"We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing,
while others judge us by what we have already done."
-- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Isn't it the truth, Henry. All the more reason that we are the best judges of ourselves and not to listen except with a mild interest what others have to say about us and what we have done, are doing, or intend to do.
Heck, if we really listened to others opinions, we would be bound to their expectations, limitations and prejudices. I reckon that the better we get at not paying much of any attention to outside opinions, the smarter we will be.
It's okay to ask for opinions, or advice (opinions), or counsel (opinions), and it is perfectly okay to reject all of them! I believe that the real value of asking opinions is to clarify our own thinking.
Here's the best thing I've ever learned: pay attention to how you feel when deciding to do or not to do something, or when listening to sage advice. If it feels good, it is, and if it feels bad, it is. This is why you and I can be the only real judge, because it is only we who experience the feeling and thereby the perfect solution.
Be Bold. Believe In Your Own Power Of Thought.
Spread Some Joy Today--When you see someone and they have that look of confidence, peace and joy, pay attention to their expressions and body language. Now duplicate it. That's the backdoor version of joy.