"Engage your mind
before you open your mouth."
-- A phrase I heard often as a youngster
from my Step-Dad
Warning! Warning! Automatic Habitual Pattern Mode is engaged! Well, wouldn't that be nice to hear and get us back on track. We all know that the automatic habitual pattern mode is real, and sadly, often prevalent in our lives. Well, I can't speak for any other than myself, so I'll just say, it has been prevalent in mine.
Yesterday there were at least two warnings that I actually heard. I'm so grateful that I am now hearing them as actual warnings. In the past, I would go on oblivious to the damage being done.
When talking with another person, keeping the subject joyful and upbeat is a good thing, and yet often we may either bring up a negative subject, or join in with our own quips when they do. And, I'm so thankful that in both cases yesterday, I stopped rather quickly, and turned toward better feeling conversation.
One was with a client and I brought up something about a mutual client and whether or not she was paid for her work yet. I found myself getting into more than just that aspect until I heard the warning, and then turned away. I was a little slow on the take, because I'm new to the warnings, but I'm delighted to have them keep me in the light instead of floundering in the darkness.
The other was my business partner discussing veterinarians and how they love tests, and raising the average financial return on each animal they see. Then there was a brief bit about an authority that was being less than cooperative. Since this was not very long after my first warning I just shared, I suggested to him that we find gratitude for all that instead. Let us be thankful, find things to praise and feel good about, that all this about gratitude is real and powerful, and we need to focus there. He agreed. The whole tone changed immediately.
We are habitual creatures, and even habitual creators. Sometimes, we're even totally on autopilot--just like so many times I get in my truck turn the corner, then turn another corner and several blocks later, I realize I really wanted to go the other way, but I'm so used to going this way, I just did it unconsciously. Sometimes I've even gone many miles before I realized what I was doing.
Awareness is key. Wanting to feel good is key. Realizing that we are habitual and that we need to practice waking up sometimes when feeling good has gone awry. When discussing something considered or labeled, wrong or unfair or not to our liking, it never feels good. We may even get into it with some enthusiasm, but it doesn't really feel good. Turning toward what we want, would rather have, toward joy, always feels good. It's that conversation that uplifts, energizes, inspires.
It doesn't matter that it is real, or that it happened. There's all kinds of shit happens scenarios available if we want them, but they all feel like. . . well, not good. Finding something in that subject to feel good about changes everything about the conversation, the result, the day we're having, the life we are choosing to live.
Habitual Pattern Mode Is Disengaged. Awareness And Desire To Feel Good Is Now Fully Engaged.
Spread Some Joy Today--by going through the day awake and alive.