"Real love is unconditional love."
-- David R. Hawkins
David continues, "Unconditional love is a decision we make within ourselves. The process is one of intention and the decision to be a loving person. If I decide to love you, that is my inner decision. There is nothing the other person can do about it."
It amazes me how I continue to learn and grow. Sometimes new insights, or I might call them, clarifications, come to me at odd times. I might be saying something and hearing what I'm saying in a different way as if some of those things I'm saying are speaking back to me. This also happens when I am listening to another, or watching the birds in the courtyard. There is no predictor of the insight. It simply comes. And, I had one of those yesterday about unconditional love.
David R. Hawkins touches on it in another of his quotes: "On the level of acceptance, love is experienced as a stable state, a permanent condition of a relationship. The source of love is seen to be within ourselves, emanating from our own nature and reaching out to include others. In the state of desire, by contrast, we speak of being "in love," as the source of happiness and love is thought to be outside of ourselves."
Although he is comparing our perception of the source of love as being within us or outside of us, it is the first sentence of this quote, or rather, part of it, that resonated with what came to me yesterday. It is this: ". . . acceptance [is] love . . ."
Abraham, Esther Hicks would use the word, allowing, as has Wayne Dyer in his famous definition of unconditional love as, "allowing others to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy us." The key is the allowing part. It is the acceptance. It is accepting. It is not resisting. It is letting go of the rope. It is to "let it be" as The Beatles said so well.
When people are within our expectations, or our own accumulated views of our life, it is easy to accept them. They are 'like' us. We match enough that it is easy to accept them, or to allow them. However, when people are radically different in thought or action, we tend to have a hard time accepting and/or allowing. We have a tendency to exclude them--not so much to shun them, but rather to not allow them into our sphere of how we see our life. We simply don't accept them. They are not 'like' us.
Then there is this thing where the word love is used in so many ways and it becomes hard to understand what it is. This is especially true of unconditional love, or to love without any conditions attached, no prerequisites.
It occurred to me yesterday that acceptance was a great way to see this unconditional love. Acceptance is also interchangeable with allowing. We accept the other. We allow the other. We feel no need to change the other. We are perfect in our difference. We are perfect in whatever sameness there may be. We make no demands. There is no need or desire to be upset in any way for any of the differences regardless of their degree. They are. We are. We are both creations. On the deepest level, we are one. On the shallow level, we may have grand differences. No matter. I am accepting. I am allowing. I am loving.
If you have a mind to, try this for a few days. Begin accepting others on purpose. Allow them to be as they are without feeling any need or desire to have them be anything or any way other than they are. Consider also how people do things. They do them this way, and I do it that way. Accept how they do it. Allow their way to be okay--allow it to be not only okay, but perfect for them. Let them have their way. Let them own it. It's okay for you to own your way, and they to own theirs, and both be accepting and allowing of the other. I predict your love will dramatically expand.
Unconditional Love In Action! What Could Be Better?
Spread Some Joy Today--by allowing your joy to flow where ever it may decide to flow. Find joy also in what you see in others.