Tuesday, July 17, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-17-18

"Be at peace
with all your choices. 
They all serve you." 

-- Alan Cohen 

[Classic post from 4-26-14]

I love this quote because I have found it to be so true. A good part of my life I was so concerned about making the "right" choice and not making the "wrong" choice. The truth for me now is that it is simply a choice. Every choice will have results of some kind and every result will have an effect. Labeling them right or wrong or otherwise doesn't help at all. In fact, doing that is counterproductive.

About 25 years ago, I wrote a piece called Choices. It was about 150 pages of choices I had made in my life and the results of each choice. Along with that was a lot of detail about how I felt about each choice and each result. It was fascinating to write it in order to understand this idea of choices and results. Back then, I was still labeling and lamenting certain choices. Today, I find that to be not only a waste of valuable time but taking me off the path.

My Choices Are Perfect For Me Now.

Spread Some Joy Today--Choose joy today. Start by releasing any interest in worry.

Monday, July 16, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-16-18

"Your people are a direct reflection of you. 
They watch you. They follow you. 
 They measure you. They listen to you. 
If you want them to be dedicated to you, 
you have to be dedicated to them." 

 -- Jeffrey Gitomer 

[Classic post from 4-25-14]

This is just one tidbit from a wealth of insight by Jeffrey Gitomer in his wonderful book, Jeffrey Gitomer's Little Book of Leadership - The 12.5 Strengths of responsible, reliable, remarkable leaders that create results, rewards, and resilience. It is a perfect book that is easy to read, easy to review, and easy to share. Here are a few more tidbits you might enjoy:

"Manage yourself. . . Lead Others." There is a definite difference between a manager and a leader and it is also true that a leader can be a manager, but mentally it is best to choose one. I choose leader.

"It's not morale; it's attitude. Many leaders look at it backward. They say, "We have a morale problem." Morale is not a problem. Morale is a symptom."

"Are you a leader or a coach? YES!"

"To be a great leader of people--inspire them to follow you, not your rules."

I have had management positions most of my life, but my goal has always been to be a good leader. I feel that I have done that for the most part, and yet I am always learning more.

"Not All Readers Are Leaders, But All Leaders Are Readers." -- Harry S Truman

Spread Some Joy Today--by knowing how to create joy in yourself, do it on purpose, and do it as often as possible.

Sunday, July 15, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-15-18

"I can't imagine anything worse 
than being required to have fun." 

-- Scott Westerfeld 

[Classic post from 4-23-14]

Yes. Just imagine being required to have fun. What a heavy load to bear. Can you imagine going to work and being required to have fun? It's ridiculous, don't you think?


I tell you this. I am having so much more fun now in what I do than I've ever experienced before. It's been building and building and I have no idea when it will taper off. In fact, I don't really expect that any time soon.

I even do silly things, just to experience it. I make my office into a vacation resort area. Whatever. It's all just a whole bunch of fun. I have fun driving to visit clients, going for a leisurely walk. It really doesn't matter what I'm doing anymore. I find a way to thoroughly enjoy myself.

One of history's richest men, Andrew Carnegie said this: "There is little success where there is little laughter." I have to agree.

Life Is Short. Have Some Fun. You Get To Choose. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by raising someone's spirits. There's nothing so wonderful.

Saturday, July 14, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-14-18

"What is powerful 
is when what you say 
is just the tip of the iceberg 
of what you know." 

-- Jim Rohn 

[Classic post from 4-22-14]

In preparation for a training consulting job and another of speaking to some teenagers who are just beginning to consider careers and jobs, I've had a lot of things that I've learned running through my brain. As a sales manager in one form or another since 1975 and my observation of people in sales positions wherever I've traveled, that gets mixed into all that I know on the subject of influence and sales.

Of all that I have learned and taught for so long, I can bring down to one short sentence my entire philosophy of doing well in sales, management, or any other endeavor. Here it is:

Be the best you can be.

I didn't say THE best. I said the best YOU can be. Not the best anyone could be, but only and exclusively the best that you can be. Whatever that is.

I deal with and have dealt with a lot with auto & truck salespeople. One thing that I noticed that is common with far too many is their lack of sincere interest in wanting to be the best they could be. They just want to get through it without too much effort from them. Many of them didn't survive long with that philosophy.

When it comes to learning a job or career, the very first thing on my list of expectations and instruction is to know what you're selling. And, I mean know it so well that you seem like an expert on the product or service. This is the foundation of doing well. I see 20+ year veterans who can't give a walkaround presentation on a vehicle. That amazes me. But, there was an old phrase I learned long ago that says, "he had 20 years of experience--one year, repeated twenty times."

Jim Rohn said on a set of tapes once that you don't need to talk about but 5 or 6 things to sell a car. And, he's right. The more you talk about in numbers of things, the more the prospect can be confused. However, you have to know which 5 or 6 things to talk about from the 250 things you know. If you don't know the 250 things, you are very limited in your influence.

I recommend to every person doing any job, and especially in sales, to know your product and service as an expert in it. When you know all that about your product and service, what you say will be the tip of the iceberg of what you know, and just as with an iceberg, you can only see about 10% of what it really is in size, people will get that feeling from you, and have confidence in you, sensing the depth of your knowledge.

"Lack Of Homework Shows Up In The Marketplace As Well As In The Classroom." -- Jim Rohn

Spread Some Joy Today--"Sometimes I just think funny thoughts!" -- from the movie, Arthur. It is a great philosophy.

Friday, July 13, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-13-18

"Prosperity is 
very simply, 
and most pleasantly, 
a state of mind." 

-- Albert K Strong 

[Classic post from 4-19-14]

Yesterday I realized just how much of an attitude prosperity is. It was one of those a-ha moments that Oprah talks about. I looked up the definition of prosperity, which said it was the state of being prosperous, and the definition of that said that it was a derivative of the Latin word prosperus, which means doing well. And, just as happiness is purely a choice and a state of mind, prosperity is exactly the same.

Though most often, people think of being prosperous as being well off financially. After all, money is just an idea. As well, to one person rich would be to another poor, and the relativity of that alone speaks to attitude, perspective or point of view, and choice of individual meaning.

So, if you want to be more prosperous, the first thing to do is decide to feel that way. What makes you feel that way? Feeling good is a great start. The best way to feel good, is to become grateful, thankful, and to appreciate that which is outside of you and at the same time, and perhaps more importantly, that which is inside you. As you feel more prosperous, you are.

It All Comes Down To How I Want And Choose To Feel. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by choosing to feel joyous!

Thursday, July 12, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-12-18

"We are kept from our goal 
not by obstacles 
but by a clear path 
to a lesser goal." 

 -- Robert Brault 

[Classic post from 4-18-14]

I love this quote. We make a decision. It's a firm decision. I'm going to do this, I am going to do that, I will stop doing this and so on. Intentions are wonderful, and strong intentions seem logically more powerful than lesser intentions. So it seems, but stronger intentions, more important goals don't operate in a vacuum. Decisions, firm or otherwise do not create completion on their own. Although, it may be that we sincerely hope this is true, time proves otherwise often enough.

Aristotle said it this way: "All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire." I have no idea how he rated the power of these seven attributes or opportunities, but I would choose desire at the head of the table, with passion and habit as their powerful partners.

As Robert Brault so clearly points out that it isn't so much the obstacles, adversity, disappointment, or any such blockage that takes us off the hunt, but an easy, pleasant, and convenient side trip. What makes me laugh at this a bit is that we end up getting somewhere, though we may have missed our intended target.

What is true for me is that if (and it is a big "if". . .) my desire is strong enough, I will absolutely find a way. A decision doesn't do that. I make all kinds of decisions that I don't follow through on. I've already admitted to being an artist at procrastination. If I don't follow through, I know it is my desire. It is weak and more related to something I feel I should do for a variety of reasons (one of the seven!).

I am beginning to realize this difference and stop beating myself up about making decisions and then not meeting the goal. I need to focus on my desire, and with my strong enough desire and my partners, passion, and habit, I cannot fail. Without sufficient desire, it is another story to tell.

Cranking Up The Desire! 

Spread Some Joy Today--by enjoying yourself. Life is short. Have a great time.

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-11-18

"It is an interesting question 
how far men would retain their relative rank 
if they were divested of their clothes." 

-- Henry David Thoreau 

[Classic post from 4-17-14]

Our relative position in life is so often based on a comparison of others and/or what others may have, be, or appear. This is virtually always the ego wanting desperately to be in charge, and most often, this approach is not self-serving.

The quote above may help put our place in better perspective. Yet, here is something better:

"Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does." -- William James

Yet one better. . . by changing this last quote ever so slightly, yet it becomes so much more:

Act as if who you are makes a difference. It does.

Perspective is about learning I think, and R Buckminster Fuller said that so well when he said, "you can never learn less, you can only learn more."

The healthiest perspective is to accept ourselves as fully worthy and not in need of anyone else to verify us. By virtue of the fact that we are here, we are worthy. If someone wanted to bring God into this, it would remain that by virtue of the fact that we are here, we are worthy.

Allow Yourself To Love Yourself. You Are Enough.

Spread Some Joy Today--by realizing and celebrating that as a goal of life, that to experience, enjoy, and spread joy is as worthy a goal as I can imagine. Everything else is superfluous.

Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-10-18

"Peace of mind comes from 
not wanting to change others." 

 -- Gerald G Jampolsky, 
from his book, Love Is Letting Go of Fear 

[Classic post from 4-16-14]

Following up with yesterday's post with the video of Oprah and her guest on a show, Gerald Jampolsky, I looked at some of his quotes. The one above jumped off the page at me.

As with yesterday's quote, this one resonates so well with me too. However, I would like to change one word in it so that it resonates even more. Here is the change:

Peace of mind comes from not wanting to change anything. That would include things, circumstances, events, and of course, others, and it would also very blatantly, include ourselves.

Yesterday was about forgiveness, but forgiveness in all its potential glory is a pale shadow to peace of mind. Forgiveness certainly moves us in the direction of peace of mind, and that might help us to see that we not only need to forgive ourselves but to release our desire to change anything. Or, as Eckhart Tolle might say it, to release the past and future and live only in the present.

It's funny, but until tonight, reading this quote by Gerald, it never made more sense that peace of mind would be not having a desire to change anything at all. All that has been was, all that will be will, but all there is that we can have any effect on would only be in this moment.

It's Not Even About Having No Regrets. It Is Much More Of A Release Than That. It's More Like Allowing Fully. 

Spread Some Joy Today--I just did. I hope you feel it!

Monday, July 9, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-9-18

"Forgiveness is 
giving up the hope
that the past 
could be any different." 

-- Oprah Winfrey 

[Classic post from 4-15-14]

I saw a YouTube video today put on one of our clients' blogs by our head blogger, and I had to share it here. It is powerfully true.

Part of the video is from 1990 when the author of Love Is Letting Go Of Fear, Gerald Jampolsky, was explaining to Oprah's audience what he thought forgiveness was. In the quote above, Oprah distilled his explanation into a perfect package, and she talks about how it totally changed her life. Here was his response in the video regarding his definition of forgiveness:

"It really means letting go of the past. It really means letting go of our perception that we need to hold a grievance the rest of our lives. If we really want to hold onto grievances, we'll never really be happy. It's really a willingness to see the person in the light of love rather than in the action that happened. So it's really changing perception, and it really means letting go of the past we thought we wanted, and we can't really change that past, so it means really releasing the negative perception of it and coming back to the present."

On the video posted on YouTube, it states, "After 25 years and more than 30,000 guests, it was one man's definition of forgiveness that changed Oprah's life. Watch Oprah's Aha! moment and listen to her reflect on what it truly means to forgive." Enjoy.

Letting Go Is The Road To Peace. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Do something nice and unexpected for someone today.

Sunday, July 8, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-8-18

"Inside my empty bottle 
I was constructing a lighthouse 
while all the others 
were making ships." 

-- Charles Simic 

[Classic post from 4-13-14]

A lighthouse in a bottle. Interesting. It is amazing the variety of thoughts, ideas, and accomplishments all around us. While we're sowing, some are reaping, while others are irrigating, and the world is eating. Some are venturing out to sea, while others help guide them safely to shore, as others are in the supply chain helping make the voyages possible. Some are building trucks, sell them, while many drive them, work on them, build bodies for them, and in the grand scheme of things, who does not benefit from them?

There are so many perspectives. Try this one: "Won't you come into my garden? I would like my roses to see you." -- Richard Brinsley Sheridan.

We All Play Some Valuable Part In The Whole. 

Spread Some Joy Today--There's only really one way to do this: By being joyous.

Saturday, July 7, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-7-18

"Nature does not hurry, 
yet everything is accomplished." 

-- Lao Tzu 

[Classic post from 4-12-14]

I've been traveling all week here and there talking with clients and one thing has stood out very clearly in my travels. That is that there are a lot of impatient people on the road. It seems that regardless of how much over the speed limit I might be driving, there is someone on my tail, so I pull over in plenty of time to allow them the space they seek.

Does it really matter who gets there first? Or second? Or last? Often the differences are marked in seconds. 

I like how Soren Kierkegaard put this in perspective: "Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it." I sure saw a lot of that this week.

I'm out of practice, but it was interesting to watch.

What's The Real Hurry? Enjoy The Travel And The Time With Your Thoughts. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Let everyone do as they will in whatever way they choose, while you may choose your own peace and joy.

Friday, July 6, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-6-18

"To accuse others 
 for one's own misfortunes
is a sign of want of education. 

To accuse oneself
shows that one's education has begun. 

To accuse neither oneself nor others 
shows that one's education is complete." 

-- Epictetus, 55-135 AD 

[Classic post from 4-11-14]

It seems logical and appropriate to see external circumstances, happenstance, and unwelcome personal influence as a cause for our own condition. Somehow we think that it helps us to understand the world around and within us, and we may think that it will cause us to feel better about our place and person.

Instead, as is my own experience, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, a habitual ritual of denial and blame, and does nothing to help us understand or feel better.

The attempted solution has been used in reverse. If, on the other hand, we tune into the emotion as a guidance tool, and at the same time, have a desire to feel good, we can then find small ways to feel better, and better yet as a method of change and improvement.

This solution will naturally cause us to look at everything around us and within us differently.

I Have Only One Real Goal: Joy. In This Endeavor, I Am In Total Control. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by helping someone else along their way.

Thursday, July 5, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-5-18

"It's never too late 
to be what you might have been." 

 -- George Eliot 

[Classic post from 4-10-14]

Mahatma Gandhi said it so well when he said to make a decision, and take action, and "be the change that you wish to see in the world."

When I was a kid we used to say, "wishes are for fishes." I'm not clear where that came from, but I think I get the point that being busy isn't enough of an excuse. The real problem isn't the doing of the deed, but the desire to do the deed.

When people have a desire to achieve something, they just seem to find a way to make it happen. Everyone else either doesn't give it any attention, or they make a bunch of excuses that they think will sound good and important to someone else.

There are two decent options left. One is to realize that "it is never too late to be what you might have been," and get off the excuse-0-round by making a decision and making some moves. And, two, develop the desire to change by creating reasons and benefits that surround the change, helping it to become more of a priority.

Oops. There is one more. Forget all about it, refuse to participate or discuss it any further.

"Do, Or Do Not. There Is No Try." -- Yoda 

Spread Some Joy Today--Let go of the excuses, the overwhelm, and the guilt. Just say no. Or. . . just say yes! Whichever holds joy is the perfect decision!

Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-4-18

"Once you make a decision, 
the universe conspires 
to make it happen." 

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson 

[Classic post from 4-8-14]

I have come to understand this quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, and believe it as well; however, I will need to add something to the quote for practical purposes. The philosophy is good, yet allowing the universe to complete the task is a challenge with so many of us.

The key is, after the decision, to stay with the decision, and allow it to unfold without mucking it up with input from all that is around us, people who challenge the incorrectness, or impossibility of our decision and so on. 

There are few things as powerful as a decision. It is freeing. It puts thoughts in motion. It attracts the most powerful forces known. If known, it can also attract critics.

It is best to stay with the decision and learn to think of it often, and most importantly, to ENJOY the unfolding of it like a child opening that box with the pretty ribbons under the Christmas tree.

There Is None As Wise As Your Own Counsel. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by sharing yourself with others today. You are highly valued.

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-3-18

"Have patience with all things, 
But, first of all with yourself." 

-- Saint Francis de Sales 

[Classic post from 4-6-14]

I was thinking about patience and how I've made such wonderful progress learning to have and practice patience with other people and events, and I often forget to do the same with myself.

As I thought briefly about that, I have made some progress, and I want to have more. On March 3, 2014, I added what I think is a great definition of patience. Here it is again: "Patience isn't tolerating, putting up with. It is allowing things, or situations, or people, to be as they are, without any insistence that they be anything else." This applies as much to me as it would to anything or anyone else.

Here are some questions. Do you accept yourself the way you are? Where you are in your life? What you have in your life? Where you're heading? Or, do you quietly pick at yourself for things that you "should" change, do, do over, do better? Ever make a so-called bad decision that continues to have effects on your today's and tomorrows? Ever eat that glorious fattening stuff and then beat yourself up for enjoying it? Choosing it? Failing to make a better, more healthy choice?

I think patience begins with accepting what is. I love how Eckhart Tolle puts it in perspective when he said, "The moment that judgment stops through acceptance of what it is, you are free of the mind. You have made room for love, for joy, for peace."

Take A Deep Breath. Say, Ahhhhhhhhhhhh. . . 

Spread Some Joy Today--"In today's rush we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just Being." -- Eckhart Tolle

Monday, July 2, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-2-18

"If I had asked people what they wanted, 
they would have said, 
faster horses." 

 -- Henry Ford 

[Classic post from 3-9-14]

I watched a Ted Talk--this one is TedEd or Ted Education. I absolutely love Ted talks and our company shares a lot of them on our client's blogs and social media. When I first found out about Ted, I was amazed and now that it has morphed into TedX, TedED, TedMed, and others, and has expanded all around the world in many different languages, I am even more amazed at what the Ted Curator, Chris Anderson has done with this idea of having important talks on prime subjects. It used to be almost secret and now is a worldwide phenomenon.

Today, I want to share a short talk (most are 18 minutes, this one is just over 6), by a young man named Henry Lin. I think you might find it fascinating as I did, but what really caught my attention was a quote from him at the end. I thought it was appropriate enough for so many parts of our lives. I give it to you here:

"Innovation, ingenuity, inspiration. 
 These things come when 
we broaden our field of vision; 
when we step back; 
when we zoom out."

-- Henry Lin 

Zoom Out? Sounds Like A Great Idea! 

Spread Some Joy Today--Tell someone you love them today. Especially, someone, you don't normally say that to. Extra love is a good thing.

Sunday, July 1, 2018

Daily Inspiration 7-1-18

"The root of joy is gratefulness. . . 
It is not joy that makes us grateful;
 it is gratitude that makes us joyful."

 -- David Steindl-Rast 

[Classic post from 3-5-14]

I try to be observant. I was in a favorite grocery store today pushing a cart around. I had a small number of things I wanted to get, but I just wasn't into it. Do you know what I mean? I parked and walked in, pushed the cart around the store, but nothing went in my cart. I was trying to think of something that would please me for dinner, but it just wasn't coming.

So, I looked at my empty cart, thought of several things I was truly grateful for and instantly I began to smile. Not just a smile, but one of those smiles that others can't help noticing. As I was taking the cart back to the front of the store where they are parked, a beautiful woman was pushing her cart toward me and then I glanced at her with that fully-grateful smile on my face and she lit up. It is amazing what the power of a sincere and grateful smile will have on another human.

As I noticed this, I continued to watch all the people in my path on the way to my car. It had the same effect on them. I thought, wow! how interesting this is. Just think if I was like that all the time!

How Hard Is Gratitude For You? My Goal Is To Be Joyful Every Single Day--For At Least A Portion Of The Day, However Brief It May Be. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Gratitude is the way. What are you thankful for?

Saturday, June 30, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-30-18

"If you fight for your limitations
you get to keep them. . . 
I promise you, 
you lift your head up, 
take a breath, 
there's a lot of great possibilities out there." 

 -- Billy McMahon, played by Vince Vaughn 
in the movie, The Internship 

[Classic post from 3-3-14]

Though I have found many lessons and inspiration from this movie, this will be the last post in this short series. And, I'll end it on the inspirational note of a promising future.

Billy and the team are talking with a pizza shop owner who is total old-school in his thinking and claiming he's happy with what he has, yet it is true that what he's been doing is just the same while the world is changing all around him. His son sees that and is happy to have the help of trying to change his dad's mind about the potential greater future of their enterprise. Billy is giving his sale-closing line in the quote above.

I've always had this analogy in my head about keeping your eyes on the horizon instead of the cracks in the sidewalk. Must have come from my home-made skateboarding days. And, it makes sense in that when we are watching the cracks in the sidewalk; e.g., watching for danger, guarding the gate, concerned about too many things, we are more likely to have a tumble, falter, fail, and have troubles. As we bring our heads up and focus on the larger picture so that we can see better where we are going, a lot of the details have a tendency to take care of themselves. This is true in our businesses, our jobs, and our personal lives.

When we spell out the things that we are allowing to hold us back, no matter how "legitimate" they are based on popular consumption or mass communications, we will often find ourselves fighting for our limitations. To me, this is, again, so much like watching the cracks in the sidewalk. As we lift our heads, and our hearts in focusing on the larger picture, so many more possibilities can be seen and considered. Not only that, but in doing so, we open ourselves up to change, when before we could not consider that option.

Change Is Not To Be Feared. It Is To Be Embraced. Life IS Change. Change Is Living. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by being the change you seek in yourself.

Friday, June 29, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-29-18

"For whatever it's worth, 
your imagination is so wild, 
reality's gonna be a breeze, 
if not a letdown." 

 -- Nick Campbell played by Owen Wilson 
in the movie, The Internship 

[Classic post from 3-2-14]

Nick said this quote above to Neha, the young female intern who talks and acts like she has done so much for her young age, yet she admits to Nick, "I've only read about this stuff, okay?" She said she talks a good game, but hasn't actually done anything. She's just imagined it. So Nick says, "For whatever it's worth, your imagination is so wild, reality's gonna be a breeze, if not a letdown."

Consider this statement by Abraham and Esther Hicks from a workshop recorded in Houston, Texas: "We're going to give you a very powerful statement: Everything that you will someday live, in terms of life experience--and by some day, we mean as soon as right now, tomorrow, the next day, or someday--anything that you will someday live, you have first imagined. Because nothing will manifest in your experience without the imagination process happening first."

Albert Einstein said, "Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand."

I like what Pablo Picasso said about imagination: "There are painters who transform the sun to a yellow spot, but there are others who with the help of their art and their intelligence, transform a yellow spot into the sun"

Considering how stuck Nick and Billy seemed to be in their lifestyles and struggles, it was their ability and willingness to imagine that allowed them to inspire their much younger team and at the same time, become leaders instead of just doers. They understood that they could choose, then imagine it into reality.

Just Imagine It--Whatever "It" Is To You. Give It The Energy It Deserves.

Spread Some Joy Today--Inspire someone.

Thursday, June 28, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-28-18

"The future doesn't know later." 

 -- Billy McMahon, played by Vince Vaughn 
in the movie, The Internship 

[Classic post from 3-1-14]

In the movie, The Internship, Billy, and his friend Nick have lost their jobs and Nick gets a lousy go-nowhere job while Billy is seeking a transformation instead of another dead-end job. Billy's trying to convince Nick to go with him to take a shot at an Internship at Google, so Billy says, "It's our future." Nick says he's got this job and it will have to wait, and Billy says this great line, "the future doesn't know later." Nick says, "the future is later--it's nothing but later." But, is it? Is it really?

I heard this saying about a salesman: "He had twenty years experience--one year, repeated twenty times." Not much of a future there, is there? For this person, the future is nothing but later. And, yet, it isn't, is it?

The future is actually now because what is being done now is carving out the future, dictating the future, creating the future. Even in the case of the 20-year salesman, the future is being created, or maybe a better way to say it, in this case, is recreating the present over and over again. Or, doing nothing to grow.

Living in the now is perfect. I agree with that totally. The more I live in the present now, the better I feel. The better I feel, the better my life works. The better my now is, or today is, the better my future is because I am creating it right now today.

The Future Doesn't Know Later. Indeed. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by doing what pleases you. If it pleases you, it cannot fail to please others.

Wednesday, June 27, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-27-18

"You're too young 
to be so cynical." 

 -- Nick Campbell, played by Owen Wilson 
in the movie, The Internship 

[Classic post from 2-28-14]

Yeah! Cynicism should be an old-age disease, not available for young people, don't you think? Yet, maybe you've heard young people express this attitude in your presence. Truly, it isn't an age thing, but a choice in thinking--often a choice based on perceived reality all around them.

I am going to write several posts about the things that I have learned, or have been expressed so nicely by this wonderful movie called The Internship. As a sales manager for over 40 years, it is especially interesting and there are many lessons in this flick about sales, business, teams, psychology, turning things around and much more. So, I begin with this great comment from Nick.

It's easy to be cynical. It is encouraged all day every day by the media and the so-called reality all around us. I mean, the shit is hitting the fan and it is just a matter of how close you are to the fan, right? It's affecting everyone, right? It is the way it is, right? We got statistics to back it up, you know? You gotta pay attention to it and be real by living in the real world and none of that fantasy stuff, ya hear?

OK. That's a way. But, is it working for anyone? Probably not. It's not meant to. It's meant not to. It's like walking into a lighted room and turning on the dark switch.

In the case of the movie, a couple of older guys find a way to give some hope and a more positive outlook on the present and future which changes the results. Yet, it need not be older age, but there is value in looking for more hope; for looking for more love; for looking for a better answer; for looking for a way around or through. It has to start there. There must be at least an interest in considering something better. Cynicism is meant to be temporary, I think. Not permanent.

Hope Is A Universal Language. Reach Out. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Elvis Presley said it nicely: "When things go wrong, don't go with them."

Tuesday, June 26, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-26-18

"Grace needs you 
as much as you need it." 

 -- Alan Cohen 

[Classic post from 2-26-14]

Isn't this an interesting concept? Grace needs you as much as you need Grace. I saw another quote from my favorite mentors of all my time, Abraham, and Esther Hicks: "You might say, "How do I know if I'm in a receiving mode or not?" And we say, you always feel good when you're in a receiving mode. When someone offers you a compliment, do you receive it, or do you sort of just shrug it off? There's something about believing that you must justify your existence through your effort or through your perseverance, through your struggle. And many of you just have not practiced the receiving mode."

Practicing the receiving mode. . . There is a lot said in that short phrase. How many of us practice that? I know more of us practice giving compliments more than accepting them, giving things rather than receiving them, and so on. I know I was brought up with the noble notion that to give is better than to receive. In my lifetime-learned wisdom, I now see them as equal rather than one better or more important than another. Grace needs you as much as you need it. Receiving needs you as much as you need it. Giving needs you as much as you need it.

Something To Ponder Sincerely. . . 

Spread Some Joy Today--by allowing joy to be a part of your life. I know spreading it is good, but receiving is just as good. I think it is even best, to begin with, that aspect.

Monday, June 25, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-25-18

"Remain established in your calm center, 
and everything will take care of itself 
in miraculous ways far more wonderful 
than you could manipulate." 

 -- Alan Cohen 

[Classic post from 2-27-14]

People can be worried all around you. They can speculate on all the things that could go wrong. They can try to get an "agreement rant" going counting on like-minded people to bolster their position. Yet, if you as only one, will remain in your natural calm center, everything will take care of itself and may even surprise in delight at how that may come to fruition.

It is an amazing thing to operate from this calm center place. It is magical. It feels good inside and it feels good on the outside. It is power and authority without the ego labeling. It is peace and prosperity for everything is already done.

One last thing on this. It is not serious, or stubborn. It is joyful inside and out. The joy comes mainly, I think, as a result of the peaceful feeling surrounding it. It is pure and very interesting enjoyment.

Relax. Let Go. Smile. Reassure Others. It's All Okay. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by loving yourself wherever you find yourself. Enjoy it.

Sunday, June 24, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-24-18

"If we counted our blessings 
instead of our money, 
we would all be rich." 

 -- Linda Poindexter 

[Classic post from 2-23-14]

Consider this quote from Alan Cohen: "To recognize that you are bigger than any label you have been given is one of the greatest insights of a lifetime." Money is one of those labels, and often we may give some of the labels in our lives far more importance than they really deserve.

He goes on to explain, "Take some time today to consider all of the limiting attributes you usually identify with: your name, age, address, job, income, house, friends, ethnic background, skin color, genetic makeup, religion, political views, and on and on." This is just a very basic list of which another hundred could be added.

How about adding some of these: creator, enjoyer, living-in-the-moment, grateful for all that comes however it comes, lover, encourager, uplifter, lifelong learner, compassionate, respectful, allower, and blessing counter. I like these much better myself.

Becoming a blessing counter is a great place to start. Indeed, as we count our blessings, we are all rich. What a great thing to count, should we need to count anything at all.

One, Two, Three, Six, Ten, Twenty, Forty-Five. . . 

Spread Some Joy Today--Can you think of a better way to expand your own joy than focusing on all of your many blessings? Once there, sharing is totally natural.

Saturday, June 23, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-23-18

"You just never know who in the crowd, 
standing beside you in line 
or passing you in the street, 
might be raised in spirit, 
or even lifted from despair, 
by the kindness in your glance 
or the comfort of your smile." 

 "But they may never forget." 

 -- The Universe, a.k.a., Mike Dooley 

[Classic post from 2-21-14]

I have subscribed to Notes from the Universe from tut.com for a long time now, and some of these are so timely and I save the ones that sparkle in my spirit so that I can share its message with a mix of my own. This one is perfect to share today.

I would add to this quote by my friend and mentor, Mike Dooley, that not just a glance or a smile, and not just in person, but via phone, text, email, or any other communication that can touch another is equally good.

I have learned that when I think I want to call someone and give them a bit of love, I need to do it right now. You just never know what they are going through at that moment and the fact that they are on your mind is an indication to reach out. And, that door swings both ways.

I had two special phone calls today. One from a client and friend and the other from my business partner. They each made my day. The first was early this morning. I was up at 5:30am and this call came at 7:00am. He said he wanted to hear my voice and get charged up, but little did he know that the opposite happened. I was charged, he was charged up and it only cost us both a few minutes of fun talking. Thanks, Gary!

Then, later I was driving to take something to a client about 70 miles away and my business partner called me to say how much he enjoyed an email I sent to another client telling them what we've done so far. I don't think he has ever done that before, but this time he was so upbeat and complimentary and I felt like I was driving on air. Thanks, Ryan!

Many times I reach out and touch someone, smile at someone, engage in light conversation with a stranger and who the heck knows what comes of that, but the lesson is how we feel not them. If it makes us feel good--really good, there is a very good possibility that they may feel even better.

I love how Mike Dooley says that they may be "raised in spirit, or even lifted from despair." People deal with all sorts of issues. Some of them may weigh heavily on them, and the light touch we may give them, or the encouraging words, loving smile might just take them away from their troubles for even a brief moment. Maybe just long enough to remember that whatever they are dealing with is far larger in their mind than it is in reality.

Reach Out And Touch Someone! You Never Know Who You May Be An Uplifter To. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by paying attention to your inner voice suggesting to you people to share your joy with--or even allow them to give you joy! It's a two-way street.

Friday, June 22, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-22-18

"The problem with taking offense 
is that it's really hard 
 to figure out 
what to do with it
after you're done using it. 

 Better to just leave it
on the table
and walk away. 
Umbrage untaken 
quietly disappears." 

 -- Seth Godin 

[Classic post from 2-22-14]

I saw this quote from Seth Godin this morning and I was amazed at how it hit me. I absolutely agree and I particularly love the line, ". . . what to do with it after you're done using it." We all must realize how true that is. We do use it. We take offense and then we make a case about it. We use it. We make it more than it could have ever been. But, after making such a big deal out of it, what do we do with it then? Does it just go away? Or does it linger? Does it become part of our psyche? Or, are we able to let loose of it completely after we've done the deed with it?

Based on my own experience, it never seems to go away entirely until and if we come to the point that we stop taking offense. When we allow instead, we have hope.

Besides, the whole idea of things that off-end-us means that we let a thought take control of our lives. It takes on a power of its own. It gets us off-kilter--off our mark. It takes us off where we want to be.

Maybe it's time to find things that on-end-us. Things that inspire, enlighten, enliven us. Perhaps it's time to let go of the idea of what might be wrong and consider all that is right. Maybe it's time to align with the flow of the river of life rather than swim upstream against the current.

Or Not. . . 

Spread Some Joy Today--because, after all, it is a personal choice. Why in the world would anyone choose not joy? Only those who know no joy. Share it so they know it.

Thursday, June 21, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-21-18

"You can't teach an old dog new tricks." 

 -- Common phrase 

[Classic post from 2-20-14]

I was talking with a sales manager friend today about a sales team that has some old dogs on it. In fact, they are past typical retirement age. We were talking about training and the company was hoping to get them to become motivated.

I started my sales management career with old dogs. In fact, I had just turned 25, and the youngest on my sales staff was 36 and the oldest was 64. Then along the way on my travels, I found other old dogs on the staff that I inherited, and I learned a lot about old dogs, motivation, and performance.

Here are some things I've learned about this subject:

Old dogs can learn new tricks. The key ingredient here is not capability or capacity, but desire. If they want to learn new tricks, they will learn as fast as any other age, although on certain things such as current technology they may be behind the curve a bit, but they will make up for it in the long run.

Trying to motivate old dogs or anyone else for that matter, is a waste of valuable time and energy. The only motivation that holds any value besides a short burst from fear is self-motivation. Motivation comes from within, not from without. I learned this valuable lesson early in my sales management career, and though I may have had temporary amnesia from time to time, I came to my senses soon enough. Any motivation that will be helpful will come from desire, not fear.

Old dogs will test the new guy in charge until they arrive at mutual respect and trust. I got better with the old dogs when I didn't try to force feed them but developed a respect for the value they brought to the table, and the experience compounded over time.

Old dogs can be your best advocate. In time and with some of the above, old dogs can be your best advocate and help bring along others to the overall goal.

The new broom sweeps the cleanest. I never much liked this phrase which I learned from the wise old first dealer I worked for, but there is more than some truth to the phrase. There comes a time when if we are to move ahead at a reasonable pace, we need to lighten our load from the dead weight of people who refuse or are otherwise unwilling to change.

Holding on to people who are dragging the rest of the team or the organization down is counterproductive. Sure, they make some sales and have a bunch of accounts, but everyone is dying because there are so few new ones. Growth is life. Life is growth. We, our team, or our organization is growing or it is not. When it is not, this is a clue. Perhaps it is time for a change. I have been here and once we finally decide to pull the trigger, there seems to be a release of energy that feeds everyone positively, including the one who is leaving, because it is not doing them any good staying around either.

Some Old Dogs Never Quit Growing Until They Fall Over Dead. That's My Personal Plan!

Spread Some Joy Today--Are you growing? Are you having more joy in your life than before? It's okay to ask for more! There is a never-ending supply.

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-20-18

"You are the only one 
 who creates in your experience--no one else. 
Everything that comes to you
comes by the power of your thought. 
If there are changes you would like to make,
 it will be of great value 
to begin telling a different story-- 
not only about your body, 
 but about all subjects 
 that have been troubling to you." 

 -- Abraham & Esther Hicks 

[Classic post from 2-4-14]

This post is about self-talk mainly and how the only way to make changes you would like to make is to tell a different story in your head and to others too. It is so a part of becoming a grateful person. I'll give you a couple examples.

Since my wife died just less than 6 months ago, I've been living a lot of memories in my head and in my sight too. I've gone through thousands of photographs, chosen a strong number of them and have pasted them on my cabinets in my office. It has been all part of coming to terms with the last few years of our lives together. I remember similar situations in the past whenever there was a change from something that has been for a good period of time.

There was a tendency for me to think of things I should have or could have done to make things better. What could I have done differently that would have changed things? You probably know the drill. It's not feeling sorry for myself, but thinking that somehow I wasn't enough.

So, I began telling a different story on purpose. I began thinking how good a husband and provider I was. I began thinking about all the good things I did; the positive things; the important things. I began talking this out as if I were talking to her about how I did this and that and how much this meant to me and that and so on. It was perfect and it turned me around toward such gratitude--not only more gratitude for her and all that she brought to the relationship but gratitude for all that I did as well. When I might think of something she was upset, angry or unhappy with about me or something I did or failed to do, I would mentally speak back of what I did do and that I did what I knew and was capable of and so on. In other words, I rejected the idea that I had failed in any way.

It's about experience. We can't grow forward ten years and then take that wisdom back in time with us to make better decisions. It was what it was. If we are doing the best we can with what we have to work with, then that is exactly what it was. What I would do today is of zero importance. It is not possible to merge the two, but what I can do is praise her for her choices and me for mine. I can see the love that was the foundation under it all. And, last, I am the only one in charge of me and I can choose to change, grow, become a grateful person even if she may have chosen otherwise.

These kinds of things happen not just with losses of loved ones but in business with old bosses, old friends that may not be in favor today and so on.

The tendency was for me to find myself blameless by affixing blame on my boss, my wife or some other person. My self-talk was always justifying what I did or didn't do and how the other parties were the ones to blame for anything off kilter. Now, my self-talk is finding what they did right and well and how much I appreciated them for all that they brought, and equally important, that I appreciated myself in the same way. I began seeing scenarios working perfectly instead of previously being problems or ugly situations. As I focused on appreciation and gratitude, all the other things faded away.

In this process, I have found more love and respect and admiration for Nancy and for the other important people in my life. I have at the same time found love enough for me to be enough.

Gratitude Changes Everything. It May Require Practice. No. It Does Require Practice. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by changing your self-talk to appreciate yourself and all those on your path.

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-19-18

"I have never let my schooling 
interfere with my education." 

 -- Mark Twain 

[Classic post from 2-9-14]

And, neither have I.

Here's To All The Life-Long Learners Out There! 

Spread Some Joy Today--Have a wonderful time today. On purpose!

Monday, June 18, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-18-18

"Wherever you are, is just fine. . . 
You can get to wherever you want to be
from wherever you are. . . 
It's time to stop measuring where you are
in relationship to where anybody else is. 
The only factor that has anything to do with you 
is where you are in relationship
with where you want to be." 

 -- Abraham, Esther Hicks 

[Classic post from 1-12-14]

After I read this again today, it struck me that I have arrived at being okay with where I am and who I am. In looking back, I can see that I was always not enough. I didn't measure up to the people I put on pedestals. Oh, I was successful enough I guess, but never made it the way I wanted to--or thought I wanted to. It was always going to be better tomorrow somehow. It was in the future.

Now in reading this again, it is some of the best advice I can think of. Fully accepting where we are and realizing that wherever we want to go we can get there from here is profound and peaceful. It is not giving up on goals or desires. Frankly, it has been my own personal experience that in lightening up, the desires show themselves more clearly and I can achieve them with far less stress than I used to put myself and my family through.

Another way to say it is to make peace with where we are. Allow it to be. Allow ourselves to taste it right now, and feel the presence of that peace that comes from a certain contentment, however temporary.

One of the best ways to say it is that we are enough. We have enough. We are enough. Having more is okay. Yet, right now it's all good.

The Horizon Is Much Brighter From Here. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Love yourself, what you have, and where you are in your life travels.

Sunday, June 17, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-17-18

"It makes no sense to worry about 
 things you have no control over
because there's nothing you can do about them, 
and why worry about things you do control? 
The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized." 

 -- Wayne Dyer 

[Classic post from 1-22-14]

Here's another quote to go along nicely with this great quote from Wayne Dyer by Esther Hicks and Abraham: "Hard work is not the path to Well-Being. Feeling good is the path to Well-Being. You don't create through action; you create through vibration. And then, your vibration calls action from you."

I think that many times we worry because we feel that we should be doing something and though we cannot actually do something at the moment, we worry about it which indicates we are giving it importance and that helps us to feel as if we actually are doing something about the problem. But the reality is often that we only perpetuate the problem and/or increase the size or importance of it in our lives.

In considering this topic, I have gone backward in time to many of the times I was worrying--even worrying with great stress, and I cannot think of one single time where the act of worrying did anything at all to improve the situation.

The hard work of worrying (and we all must know it is hard work), is not the path to Well-Being or the solution even. Feeling good is the path. From that vantage point, any action we are inspired to take will work perfectly.

By Choosing Good Feeling Thoughts, We Clear The Path To Our Well-Being. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Let go of the rope. Love yourself enough to do so.

Saturday, June 16, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-16-18

"Complacency accepts what's 
 not working as a fact of life. 
Contentment accepts what is 
working as your natural condition." 

 -- Alan Cohen 

[Classic post from 1-23-14]

Alan has a great way to compare and explain complacency and the alternative of contentment. I had never thought about it quite like this, but I just love how he states that "complacency accepts what's not working as a fact of life." I had always thought about complacency as not giving a damn, giving up on it, resigning the effort and so on, but acceptance was not a word I would have thought of. Yet, this is a perfect way to see what complacency is and how insidious it can be.

At the same time, I love how he reflects on "contentment accepts what IS working as your natural condition." I've always thought of contentment as in being with peace, accepting what is as being good, even considering I might have thought otherwise in a different time and space. Yet, accepting what is working is a wonderful way to see contentment, and to accept it as a natural condition of my life is peace in and of itself.

Maybe this quote just caught me on a strange day, or maybe you may have had similar thoughts to mine and now are changed as I am.

There Are So Many Ways To Say A Thing, And Sometimes It Jumps Out And Sometimes I'm Asleep. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by seeking things to appreciate all around you. There are so many--too many to number.

Friday, June 15, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-15-18

"Once we're thrown off our habitual paths, 
we think all is lost, but it's only here 
that the new and the good begins." 

 -- Leo Tolstoy 

[Classic post from 1-27-14]

Getting us off our habitual paths can come in a wide variety of methods. It might be losing a job, a loved one, an expected promotion, or other loss. It might come from a decision to change. Perhaps it might even be being sick and tired of something or some situation, or maybe even as some have said, sick and tired of being sick and tired. In all of these cases and thousands more, one thing is universal, and that is that a change has taken place. It might be a change of attitude, or an emotional response, or something physical. In all cases, there seems to be a decision and change, even when those things seem to have been done for us.

I have had so many of these situations over the years and some were rather traumatic, to say the least, but one thing has changed most recently in me about these, and that is that I do my best to remember to welcome them. I don't always remember right away. Sometimes it might take me a short bit of time to remember, but I am remembering and accepting these events as if I chose them on purpose.

I can state that this attitude is much preferred in how I feel about change. I now try to assume that everything is working out perfectly even when it doesn't appear that I chose it on purpose.

Sometimes things seem to happen to us, but I have come to believe that this is just the way it is packaged. And, it really doesn't matter how it comes to us, it only matters how we respond to it. We ultimately have all the choice in this aspect.

Habit is comforting, and change is often unsettling, yet change is inevitable. Better to welcome it with open arms as if it is the flow of good to you than to struggle and question it. Learning to go with the flow is a process that carries huge benefit.

I May Not Always Be Ready (Or So It Seems), But, Now I Am Willing. It Is Infinitely More Fun Too. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Try to connect with someone you've been thinking of.

Thursday, June 14, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-14-18

"Never underestimate your power 
to change yourself; 
never overestimate your power 
to change others."

-- Wayne Dyer 

[Classic post from 8-28-14]

I was talking with someone on the phone today and we had a lot in common, and it was suggested that I might talk to a friend of his to share some of my philosophy and help convince them to change their ways.

It has taken me most of my life to finally figure out the fantasy in this scenario. I have learned after trying so hard and in so many ways that it is virtually impossible to change someone else to our way of thinking. . . unless. . . and this is a very big UNLESS, they are seeking that change for themselves. Generally what will happen without their seeking will be to cause the other to put their guard up, pick up the rope and fight against all foes. In other words, any attempt is more likely to cause a deepening of their current position rather than us thinking there will be some kind of conversion.

I have a lot of opinions as we all do. Yet on topics that are controversial no matter what country you're in, I keep it to myself unless, and only unless, I am asked specific questions demonstrating at least on the surface that that person is seeking. Then, I will share my point of view, otherwise, it will amount to nothing.

Somehow we think that in relationships, including marriage, that we need to think alike. That's garbage. Have things in common? That can be helpful, but believe all the same things? Garbage. It's even a waste of time to consider that fantasy. Knowing what I know now, I can see how one spouse may agree on the surface, and yet withhold the true feelings for the sake of superficial harmony. It's okay. It's better to accept that we can disagree and still live in harmony, because we can, and we must because no two of us will ever think exactly alike.

If you're trying to convince another, it is better to allow them to change themselves. Take your time. Let it be. It's okay. Even different religions can get along nicely while holding different views, yet allowing some similarities to bring us partially together. It is much more beneficial than thinking we may convert them without their full and complete permission and agreement.

We Have More Than Plenty To Focus On Just Dealing Effectively With Ourselves. 

Spread Some Joy Today--Bang a gong, get it on! Or, what the heck, just enjoy your day as fully as you can today. That's all that really matters.

Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Daily Inspiration 6-13-18

"What you get 
is what you choose to see." 

-- Albert K Strong 

[Classic post from 8-3-14]

The whole idea of right and wrong has created unlimited fantasies. It also seems that it is like human nature to focus on what is wrong in a misguided attempt to make it right somehow. Another fantasy. Carl Jung put it so well a long time ago when he said, "what you resist persists." The harder we push against something, the larger it becomes. The more we fight something, the stronger it becomes. There is no percentage of success in pushing against or fighting anything in the hopes of making it something we do want instead of something we don't want.

Fighting cancer is made to sound like a fight worth fighting, yet cancer is now one of the largest enterprises in the history of the world. Billions of dollars are involved. Wars have been fought since the dawn of time and somehow we fantasize that "right" won out over "wrong," or good over evil and so on. George Bernard Shaw put it well by saying, "war does not decide who is right but who is left." The war against drugs has actually increased drugs, rather than decreasing it. In fact, there are so many laws against things that have just made them more.

None of these attempted remedies work and will never work because they are pointed in the opposite direction. They are focused on what is not wanted instead of simply turning and focusing on what is wanted instead. Cancer is not cured by fighting it, promoting it, studying it. Cancer is cured by focusing on health, not the illness. We don't win wars by having bigger and better weapons of mass destruction. There are no winners in war. All are winners in peace.

The other thing to remember, or realize is that there are certain benefits to fighting against things. Most of those benefits are economically focused. If there were no benefits, there would be nothing to fight over.

In any case, it is never what is outside, but what is inside that counts. It doesn't matter what we may perceive others doing to us, or circumstances or things happening to us or catching or contracting this or that, and it doesn't matter who's fault it is because blame is also on the outside. What matters is only how we think about those things and then choose to believe or do by what we choose to focus on.

In my own life, like most others probably, I have found it so much easier to find fault, persecute and inflict who is wrong, speak about eradicating all the evils in the world, and generally becoming more aware and spreading awareness about things we don't really want. I've often grown weary of pushing against things and especially noticing what is not right, or not right yet. With this attitude, it seemed like it never would get right.

Now, I am turning. I have been playing with turning for some time now and have been practicing it, wanting it to become natural in me. It's not how I was taught, but it is what I have now learned, and it feels so much better. The value of my emotions is telling me in which direction I am focused. This helps me to realize I am in total control of my choices of focus. I am now regularly making better choices for me. I will let the rest of the world do as they please.

It's Not Hocus-Pocus. It's Focus-Focus. 

Spread Some Joy Today--by focusing on what you want rather than what you do not want.