"All appropriate behavior
is consigned out of the basis of approval
Approval, of course,
implies a level of conformity."
-- Paul Selig
It's interesting after writing yesterday's post and talking about all the songs in cassettes on my wall and I said that it was my ego all over the wall because I began thinking about that which opened up to the need for approval and how that is something that drives us so often.
In Paul Selig's book, I Am the Word, the guides are saying that "eighty percent of what you are doing in your life has been motivated by a need for approval from someone else, or a cultural belief that what you need to do is a certain thing, or by a certain time. You have these beliefs and you operate with them as if they are truths."
It is enlightening to consider just how much of what we do, how we act, choices we make, and virtually everything in our lives is sort of pre-programmed in a way from our earliest teachings from our parents, and all of our interactions with all those other people and their own conditioning. We may not, and I have not seriously considered the depth of the information that we have received in learning how to live our lives and how that has such an effect on that life we are living.
It's not like we are doing it wrong or anything, or that we need to fix anything, it's just mind-boggling to consider how we have craved approval in all kinds of ways and how the need or desire for approval has guided us.
What if we gave that up? What if we never again needed approval from anyone to guide our life? It's not about not caring anymore, but what if we cared so little that approval wasn't even something on the table?
Hmmm. What Would That Be Like?
Spread Some Joy Today--by considering your own approval processes. Then let some of that go for the joy of the release of it. As you are moved to do so, of course.