"It always seems easier
to need someone else to change."
-- Alan Cohen
This quote indicates a common thread of thought that keeps the world in drama for all eternity. Maybe we are lazy about the need to change, or maybe we just don't want to, but clearly, often, our best solution is that someone else needs to change, not us.
It doesn't matter if it is a spouse, expectations of how customers should act, whether or not people listen to us clearly, and much more, and in all of these, we so often look to relinquish responsibility to others for the change we seek.
Here's a good question: How's that workin' for ya? Or, how is that working for me? I would expect not well.
I had this song in my head today. . . you know how that works, right? Can't seem to get it out, but this one was talking to me. It was Ricky Nelson singing Garden Party. The chorus is so familiar: "But it's. . . all right now. I've learned my lesson well. You see, you can please everyone, so you've got to please yourself." This is so well said. Trying to please others, let alone everyone is a total waste of time. However, when you please yourself, others can benefit from that alignment.
It's like having joy. Or, deciding to enjoy yourself every moment of every day that you can. These are things you can only do for yourself. Just imagine waiting around for others to come through on these tasks. It ain't gonna happen. But, when you decide to accept the responsibility that only you have to create these things for yourself, anyone and everyone around you benefits from your countenance. Isn't that interesting? One way is a guaranteed failure and the other a guaranteed success. It's amazing and true. Try it for yourself and you will see that it is as much true for you as it is for me.
"You Can't Please Everyone, So You've Got To Please Yourself." -- Rick Nelson
Spread Some Joy Today--by focusing on your own well being. Experience joy as often as you can throughout the day.