tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352391293040139472.comments2012-04-18T16:50:47.666-07:00CTS Daily InspirationsTerry Minionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13559683639149492814noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352391293040139472.post-81921028122568009372009-12-02T14:51:19.865-08:002009-12-02T14:51:19.865-08:00Hi Terry.
I agree completely with what you have wr...Hi Terry.<br />I agree completely with what you have written in your Daily Inspiration dated 12/02/09.<br /><br />I haven't heard it said the way you did but it's still the same thing. I have always tried to teach, "no one can make you angry or upset unless you first give them permission to do so."<br /><br />Anger is not an emotion it is more a reaction to an emotion such as fear, or frustration. You frustrate me and I choose to be patient or I choose to get angry. If you don't have my permission to make me mad you don't have an opportunity to exert control over my life. <br /><br />Many times over the years I've seen a sales person treated badly by a prospective customer. The prospect was harsh, or rude, or even hateful to a salesperson who was just trying to help. I've watched those encounters completely unsettle and sometimes even enrage the salesperson. When that happened the person who did the offending just took away the salesperson ability to make a sale with anyone else that day, or possible even for the next couple of days as they stewed and focused on the offense that was so unfairly dumped on them. <br />I've reminded many that the second YOU ALLOWED that individual to make you angry you also gave them the power to take away your ability to create income for yourself and your family. When we really get angry our blood pressure spikes our head begins to hurt, and we often just feel like crap. We are so filled with distracting, self destructive emotions that we are no longer able to remain focused on the reason we came to work, which was to make money by providing a product or service to a customer. Do you really want to give someone that kind of power over you? The answer was always, "NO". So you decide NOW how you're going to respond when someone offends you in the FUTURE. One way empowers the offender over you and the other empowers you. Who do you want to be in charge, you or them? Now since you allowed them to have this power over you on this last incident you are now living with the consequences of that decision and mentally right now your no good to yourself or anyone else. So here's ten bucks, go buy your self a treat, take a couple of hours to relax, and then take back the permission you just gave to that stranger who has rendered you ineffective because you granted them permission to make you angry. If you can do that come on back to work and sell something, and if you can't get past how you feel right now then go home take a nap buy a flower for your love and remind yourself when you look at your family that they are worth everything you've got to give and that come tomorrow you will never give your permission to anyone again to make you angry, which in turn robs you of your ability to provide for your family. <br /><br />Some might argue that you can't send them away because you need them their to do a job. But you know far better then most if your head is not in the game you might as well not be their at all, in fact they could easily blow the sale feeling the way they do at that point. I have seen a salesperson return with a whole new outlook on life and more importantly, how they are going to react to life. You've said it yourself. "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you choose to respond to it."<br /><br />Hope to drop by for a cup of coffee soon. Merry Christmas Terry.<br /><br />Tom AndertonTomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10398915378547489534noreply@blogger.com