"It is not in the stars
to hold our destiny
but in ourselves."
-- William Shakespeare
To experience a better life--and by better, I mean happier, with more joy, where things are going the way I want them to go, and that I am in charge of my own destiny rather than looking for someone or something outside of me to do that for me. That wouldn't be destiny so much as fate. When it is fate, I cannot even imagine the purpose of it all.
As it has all of my life, as it is today, and will be tomorrow, it is all in my choices. My life is experienced in my choices of people to be around, choices of things I decide to do, choices on where to live, what to eat, and such. Yet, I have found that at the head of all of that is my choices of thought. It might be said better this way: thinking on purpose with purpose rather than just thinking.
Lao Tzu said, "Stop thinking and end your problems." I'm certain what he meant by that is that all of our problems are in our thought first, and experience later, and they are only a problem as we think that and feel that. I'm sure what he meant to say was choose a different thought, or align with the Tao Te Ching within by choice--on purpose.
Christians today might say to adopt a Christ Consciousness by aligning with the God within. the New Age crowd might say to align with the Universe, or All-That-Is. And, I don't care what the words are we choose to use in this, the important part is that we are part of all of creation and that we are creators ourselves and we have guidance and ultimate knowledge within any time we choose to align with that to help us make better choices and then to experience a better life, or more fulfilling life.
Yogi Berra in his ultimate wisdom said, "If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up somewhere else." That somewhere else is often what people complain about. How did I get here? How can I enjoy my life more?
From the book, Ask and It Is Given, by Esther & Jerry Hicks, Abraham says, "Even though a clear desire has emanated from you as a result of the contrast you have considered, you often, rather than giving your attention purely to the desire itself, focus back on the contrasting situation that gave birth to the desire. And in doing so, your vibration is more about the reason you have launched the desire than it is about the desire itself. . . As long as you are more aware of what you do not want regarding this situation, what you do want cannot come to you."
And how do we know where we are in that? By the way we feel as we are thinking. If we are not feeling good, we are focused on the rear view mirror. When we feel good, we are focused on where we are, and seeing more clearly than ever out of the windshield.
Abraham adds, "It is not possible for you to consistently feel positive emotion about something and have it turn out badly, just as it is not possible for you to consistently feel bad about something and have it turn out well--for the way you feel will tell you if you are allowing your natural Well-Being or not."
I'm not writing this to anyone else as much as to myself. I have studied this for some time now, and I still need more practice. If there is anything called "work" involved in this, it would be to focus. That requires a decision and some small bit of willpower, but it isn't really work. Still, it is easier to just go along with the busyness of my life, including the rehashing of old memories, seeing what I don't want in today's world, noticing what I am missing, wondering why it hasn't come yet, and so on. It's easier because I've had a lifetime of practice at that.
However, I am making good progress now by writing more in my Book of Positive Aspects, my inconsistent, yet moving toward consistent Meditation, Wouldn't It Be Nice notes, Pivoting, Having occasional Rampages of Appreciation, just to name a few of the games or processes in this book. I notice the difference, and I pivot more easily, more frequently. I beat myself up less. I choose more often what I want rather than what I do not want.
The whole idea here is to choose what I want deliberately, then to focus on that as exclusively as possible, pay attention to how I feel, knowing that I have decided that I want to feel good. I choose more thoughts that feel good more often, and I am claiming success at this moment, resting gently in my obviously improved experience, while eagerly anticipating a joyful future that will knock my socks off.
The Only Thing Stopping Me From All That I Want Is My Choice Of Thought. I Am Now Choosing Those Thoughts That Feel Good When I Think Them.
Spread Some Joy Today--Boy, that gets easier too. Who doesn't want more joy in their lives?