"If you intend to be of assistance,
your eye is not upon the trouble
but upon the assistance,
and that is quite different."
-- Abraham, Esther Hicks
When you give, what thoughts and feelings are attached to the gift? Let's say you're giving money to a beggar with a sign at the driveway to a business exit, which is a common site in almost any city. Let's say you decide to be of assistance. How much do you give? How much relative to what you have on you? Is it sort of like trying to figure out how much to tip when you eat out? What else are you feeling? Are they positive, uplifting thoughts, or are you maybe unhappy with all the beggars around and you would like them to go away?
Continuing with Abraham, "When you are looking for a solution, you are feeling positive emotion--but when you are looking at a problem, you are feeling negative emotion." Sometimes maybe we throw money at the problem. . .
"You can be of great assistance to others as you see what they want to be, and as you uplift them to what they want to have, through your words and through your attention to that. But, as you see one who is down on his luck, as you see one who has great poverty or great illness, and as you speak with him in pity and sympathy about that which he does not want, you will feel the negative emotion of it, because you are a contributor to that. As you talk to others about what you know they do not want, you assist them in their miscreating, because you amplify the vibration of attracting what is not wanted."
They say that it is not the gift, but the thought that counts, and what Abraham said now brings new meaning to that old phrase. Can we give a gift and at the same time being actually doing harm? Yes. It depends on what is behind or attached to the gift.
Abraham adds a bit more: "You will not uplift others through your words or sorrow. You will not uplift others through your recognition that what they have is not what they want. You will uplift them by being something different yourself. You will uplift them through the power and clarity of your own personal example. As you are healthy, you may stimulate their desire for health. As you are prosperous, you may stimulate their desire for prosperity. Let your example uplift them. Let what is in your heart uplift them. You will uplift others when your thought feels good to you. . . You will depress others, or add unto their negative creating, when your thought makes you feel bad. That is how you know whether or not you are uplifting."
How Does It Feel When You Give?
Spread Some Joy Today--by giving it freely without any reasoning.