"It is very beneficial
and also quite easy
to learn from others
by virtue of their example.
It is far more beneficial;
albeit, often a challenge
to learn from my own example."
-- Albert K. Strong
As we see with our eyes, we are looking at what is in front of us, and if we simply pay attention to what is going on, especially in conversations and interactions with people, we learn by their example. What we learn has to do with what we are seeing. What we are seeing has to do with where we happen to be at the time. It's easy to learn from others if we are open to that idea. Not from their knowledge, but from their actions.
Learning from our own example is a bit more challenging, yet far more beneficial because it is representing an accumulation of our beliefs, attitudes, and knowledge. We often are not paying attention to our own example, but others are--especially children, co-workers, employees. So awareness of the example of others is valuable, and awareness of our own example is paramount.
The last several days and weeks I've been paying much more attention. From all that I have learned from Abraham, Esther Hicks and many others, we often pay so much attention to 'what is,' or what is happening in front of us visually or otherwise, that we get further away from what it is that we want because of our focus on what is, which is more often than not, what we do not want.
Abraham said, "In your action, you lose sight of the vision, you lose sight of your trust in the process, and you just bang around in a sense of futility. Hold the vision and trust that the Universe will acclimate to your vision. Hold the vision and trust the process." They add, "Hard work is not the path to Well-Being. Feeling good is the path to Well-Being. You don't create through action; you create through vibration. And then, your vibration calls action from you."
I've noticed lately certain people around me talking so much about what is, what the problems are, all the roadblocks in the way, uncertain of how their desire will be accomplished in a steadily worsening atmosphere, where they feel somewhat powerless to make it happen as they would like. At every opportunity, they talk about the process they have been going through and all the issues that confront them, and yet, they keep trying.
I'm quite certain that you have heard, and experienced the same kind of thing from certain people in your field of awareness. If we are paying attention, and knowing there is a better, more effective way, we will not participate in these conversations. Yet, we often do. This is where the learning from our own example is more challenging than learning from the examples of others.
Lee Iacocca popularized a management statement: "Lead, follow, or get out of the way." If we are to be a good example to others, we must lead. If we are to be a non-example, we follow, and if we are loving, but uninterested in sharing the pain of others, we can simply and profoundly, get out of the way.
When someone around us is talking incessantly about 'what is,' and by being aware, we can easily see this is not a beneficial thing to them and those around them, the best example we can be is not to spend time or energy discussing 'what is' with them. We can't just start talking positive stuff because they're in a place where that is just an irritation. But what we can do is not participate. As we sit there, we can be sending loving thoughts, seeing them in the place that they want to be, and at the same time, if we are unable to move the subject elsewhere at the moment, we can find a way to get out of the way, excuse ourselves, go somewhere else, and continue our loving thoughts at a distance.
It is so important not to keep discussing the problems and the questions that we don't have answers for. It is all for naught. It has zero value. All that does is keep us focused on what we do not want. If we are to move ourselves, and at least be an influence toward others, we must find ways to feel good by focusing on what is good, what is right, what is valuable, what we want. That will be our example.
My Grandmother Said It So Well When I Was Very Young And It Has Always Applied As An Excellent Example: Count Your Blessings.
Spread Some Joy Today--by your shining example.