"People don't resist change.
They resist being changed."
-- Peter M Senge
Change can often be a challenge, and this is especially true when the need for change is coming from the outside. Someone thinks we need to change, or someone else wants us to change. It doesn't matter if it is as simple as how we do things, how we talk, and such, or as complicated as changing our complete lifestyle. We've got all these beliefs and habits mixed all around in there, and all of that creates reluctance, which is another r-word for resistance. Some of that might even create rebellion, which is resistance on a more massive scale.
When change is desired from within, resistance is less if not completely missing, and can be replaced with eagerness.
Just because we are saying to ourselves, "I should change, I need to change, I ought to change this, this is not coming from within. It is coming from without. When it comes from within, it comes with desire, eagerness, fun, delight.
I like what has become one of my favorite phrases I learned from Abraham, Esther Hicks: "be easy about it." In other words, let go of that rope of resistance. Just let it go. Drop it. Chill. Breathe. Here's some elaboration on that:
"Be easy about this. Be playful about it. Don't work so hard at it. Let your dominant intent to be to feel good, and if you don't feel good, then let your dominant intent be to feel relief. Feel your way through it. If you think your way through it, you can get off on all kinds of tangents. If you feel your way through it, you can come quickly to your Core Energy, and when you do that only good can then flow to you."
We're so action-oriented. We feel that we must make it happen or it just won't come about. So Abraham softens this with a little more chill:
"Leverage your time more by spending a little more time every day imagining and a lot less time every day doing. Do a little more imagining and a little more less doing. Until eventually most of what's happening is happening in the cool, calm, anticipatory state. Just imagine yourself into the successes, and watch what happens. Imagine a little more and act a little less."
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