful philosophical view of a life traveled, is that with the awareness that I have now, I would not find the pain that I went through then. Wouldn't it be interesting to know for certain that everything will work out perfectly all the time throughout our lives? Would that change anything about how you might live your life? I know that this awareness has certainly changed mine and how I see what is going on here and now and with confidence believing it is all working out just as I planned it. What a difference in the travel!

It Is Perfect. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Find joy in your own perfection today.

Monday, August 27, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-27-18

Make more decisions in every day. 
Because a decision is a summoning of life.

-- Abraham, Esther Hicks

[New post]

As I was reading yet another post from Abraham, Esther Hicks (I get one every single day), I was amazed and delighted anew. The way they explain things so that it is so easy to understand without a bunch of hocus-pocus, ten-twelve-twenty step confusion is so empowering to me. So, here's the quote that was the reason I am writing this today:

"Make more decisions in every day. Because a decision is a summoning of life. That’s why a little chaos is good for you because often you don’t make a decision until you get yourself in a jam. And then, in the middle of the jam, you make a decision, but that decision summons Life Force. Have you ever been a place where you couldn’t quite make up your mind and you just felt sort of limp? “Oh, I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know.” And then you decided, and you felt alive again. We want you to know that you’ll never get it done. So don’t approach this from, “I gotta get on this” because you’re not ever going to get it done, anyway. And the other thing we want you to know is, you cannot get it wrong. So, make a decision. Let it flow."

I imagine that you can relate as I do how we get ourselves into a situation where we are sort of forced to make some kind of decision to help extricate us from the situation we are not pleased with. It might even feel a bit painful at the time; however, as Abraham states, that is a summoning of life energy. We don't think of it that way, do we? Yet I love how they see that big picture that then takes the heat off of the whole scenario. We are summoning life energy. It's all good. We can't get it wrong. It is living the life and we are the constant choosers though we may think we are justified in blaming someone or something else for our troubles.

And, just because I'm in the praising mood of Abraham, here is another that follows very well with the above quote:

"There are no choices that are really a detour that will take you far from where you’re wanting to be — because your Inner Being is always guiding you to the next, and the next, and the next. So don’t be concerned that you may make a fatal choice, because there aren’t any of those. You are always finding your balance. It’s a never-ending process."

The key thought here for me is this: We are always finding our balance. It is a never-ending process! Yes! Constantly finding our balance as we make choices, as we make decisions, as we are learning.

I celebrate most the simplicity of the Teachings of Abraham and how I resonate with all of it as if I have always known it this way!

Happy Monday!

Spread some joy today--Absolutely. What better thing to spread. Be a carrier. Spread your contagiousness around.

Sunday, August 26, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-26-18

"You see, what I think it is, is, 
that I think I'm more comfortable
with being disappointed. 
I think I'm angry with you 
for trying to take that away." 

-- Kate Walker character in the movie, 
Last Chance Harvey

[Classic post from 7-3-14]

Is that a telling statement or what? Have any of you ever felt that way, even though you may have never had the courage to actually say it? We do have a tendency to develop and then stay within our own comfort zones when it comes to relationships, work, you name it.

I love movies that move me and speak to me and those are the ones I buy so I can watch them many times. Last Chance Harvey is one of those so-called sleeper films that I found that I just had to own.

Every time I watch it, I learn something new and it is a delightful piece of not so uncommon human interaction involving divorce, children, a declining interest in work, and if all of that weren't enough, Harvey loses his job while he's in London, yet at the same time, he finds inspiration in a woman he meets in the airport and makes a conscious decision to go with the flow until his life has not only broken out of his comfort zone but is taken to new and unknown places.

I can so relate to where his head must have been. The best part of the movie is how he finds his life that he somehow stepped out of some time ago. Now, he is renewed and real. Before it was all fake, creating images, being someone he isn't and much more.

The other thing that really stands out for me in this movie is that he makes a conscious decision to go with the flow. He feels a spark and he follows that feeling. He drops his routine or common response to situations and decides to just follow his feelings rather than his head. What great advice that can be for all of us from time to time.

If you haven't seen it, I invite you to rent it and see what you will. If not for the movie itself, for the awesome dialog and life messages it contains.

Letting go of the oars and allowing yourself to go with the flow is very powerful.

Who Knows Where You'll End Up? 

Spread Some Joy Today--It's never too late. There are no last chances. It is now. Then now again, then now again.

Saturday, August 25, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-25-18

"Change is not a destination, 
just as hope is not a strategy." 

-- Rudy Giuliani 

[Classic post from 7-1-14]

Wow. What a great quote. It seems to me that this describes the political process, or at least what seems like the majority's idea of a new life and moving away from the reality of what is.

But, I was thinking of this in a different way as I was thinking about people in new jobs that they are wanting to do well in, people looking for a job, and generally moving through life. I guess I have plenty of experience in all of that and know others going through it too.

Let's start with the first part of the quote: "Change is not a destination." Although we might think many times that change is the destination, it is more often than not, something that refuses to be managed. I think the best we could say about change is that it is a given. Physical things in us and around us are in a constant flux of change. Our thoughts too are constantly in motion and thereby constantly in a state of change.

Change may be the sea we sail on, but it is neither the port we left or the potential port we eventually arrive in. How we set our sail on this sea of change, meaning our 'attitude' toward it and in response to it, has everything to do with the destination.

The second part: "hope is not a strategy." I know a lot of people who use hope as a strategy, and the sea of change buffets them about as if they were crossing the Pacific ocean in a dingy during a storm. We might think of hope as wishing, which is not a strategy either. For results to come on purpose with purpose, we need a strategy, decisions, plans, goals, design, activity, seeking, learning.

In the commercial truck world which I play around with some, I see a lot of dealers without a strategy for everything from inventory to managing the department. That's okay. They can do it as they desire, and they will get the results they get, but what if they had a strategy? What could they do then?

The same is true for all of us in everything that we do. We can hope to have a better relationship, or we can have a strategy. We can hope to do better financially, or we can develop or borrow a strategy. We can hope to grow our business or we can employ a strategy and make better decisions. We can hope our body was thinner, or we can adopt a strategy that has proven results.

Whatever we want, and whatever we want to be good at, better at, excel in, we need to remember that there are two ways: hope or strategy, and knowing the difference is critical. Then with that strategy, sailing on the sea of change will be with a gentle breeze.

Live On Purpose With Purpose. 

Spread Some Joy Today--This is a glorious time to be on this earth! Loving every day of it makes it even more glorious.

Friday, August 24, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-24-18

"Any change, 
even a change for the better, 
is always accompanied by 
drawbacks and discomforts." 

-- Arnold Bennett 

[Classic post from 6-30-14]

Yesterday I talked about not feeling up to par and working through that to get back on track, and today, I had some of the same things, only not to the degree of yesterday. Then, finally, this evening, it hit me what it was. I have been needing to change a thing or two and have been reluctant to do so. That's where the resistance was coming from.

When you have something that you know is in your best interests, though it sounds so easy, often it isn't so easy to make that change. It's only going to stick when it becomes something I want to do versus something I need to do. The spiritual work is to come into alignment to the point that I want to do this thing. That might take years. I know that so well, then one day, it just washes over you to let go and allow the change. I remember always that the resistance is like me playing tug-o-war with myself which I only win by letting go of the rope. Today, I realized that I was there after a weekend of tug-o-war.

It's not about letting go of something you no longer want, but more a wanting of something new or better. It's not about what is wrong, but more a matter of what the benefits are to my internal well being, or rather my joy.

Ever since I decided on my rest-of-my-life single goal to enjoy myself, I've noticed things that I do that I used to enjoy, or at least I thought I did, and I noticed things that I do out of habit that is connected to some mysterious place, that I really don't like much anymore if I were telling the truth about it. Isn't it funny how we lie to ourselves about stuff like that? It's one of those things on the list of 'that doesn't make sense.'

Forty-four days ago, I gave up the wheat with no fake replacements. It was just an experiment to see if I could since wheat is so pervasive in our culture. I thought it would be hard, but it wasn't. I have seen many benefits and I think my success with this helped me with the other things I want to change.

Now, I want to change, and after my experiment, I know for sure that I can and I also know that it will be easy. I just had to come to a conclusion, let go of that stupid rope I've been holding on to for no really good reason, and move on. I'm there.

What A Relief To Know What The Resistance Was. 

Spread Some Joy Today--You're in total control of your joy since it comes from within, never from without.

Thursday, August 23, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-23-18

"Awareness is the greatest 
agent for change." 

-- Eckhart Tolle

[Classic post from 6-29-14]

People say I'm the most positive person they know and I'm happy that they think that because that is exactly what I want to be, and often am. However, there are days when I'm just not feeling as good as I would like and today was one of those days.

I was working on the Internet for some clients and got some things done, had to get up and went to walk the dog and enjoy the warm sunshine and get us both out of the office. I wasn't unhappy exactly today, but not as happy as I often am. I think the main thing that causes this for me is that I get lost in the past a bit. 

Memories are interesting sometimes and I have millions of them, and I was noticing that pretty much everything on my walls and around me is something from the past, whether photos, plaques, memorabilia. Each of these I see causes a memory of some kind from them, and often I will not spend any time on that, but today, I think I sort of got lost in some of it.

The other thing I do that causes physical discomfort is that when I am thinking about the past, I have a tendency to eat too much. Seems like that just goes along for the ride.

In years gone by, I did this a lot and for long periods, but now my saving grace is awareness of what I am doing. I am paying attention to how I feel and as I realize that I am feeling poorly, I want to feel better and can do something right away about it, or at least sometime during the day.

What I was going through mentally was resistance. I can feel it in my gut and also my shallow breathing. So, I felt the resistance, realized my breathing and I started breathing more deeply. After a few minutes of that, I was already much better. Then, I started finding things to be grateful for and to appreciate, and pretty soon I was back with the living and in the present instead of the past.

I like how Eckhart Tolle says this in more detail: "Always say "yes" to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say "yes" to life--and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you." I had to highlight the one very short sentence in there that says to 'surrender to what is.' What a powerful reminder to learn to allow rather than resist.

"If You Get The Inside Right, The Outside Will Fall Into Place. Primary Reality Is Within; Secondary Reality Without." -- Eckhart Tolle 

Spread Some Joy Today--Lighten up on yourself. Find 25 things to praise yourself about.

Wednesday, August 22, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-22-18

"Knowledge is said to be power, 
but habit is what rules." 

-- Albert K Strong 

[Classic post from 6-28-14]

Today in a class I was sharing some thoughts I had on the way to the dealership for training. I have studied for a lot of years--earnestly for over 40 years--and much of what I learned in the first few years was sufficient to do very well, yet I have found that knowledge is powerful and helpful, but habit is what rules.

I might have the knowledge. I may have even studied it with vim and vigor, but the only way it ever becomes effective in my life and activated within me is when it becomes a habit. The great Og Mandino, who should know, said that "only a habit can subdue another habit." So, if I want to change my habitual patterns, I need to actively overwrite those other habits with the ones I prefer, otherwise, all the knowledge in the world will just be a library in my head.

The audiobook and matching book, The Secret, changed my life. It was exactly what I needed when I needed it. I had been attracting it for some time, and when I first heard it, I knew that I did not want to know it from a knowledge point of view, or even know it enough to teach it. No, I wanted it to become me. I wanted to live the rest of my life that way. So to help create the new habits, I listened so many times that it became me, and now I live that way every day. And, by the way, not in the perfection of it, but in the practice of it. It requires practice to become a habit and a belief because a belief is just a thought that we keep thinking.

So, whatever it is, whether it is wanting to be a really good sales prospector, engineer, business person, whatever, we need to desire it and practice it, live it, feel it in our lives and it will in short time become us. Success is just a practiced art, and habit rules that domain.

"We Must First Make Our Habits, Then Our Habits Make Us." -- John Dryden 

Spread Some Joy Today--Call a friend. Share your joy with them.

Tuesday, August 21, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-21-18

"Send them love. 
Wish them peace. 
See them happy. 
Everyone, always, forever. 
And prepare to be astounded." 

-- The Universe, aka Mike Dooley 

[Classic post from 6-25-14]

Accepting and living the message above is tantamount to the biggest challenge of my life. I have accepted the challenge. I desire to live this kind of life. I want this for myself. I'm better at it all the time, and as long as I am willing to practice it, catch myself as soon as I am off track and realize it and then get back on track, it is so awesome and powerful.

As I do this, I find that I attract less of the people who might be ones that I have a hard time feeling this way about. So, that is a good thing. Still, from time to time, I feel the challenge of not feeling good and yet wanting to, but I would surely like to find a day when it is automatic for me, where I don't get off track.

The bigger part is that in practicing doing this with others, I also need to remember to pay myself the same love and respect, peace and wellness that I send to others. It used to be thought of as good to be selfless, but I have found that I need to be self-full in order to be better at giving this unconditional love to others. In fact, I think it is easier to give to others but without it coming from a whole person, it is not nearly what it could be.

Consider accepting the same challenge if you haven't already. It is a work (more like play) that is worthy.

"Whoever Believes In The Good In People, Draws Forth The Good In People." -- Jean Paul 

Spread Some Joy Today--Help someone in some way that makes a difference to both of you.

Monday, August 20, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-20-18

"Success is easy." 

-- Jim Rohn 

[Classic post from 6-24-14]

Early yesterday morning three of us were having a conversation. One was talking about the price needed to pay to do well. That phrase hit me because I've heard that so many times from so many people as if it isn't easy and the price means that it is costly, or another way it is often said is that you have to put your nose to the grindstone and work hard, some even add other hardships like you have to work hard into the night, or pay a higher price than anyone else and other such statements. I used to believe that and may have even promoted that idea myself, but no more. My clearest statement about success now is that if it isn't easy, it won't get done.

So much of the sales and management training, personal development and so on that I've been through talked about the 3% factor. They say that 97% fail, only 3% "succeed" by earning plus or minus 10% of what they spend. And, then they talk about the 1% that is financially independent. Who wants to join a club where only 1 or 3% succeed? The truth is everyone succeeds. Everyone acts based on their internal highest values.

Jim Rohn was one of my earliest mentors about business after hearing him on a cassette tape back in 1980 for the first time. He is one of those that promoted the hard work of it all, but he did it with humility and style. Here is an excerpt that speaks volumes about success and how it is easy and needs to be easy, and it was matching his desires with his highest values that caused this to be true in his life:

"People often ask me how I became successful in that six-year period of time while many of the people I knew did not. The answer is simple: The things I found to be easy to do, they found to be easy not to do. I found it easy to set the goals that could change my life. They found it easy not to. I found it easy to read the books that could affect my thinking and ideas. They found that easy not to. I found it easy to attend the classes and the seminars, and to get around other successful people. They said it probably really wouldn't matter. If I had to sum it up, I would say what I found to be easy to do, they found to be easy not to do."

I have learned that if it is going to get done, it needs to be easy, otherwise we will have to rely on external motivation all the time. Sales prospecting has to be fun and easy or it won't get done consistently. I love my work, and that makes it not work, but fun and so it gets done. It must speak to our highest values to get done, and the good news is that if we want to, we can link the things that don't seem like fun to our highest values, thereby making them fun. Then, they will get done. As Jim says, success is easy. Or not. Guess which one works consistently?

Life Is Only Hard If You Think It Is. If You Think It Is, Maybe It's Time To Think Again. . . 

Spread Some Joy Today--by letting go of all the struggles in your life. Just for today. Pretend you're wealthy and don't have to do anything. Now go do what you enjoy. It is even possible that is what you do for a living!

Sunday, August 19, 2018

Daily Inspiration 8-19-18

"Don't let your special character 
and values, the secret that you know 
and no one else does, the truth-- 
don't let that get swallowed up 
by the great chewing complacency." 

-- Aesop, 620 BC - 564 BC 

[Classic post from 6-23-14]

As I was looking at notes from The Values Factor book, I ran across the quote above and I just had to share it. First of all, it is a very powerful message, and secondly, it was stated a very long time ago. There was plenty of knowledge in the past, it is just that they had a terrible distribution system, unlike the Internet of today. What a challenge it must have been to disseminate information back then.

What I get out of this quote and why it jumped off the page for me is that I think he is saying that we need to love and respect ourselves and that each of us is important. Indeed, more than just important, each of us has a special and unique character and values, just as Dr. John Demartini has been teaching me through this book.

The quote also says to not hide your specialness, but to find a way to express it. There is a great benefit in that for ourselves and for others too. It also says that this special character and unique values are our truth. Each of us has our own truth by that statement and that there is no such thing as THE truth.

And, last, he cautions us to not to just give in by fitting in. Our truth, our real self, our inner self, our uniqueness needs to be expressed and be alive in us. When we give in to the crowd, the pack, the group, we must let go of that in order to fit into other peoples values. Dilution is not a good solution and full strength is the best strategy.

In short, we need to be ourselves, to love ourselves for who and what we are in our travels to wherever we are going. If we can find a way to express ourselves along the way, to respect ourselves and each other for all our uniqueness, I cannot think of a better formula for success.

What Are Your Highest And Unique Values That Beg For Expression? 

Spread Some Joy Today--by letting go of any stress like dropping the tug-o-war rope, and turning to see those issues from the point of view of joy. Just because something looks like a problem, doesn't mean that it really is. What you perceive, you receive.