"Though some may think
of the words, 'selfish,' and 'greedy,'
as synonyms, as the Thesaurus does,
I think they are actually antonyms."
-- Terry Minion
Remember all that talk about the so-called "Me-Generation"? It's been a while, but that was all about selfishness as it was intended, but it was personal greed in the way it was reported. It's because being selfish has so often been associated with being personally greedy. It certainly can be that, but a far better way to say that rather than selfishness would be greediness.
Let's set the record straight! Selfish is good. In fact, we cannot help but be selfish. The idea that someone would become self-less as an ideal is a misnomer. No matter what, we are a selfish lot, and that is absolutely perfect.
Everything that we feel, we feel from within ourselves. No one can give us a feeling without our full consent. It's an inside job.
When we are selfish enough to feel good within ourselves, about ourselves, and our choices, we are on a beautiful path. Feeling good, or good feelings coming from within is to be in perfect alignment with our soul, our inner being, the God within. To feel otherwise is an indication of being out of alignment. So being selfish about how we want to feel is our best and perfect guide to a fully satisfying and great life.
The easiest and quickest source of feeling good is in finding things to appreciate. Abraham, Esther Hicks says, "Once you have made a decision that nothing is more important than that you feel good, and you have decided that you are going to consciously look for some things to appreciate today, the object of your attention has now become the feeling of appreciation. You have now established a circuit between you and the object of appreciation that the Law of Attraction will begin working on immediately--so, you will start seeing more things to appreciate right away."
They continue: "Whenever you are looking for things to appreciate, you have control of your own vibrational offering and your own point of attraction; but when you are responding to the way others seem to feel about you, you have no control. . . . You do not know what happened to them today, and you do not know how they are living, so you cannot understand why they react to you in the way they do--and you cannot control it. However, when you are more interested in how you feel than how they feel about you, you do have control of your experience."
A couple of things jumped out at me about this.
One, is that when someone is responding to us in a way that doesn't feel good, here is a perfect place to practice compassion. As they said, "you do not know what happened to them today, and you do not know how they are living, so you cannot understand why they react to you in the way they do." So true. How in the world would we ever know? They could be going through some serious difficulties, taxing their own capacity to feel good. Compassion for them is not agreeing with them, nor is it accepting what they have said to us, but it is allowing us to love them as a fellow human, a fellow traveler, a fellow soul, a part of all-that-is, rather than focusing on what just happened. This allows us to feel good internally, and pass the good feeling of compassion on to them. We remain selfish so that we feel good, and we are at the same time giving, being kindhearted, loving.
The other thing that stood out was the idea of being in appreciation, having thoughts of appreciation is like connecting the circuit with the Law of Attraction. It made me think of flipping a switch to the on position so that the electricity is flowing. I know within myself from really practicing appreciation that it feels electric to me. So, in my mind today, I'm thinking of a switch that says Appreciation, and then it says, On and Off. I want it to be on as much as possible because I love that electric feeling it gives me.
It Might Be Time To Get Serious About Being Selfish. Imagine How Fresh And Alive You Will Be!
Spread Some Joy Today--by being selfish for maximum joy! No need for greed because there is more than enough (abundance) for everyone, every time.