"You never lose by loving.
You always lose by holding back."
-- Barbara De Angelis
[Classic post from 9-27-16]
Wow! I have had so many thoughts flowing through me this morning that it was hard to choose one for today's Daily Inspiration. But, I was prodded by a daily inspirational message from The Universe, a.k.a., Mike Dooley, which struck a full chord in resonance with me: "Just wanted to formally announce, Terry, that the world is indeed ready for ALL of you. Go on. Astonish yourself. Love, The Universe."
Here's a question: What's the difference between half-assed and incomplete? The answer: The degree of the part that was held back.
Let's take a peak experience like great sex. You can probably remember when you let it all go, unhooked the chain that held you close to the dock, and floated away in ecstasy. Whether you noticed that in yourself, or noticed it in your partner, or felt it in unison, my recollection is that it is indeed a peak experience. Yet, perhaps, much of the time, it is less than this, and we seek it to be that peak experience, but it misses the mark. The more times it misses the mark, the more frustrated we could get. Then we put all these unspoken expectations on the other.
What's the difference between anticipation and expectation? The ego.
It seems to be a challenge so often to get out of our own way. We have all this chatter going on in our heads; the cares of the day, the projections of the future, the lack of energy after a long, arduous day. There's a lot going on inside even when it may seem not so much outside. Our inner world is always very active, to the point that it is a real challenge to lay it aside for even something as glorious as sexual sharing.
We might think, "I wish she or he would let go of the cares of the day and be here now, relax, and enjoy, and perhaps even enjoy a little abandon." But, no matter how hard we try with our thoughts or our attempts to please, we cannot control what another person chooses to think or do. However, we can do that in and for ourselves. So the first thought would be to choose what we want for ourselves. If the other follows, wonderful, and if they don't, unconditional love goes all the way every time.
Abraham, Esther Hicks adds something important here: "The only thing that holds you back from getting what you want is paying attention to what you don't want." Taking that to heart will go a long way toward harmony.
Of course, loving without any conditions probably leads to better relations regardless of the time, location, or agenda. Frankly, I think that unconditional love is the ultimate abandon, the ultimate ecstasy. More tomorrow on this subject of holding back.
Dare To Allow Yourself To Be Free.
Spread Some Joy Today--by opening that bag of warm fuzzies, and giving them away with abandon. The bag will always be full.