"Cultivate the habit of being grateful
for every good thing that comes to you,
and to give thanks continuously.
And because all things have contributed
to your advancement, you should
include all things in your gratitude."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Many people, if not most people may take issue with Ralph Waldo Emerson on this statement. They're easy to please of the first part, but in disagreement with being grateful for the negative things or the things that don't feel good that have happened to them. Of course, it is so easy to be grateful when things feel good. Being grateful for things going wrong or feeling bad is a whole other thing.
How can I be grateful for things going wrong, not working out, missteps along my path? I can when I realize that this negative or bad feeling is coming from my inner knowing, the God within and I am thinking or doing something that my inner knowing is not interested in, or is focusing elsewhere. It is always my choice to do it anyway, or think it anyway, or to pay attention to the reminder for me to realize that what I am thinking or doing is working against me.
Contrast is very, very valuable. If we are paying attention and aware, it is guiding us to realize that we want something different than this, so it causes us to know more what we do want rather than what we don't want. In other words, since we are knowing now what we don't want, seeking what we really do want is our guidance. Our choice is then to move in that direction with our thoughts and actions, or to not do so and feel more pain, frustration, confusion, and more.
When someone or a band of people is doing something we don't like, are abhorred with, not understanding how they could do such a thing, this immediately causes us to want not that. If we focused then at that place, we would move away to a different reality, but often we are influenced by the chatter, opinions of others, the media frenzy of pointing out all the bad things, and we choose to focus on seeing more of that. As we do that, the Law of Attraction helps us find even more to get ourselves into a frenzy about until we are calling for revenge, annihilation, war.
Although we cannot change things positively by pushing against others whatever their negative influence on us. We can only really effect change that we want by focusing on what we want, and that will always feel good, not bad.
There is also perhaps a missing perspective, in that what others think and do, we are either capable of or have done ourselves. Yet we deny it seeking right from wrong, but there is none of that. It is choosing to go with or to go away from our inner knowing, our own God within, our inner being. As we align with that, we feel positive, as we choose not to, we are not aligned, or out of alignment. That personal guidance can help us thrive or to continue to have this and that pull us along in its own negativity.
Mother Teresa is to have said to someone asking that she attend an against the war rally. She declined, and added, if you want me to attend a peace rally, I will be happy to attend. It's a matter of where we put our focus. Our inner guidance can help guide us or we can very easily ignore that, just as we can focus on peace and maybe be in the minority, or we can focus on hate, revenge, justice, and whatever other labels we want to use. We get to choose where we focus at any given time.
There is a lot going on in the world. There are a lot of things that we may disagree with, even be upset at, and this has been the case since the dawn of time. Now though with communication being almost instant from anywhere in the world, and the plethora of news agencies and news media sites, people can be stirred much more quickly. Asking what we want rather than the obvious thing that is what we don't want is key in every case. Then, when we focus on what we want rather than following the feeling of the crowd, we find our own reality, often a different reality than that of many others, if not much of the world.
There is natural well-being and the lack of well-being, and the lack of well-being can and will help us to focus on the well-being we desire. Or not. It is always and only our own choice whether we are looking at events of the world, or events at our workplace or home.
Dr. Wayne Dyer said a long time ago that, "anxiety doesn't attack." Yet many hold to the idea that it does, and that many things come into our life indiscriminately. Anxiety is simply a response to our choice of thought which is out of alignment with our own inner knowing, or our God within. It causes us to know what we do want, but then the choice is our own to focus on the illness or the health, the joy or the pain, the love or the justice, what feels good or the lack of that.
The Choice Is Always Your Own. Anxiety Doesn't Attack.
Spread Some Joy Today--by choosing your well-being rather than the lack of it.